Nursing and Sex Drive

Brenda - posted on 11/17/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Okay, has anyone experienced a drop in their sex drive while nursing? I mean, like to the point where it is just non existant?

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Kelly - posted on 11/18/2009

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I finally did some research after a few months of having the same issue. Your body is being depleted of all your hormones after you nurse. That's why you feel that exhaustion/relaxed feeling after nursing (or at least I did). Made perfect sense. Just knowing that there was a reason for it made me realize I wasn't some wack job who would never be able to have a sex drive again.

Holly - posted on 11/17/2009

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Yup. I got nothin. I used to do Romance Parties for a living so right now i'm working on trying some different products to jump start me again. My husband has been very patient considering his drive is 24-7. I just don't feel sexy. I'm a mom of 3 and i'm lucky if I get to shower every day. lol My husband works nights and is very helpful when he's available, but it's hard to feel sexy covered in sweat, applesauce and baby spit up.

Minnie - posted on 11/17/2009

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Quoting Marabeth:

i think a lot of it (besides the whole hormonal effect) is that we satisfy our need for affection with our nursing baby. i mean, we are intimately affectionate with someone we love 8-12 times a day! when my husband instigates lovemaking his touch doesn't feel as extreme to me because my needs are being met. i try and get my brain as involved as much as possible. if i start thinking about my husband intimately an hour or so before i instigate something it really helps.. and of course, the glass of wine.



Marabeth, you hit the nail on the head.  It is so true, at least for me, that I satisfy my need for close intimate affection and touching through breastfeeding. I mean, Adelaide is latched onto me at least twice an hour all day long, and several times a night- and I love smelling her hair, her soft baby skin, her warmth...that when my husband wants some I'm all touched out, and I'll be honest he's just not as cuddly and downright amazing as she is!





So yeah. Lol. Wine helps.

Marabeth - posted on 11/17/2009

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i think a lot of it (besides the whole hormonal effect) is that we satisfy our need for affection with our nursing baby. i mean, we are intimately affectionate with someone we love 8-12 times a day! when my husband instigates lovemaking his touch doesn't feel as extreme to me because my needs are being met. i try and get my brain as involved as much as possible. if i start thinking about my husband intimately an hour or so before i instigate something it really helps.. and of course, the glass of wine.

Mariah - posted on 11/17/2009

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Wow, I thought it was just me! I just dont really want to. I feel bad for my hubby, but at least he's not pushy.

Stephanie - posted on 11/17/2009

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I agree with the glass of wine concept. It is probably not that your sex drive is gone, but the fact that you are just not you! You are exhausted, overwhelmed, and a shadow of what you used to be. The glass of wine concept will help you to relax and remember how great it feels to just be! This has to occur without baby and baby resposibilities for just a little bit! Give yourself patience and time, and soon you will be back!

Minnie - posted on 11/17/2009

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Where oh where has my libido goooonnne?



We discovered a glass of wine helps...

Helen - posted on 11/17/2009

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Hiya. My sex drive is gone as well, I think being tired, body image and being in baby mode is more to blame than nursing. Im sorry I have no solution but I do talk to my fiance about it so we are open and aware .

Carla - posted on 11/17/2009

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Yip, mine was totally non existant for the first 5 months. It was a massive effort to force myself the few times that I did (I didnt feel forced by my partner, luckily he is very understanding), Aaron is 5 1/2 months now and my libido is returning.

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