Not sure what's wrong with me :(

Elizabeth - posted on 03/16/2011

I feel for you. Being a new mom comes with so many new and exciting feelings and so many new responsibilities and worries. I truly feel you could be experiencing postpartum depression. It shows itself with several different symptoms and is easily remedied in most cases. The one thing I do know ..you NEED to go to speak with the doctor. You will feel so much better.

I wish you the best.

Carolyn - posted on 03/14/2011

Stress can cause a huge drop in libido for many women. And it sounds like you have alot on the go and stress in your life at this point in time. And then when we do not feel the urges to be intimitate, we lay guilt and more stress on ourselves over that aswell.

Motherhood is a huge adjustment in itself, then tack on wedding planning, caring for other children, the stress that can come with nursing, taking courses and then everything else that comes with day to day life, cleaning cooking, and all the small shit. It adds up !

Many women will also experience lack of sex drive for a while after having a baby. your hormones are still out of sorts for as long as a year !

Does your desire to have another baby possibly come from the idea that it will help hold it all together or *fix* things ? take a look at the motivation behind wanting another child so soon, it might give you some insight. You also want to give your body sometime to get back to its usual self. If im not mistaken , it is advised to wait a year ( i think) between pregnancies to avoid issues such as low birth weight etc.

I would suggest talking to a professional , sharing your feelings candidly with your fiancee, and maybe try to lighten your load. If you havent put a deposit on a hall, dj , caterer etc for the wedding, consider postponing or rescheduling to give yourself more time. ( i made all the decorations, food etc my self so i know how difficult and time consuming it is) If postponing the wedding will help save your sanity and your desire to get married, it might be best !

try taking a vitamin B complex which can help with energy levels. I have recently started taking them and am noticing a difference already.

but as for the sex, dont make yourself do anything you are not wanting to do, you wont enjoy it, and chances are your fiance will also pick up on how you are feeling as well. When you do finally find yourself in the mood , have at it !

Tina - posted on 03/14/2011

Please Please go talk to your doctor. I went through a lot of the same thing excluding the relationship part of your story. but put that a side and I felt the same way. It was not until my husband asked for my help one day and I snapped at him and said some very hurtful things. I even tried to leave with my 9 month old. Helps to have keys when trying to drive away mad. (I do not suggest this, it is something that we joke about now 4 years latter.) I had postpartum Depression. Let me tell you it is very hard to deal with and I am now stronger then ever for having been there. You so make sense to me and I am sure others who have been there. The thing I can tell you helped the most was to have support around me whom I could trust and lean on. Have someone who you can talk to about anything and will listen to you cry about the things that don't make sense. find sometime for you and your fiancée, let him know how you are feeling about EVERYTHING. If you need hold off on the wedding for a few months. I would also hold off on having another baby until you can get you taken care of first. just my opinion. I hope that you will go and see someone, By the way you are not weaker in any sense of the word for being checked out, or having to take meds. That was a very hard part for me. If you need someone to talk to request me as a friend I always have an ear for listening if you need. Sorry so long. Good luck to you.

Alicia - posted on 03/13/2011

I have been through something similar but it sounds to me that you may not have had the blues actually sounds like postnatal depression been there done that it can take a while to get past this. My suggestion to you is go and talk to your GP about how your feeling