Jennifer - posted on 06/19/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
Hi ladies...I am looking for some insight.
My son was exclusively bf for about 5.5 months when we started solids. He LOVES solids and I made everything fresh from the start so he is super healthy. By his first birthday 1 month ago, he was eating far more solids than he was nursing, but still nursing in the morning 1st thing, before and after each nap (2 naps) and last thing at night. So 6 times a day, plus anytime he needed "comfort feeds" but that wasn't often.
In the last couple of weeks I have gone from offering it at the regular times to letting him take the lead. I'm not looking to wean, just allow him to be in control of how often he nurses. For a few days he nursed a little less and would go an hour or so after getting up before coming to me. However, he also stopped doing the ASL sign and started pulling on my shirt and crying. This got old fast!
So I started inforcing the ASL sign for milk and he picked it up again really fast and now he signs for milk all the time. ALL THE TIME. He spends most of themornings before his nap nursing until breakfast, then he still wants to nurse 1-2 times before going down. He gets up and within 30 minutes he wants milk. Then he nurses 3-4 times before lunch and again after lunch and then before afternoon nap. In the evening it isn't as bad, but he still comes to me 3-4 times before bed, plus his bedtime feeding.
On the plus side, he seems less attached to nursing right before sleep, as he usually nurses for a minute or two or less then. He also gets morning and afternoon snacks, sippy cups of water and/or juice and has access to the sippy cup all the time.
I'm confused as to whether this is related to letting him control when he nurses, or perhaps re-learning the sign and enjoying the "cause and effect" of it. It's been going on for a week or more and I'm getting a bit exhausted from it and my nipples are sore for the first time in a good year!
I'd love any feedback from mamas who have been through something similar? Thanks ladies!