Nursing & Weightloss -not happening!

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I was told that you loose weight when you nurse. I haven't lost any! I'm not going to stop nursing because it's best for my baby. I just want the truth! Why do so many people say you loose weight while nursing? It's just not happening for me.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2011

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Yep - I haven't really lost much either and my daughter is 18 months. I just get sOooo hungry ...

Barbora Milena - posted on 09/06/2010

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hi, my daughter is almost 10 mo and im still bfeeding.. the pregnancy weight fell off me within the 6weeks post partum and now im even thinner than before getting pregnant...i drink a lot, i go for brisk walks with the stroller, going to parks, we like to dance around the house- i carry her and dance with her, thats a good cardio...u dont need to do real exercise like in the gym, just make it part of ur routine with ur baby, go to park, play around, walk, pick her up often, carry her around, choose steps over elevator etc...get a good sleep is also important for weight loss, if u dont sleep enough, ur body stores more fat to get energy from plus when u r tired, u eat more carbs n sugar...nap with ur baby if u dont get 8hrs sleep during the night...and dont stress urself, the weight will come off, just take ur time

Charlotte - posted on 09/19/2010

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You wont lose any weight from sitting on your bum and breastfeeding! Providing your food intake = less than your energy use you will lose weight. I put on 35kg (78lbs) with my son, and joined a gym when I had him and stopped eating as much crap and I lost 25kg (55lbs). Then I fell pregnant with my daughter and put on 25kg (55lbs). I've joined a gym again and she's 10 weeks old and I've lost 5kg (11lbs) so far. I breastfed my son and I'm breastfeeding my daughter too. Breastfeeding does help you lose weight, but it only HELPS you lose weight, breastfeeding and sitting eating crap and not doing anything will not make you lose weight.

Tiffany - posted on 09/17/2010

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You burn more calories from making milk, but you're also hungry... Plus new-mama tired, which causes many people (including me!) tend to eat to try and get more energy...

Don't stop nursing... Just, when you're ready, think about *sensible* eating and exercise, to gradually bring things back into balance.

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It's different for every mom. Usually you burn between 200-500 calories/day by breastfeeding. How old is your baby? I didn't lose much weight until about 4-5 months. Eat when you're hungry and drink when you're thirsty and make sure that what you eat is healthy. Some moms find that they have to continue to eat healthy and exercise in order to lose the baby weight. Here's some great info about losing weight while breastfeeding:
http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/mom/mo...

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Kristy - posted on 09/24/2010

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I've been working out 4-5 times a week. My baby is four months and I've only been losing about 5 pounds a month. I really hoped it would go faster than this.

Rahshida - posted on 09/23/2010

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My daughter is turning 4 months next week. she is exclusively breast fed and i feel like i've gained weight! i eat very healthy (all organic & hormone free) and usually go for 1 short walk and do a little housework each day. I gained almost 70 lbs during pregnancy due to preeclampsia but didn't start gaining until the end of the 5th month. I've always been thin with large breasts and am having a very tough time with my body image right now. So i know how you feel! i'm staying as positive as i can and am not going to stop breastfeeding... i would just really like to see a little of the old me again.

Hang in there, we'll make it through :)

Esther - posted on 09/23/2010

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i found with both my children that once they were over a year - only then did i lose weight. I think it's cos they get active and walking and drink more. u also have to run after them more 2.

Andrea - posted on 09/20/2010

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Haven't read all the posts so I do t know if this was mentioned or not. If you don't eat enough you will gain weight. You have to eat enough calories for you and the aprox. 500 calories for the nursing and healthy calories at that. If you don't your body will store everything it can except what it has to use to make milk and sustain you. Not eating enough calories will put your body in a do or die state and it's even worse when nursing. Best approach drink lots of water and eat several times a day (small portions of course) the more frequently you eat the more comfortable your body feels with burning it instead of storing it.

Bethany - posted on 09/17/2010

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I'm breastfeeding as well and my weight is coming off very slowly. I think it is because I don't find much time to exercise while being a mom and I feel like I am always hungry and a lot of the time sweets are just so easy to eat when hunger strikes. I'm sure if I laid off the sweets and exercised more I'd lose weight faster. I gained 55 lbs while pregnant and I have only lost 31 of thos so far and my baby is 7 1/2 months old. So I have 24 lbs left to go. I was a size 12 before pregnant and now I'm a size 16. I hate it and I want so bad to lose weight but I know my baby will be better off if I continue to breast feed so I am sacrificing myself for him for a little longer until he is at least a yr old. I'm praying that between now and then something magical will happen and I'll start to lose weight but from what I've seen so far it is coming off slowly. One good thing is that I have not gained any. I seem to stay at the same weight for a while and then it goes down a pound or two and stays the same then goes down.

Tracy - posted on 09/16/2010

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Hi Candace. I'm new here, and I started a similar conversation about negative body image and breastfeeding. Basically, I think I'm having similar thoughts as you! I'm not sure how old your baby is right now, but my daughter is 5 months and I have found that my body seems to want to stay about 10 lbs. heavier than I was before pregnancy. The other 19 lbs (I gained 29 during pregnancy) came off at warp speed after the birth (maybe since I was nursing so much....she was a big baby, born a week late and very hungry), but I have not lost any more since my second week postpartum. I have even found that sometimes I will be up 2-5 more pounds when she is feeding very frequently. A couple of nice community members here shared with me that they had not lost much weight by the 5 or 6 month mark and to give it more time. I understand what you mean when you say you're not planning to stop nursing to drop weight, but I also understand that it is discouraging to feel like you're "stuck" at a weight that feels heavier than you're used to. It seems to me that many women do find breastfeeding helps shed pounds like never before, but it seems to me like my body seems to know this "ideal weight" for my milk production and it doesn't happen to be as low as my prepregnancy weight. I have talked to a couple of other breastfeeding moms who actually haven't lost any of the weight they gained during pregnancy (one has a 12-month-old). From what I've read and observed, it seems like most women do lose some weight whiile nursing, but everyone definitely has a unique experience with the weight loss. Congratulations to you for continuing to nurse, and hang in there! I hear ya!

Jennifer - posted on 09/16/2010

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My daughter is 17 months old. I excusively bf for 6 months and she is still nursing once or twice a day. I never lost even one pound nursing!!! Now I am preggo again and starting out 30lbs heavier than I was when I conceived my daughter. I feel your pain! I eat healthy, try to keep my portions in check. Being a full time working mom I don't really have time to work-out and am now too tired to do it anyways with the first trimester kickin!

For some people, I have seen personally, the weight comes off when nursing stops all together. For others, the weight melts right off their bodies as they nurse. It is just different for each body.

Aileen - posted on 09/16/2010

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Well I think it doesn't apply to all moms .. but I did loose weight. But that was when I lessened eating habits late at night, just continue eating healthy food & do find time to exercise esp for ur tummy.Breastfeeding also helps u to maintain ur weight .. but don't think too much about loosing weight, one day u'll reach ur goal :-D

Amber - posted on 09/16/2010

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with my daughter i only breastfed for 6 weeks then mix fed as my milk supply was very low due to stress and i think i put on weight as i started to wean her completely and i ended up being 4 sizes bigger than my pre preg weight! now this time with my son im fully breastfeeding and he is 7months and i will keep going till he self weans and my weight is slowly dropping by itself. all i do is a brisk walk in the am and pm when im taking/picking up daughter from school and try eating healthy. it is so hard to loose weight when breastfeeding and very important not to diet. a few of my friends say the weight dropped off them when they stopped feeding?!

Kelly - posted on 09/16/2010

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I am experiencing the exact same thing. I have not lost any weight, and I am not over eating or anything. But my baby is almost 7 months now, and i still have not lost the weight.

Dawn - posted on 09/15/2010

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well, you can't eat whatever you want and nurse and expect it to come out the way you want. you still have to adhere to a 1800 cal a day diet and be active. It does really take calories from your body, but only if you are not supplementing it. Also, I don't know how old your baby is, but pumping and storing will also burn more calories. I used to babysit for a mom who had gallons of it in her freezer. She was skinny as a rail because of it...

Corina - posted on 09/15/2010

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My daughter is 4 months old and I was able to lose 30 within 3 weeks but than the last 15 pounds is hard to get off. I usually just maintain now without exercising. If I exercise at least once a week I will lose one pound a week, which is my goal. I usually don't lose all my weight till I stop nursing. With my son I nursed him for a year, weaned him and lost 20 pound a month later. Once I stop nursing, I was not scared to go on a low carb diet, and just started to exercise five days a week for only 30 minutes.

Tine - posted on 09/15/2010

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Same here! I have had to change my diet and excercise regularly and now it is coming off (still breastfeeding my daughter age 22 mths),
I read some research which said that some of the breastfeeding hormones promote appetite and tend to help your body to hold on to fat, so perhaps that's why! Nature's way of making sure your bady has the resources you need to feed your baby I guess.
At a meeting of the ABA (Australian Breastfeeding Association) when my daughterwas about 8 months old,I bemoaned the extra weight I was carrying,and they said, "don't worry,you have years to lose it!" Indeed I did!!
Breastfeeding is so important to baby and mum, I think the weight loss aspect is the least important thing! I just had to change some bad eating habits I got into while pregnant...!!
:-)

Jennifer - posted on 09/14/2010

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You lose weight faster initially, and really it's only the pregnancy weight. If you are active and exercise along with breastfeeding, and aren't eating any more than you were before you became pregnant, you will lose some weight, but not a whole lot, unless you cut calories to the extreme and exercise a lot. Your body needs extra calories to produce enough milk for your little one, and will try to hold on to any extra it can in order to keep you from becoming malnourished. Your baby will continue to get the nutrition he/she needs from your breastmilk if you cut calories, but you won't. Basically, your baby will take them away from you.
I lost 30 of the 42lbs. that I gained during my pregnancy within 2 1/2 weeks, but haven't been able to get rid of the last 12lbs. My son is 2 1/2 months old, and I am now adding exercise to my daily routine, but not changing my diet. If I lose the extra weight, great, but if not, I'm not too worried about it. If I establish a good base routine of exercise while I am bf'ing my son, I can add to it when he weans and the weight will come off.
Good luck to you!

Dee Dee - posted on 09/14/2010

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I did loose weight with my now 7 year old son. I guess it's different for each individual. I worked 8-12 hours a day, didn't eat much fast food or junk. If I did it was at a minimum of once or twice a month. Stayed walking when I could. Will do it with the daughter I'm expecting soon as well.

Kristina - posted on 09/14/2010

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I have had a really hard time losing the weight I gained when I was pregnant with my son too. Before I got pregnant, I was able to loose 25 lbs because I had a job running around all day in an extremely hot factory. Since I had my son two years ago I have been able to lose some of the weight gradually but I still have 16 more pounds to go and I am getting really frustrated. I just finished weening my son at two years old so I am no longer burning extra calories either. Now I have a Christmas party coming up in two months and I am going to start eating even healthier and uping the cardio. Hopefully that will help me shed the rest of the baby weight! Thanks for your post though, I was also wondering why I kept hearing people say breastfeeding helps to lose the baby weight too!

Kelli - posted on 09/13/2010

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I lost 30 pounds by the 3rd month after baby was born. I lost weight, but I also lost hair and was tired. I don't think that I was getting enough nutrition, and that the baby was taking a lot out of me. I have since gained the weight back because I was feeling deprived and always hungry so I ate more. Now, I am nursing a lot less and still eating the same. But I'm sure that it's individual about weight loss and how much you gained during pregnancy. I only gained 16 pounds because I ate good and exercised. I just wish I had kept doing that as well now. Good luck!

Toleen - posted on 09/13/2010

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this is my second child and i am also nursing him, weight loss seems a bit difficult specially if you want to give your baby enough, because a nursing mom should increase her diet up to 600 Cal, but exercise can help!!

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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I hear your pain, with my 3 kids I coundn't lose a pound. and when I stopped nursing all 55 pounds came off easy and quickly, i am still nursing my 3rd and still holding onto the weight. Every body and metabolism is different, give it time and just enjoy your baby.

Yurena - posted on 09/13/2010

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I lost some but you really shouldn't need to worry. Eat well and make sure you drink loads too while you are breastfeeding. I was on loads of omelettes, choc cake and milk on top of the rest! When you are done with the breastfeeding your body will readjust the demand of food so you may not feel so hungry, just don't stick to an over eating routine later on. Enjoy!!!

Madichaba - posted on 09/13/2010

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I never lost weight with my second child, also when you breastfeed most of the time you also have to eat and drink so there will be those who don't loose but gain. After nursing it will go off don't stress

Véronique - posted on 09/12/2010

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Don't worry your not the only one. My doc is having me pass some blood tests just to be sure.

Teresa - posted on 09/12/2010

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I never lost any weight while breastfeeding either. I have four children and each post pregnancy has been the same story. It is a battle losing while nursing, but once I stop and start my cycle back, the weight comes off easier. Dont worry! Try to eat healthy and get some exercise and, with time, it will come off!

Kayla - posted on 09/12/2010

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You actually aren't SUPPOSED to lose weight while breastfeeding, because you're supposed to eat as much as you did while pregnant.

Lucia - posted on 09/11/2010

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Hi, Candace, I gain 27 lbs with my pregnancy, when I gave birth lost 22!!!! 10 months afterward I gained 15lbs :( I breastfeed still at 10 months 4-5 times a day and pump at work, honestly depends of the woman metabolism: been a runner my whole life and stopped after baby was born, eat healthy and all that jazz, as you I don't have time x gym, or plan to workout since I work full time and something ALWAYS happens. Just started loosing 1 month ago when i decided walk 1 hr w baby in his stroller, I am frustrated will never get my body back and I am adamant about breastfeeding and dieting w breastfeeding doesn't go hand to hand and is bad x you and will affect milk supply *sigh
I will agree with you, didn't happen to me either, just needed to complement w walks, now is all melting away slowly...

Alyssa - posted on 09/11/2010

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I guess I was one of the lucky ones. I lost all the baby weight and then some in about a month and a half. But I drank lots of water and ate healthy. I also took my son for walks in his stroller around the neighborhood. I found that eating lot of nuts like walnuts,almonds, and eating lots of fruits and vegies worked for me.

Julie - posted on 09/11/2010

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I didn't gain much during pregnancy, only ten pounds. But now I feel like i'm hungry all the time and I'm gaining back the weight I shed in the first month after delivery. I'm doing the opposite!

Mandy - posted on 09/11/2010

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I didn't loose either when I was nursing, I lost weight after I stopped, for some reason my body held onto the extra weight. I didn't gain any extra even though both times I was so hungry.
I was so disappointed 1st time round because everything says you loose weight and I didn't. Getting out for a walk even round the block might help. Remember you shouldn't extreme diet when nursing anyway, not so much for it affecting your milk, your body will always nurture the baby 1st sometimes to your detriment so you have to make sure you're getting everything you need.

Kimm - posted on 09/11/2010

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I must be a lucky one. I continued to BF my boy after 1 year and my weight did not come off until he was about 18 months. I lost 2 stone and 2 dress sizes. With no extra dieting or exercise.

Monica - posted on 09/10/2010

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It's not happening for me either but i think it's because i'm still eating like i was pregnant :). I always ate in the middle of the night when i was pregnant and now i'm not hungry at dinner time but in the middle of the night i'm starving and i just grub...thats why i think i'm not losing the weight :).

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2010

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It's taken me 9 months to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight... and that's with not a lot of effort on my part, other than breastfeeding and walking on a not-so-regular basis (depending on energy and how well the Little One slept the night before).

Darby - posted on 09/10/2010

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It all depends on the person. With me...I have 3 girls and 1 boy. With my first girl I gained 62 pounds with the pregnancy and breastfed her for only 2 months - I had difficulty, was young, and refused to ask for help. The 20 pounds I had lost came right back. With my 2nd daughter I only gained 20 pounds and lost 36 but was so worried about losing my milk I gained 16 back and stayed at losing just the pregnancy weight. With my son...I only gained 14 pounds and I lost 31 and then I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd girl who is now 5 months old...I gained 22 pounds with her and have lost about 17 so far...it's just not coming off and it's been frustrating. However my sister-in-law who was underweight to begin with in both of her pregnancies gained 54 pounds and lost most of it during the first year and the rest plus some once her girls turned 1. So, who knows. Some just have to work harder than others. Good luck!

Anita - posted on 09/10/2010

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Well I guess I am one who looses because I have lost 55 lbs. since the day before delivery. I weighed 280 on birthday and now 3 months later I weigh 225 I am excluslively breastfeeding. I feed 10 time a day and feel pretty good. Please dont get discouraged I havent keep up the good work. I also walk 1 mile 3 days a week and have changed my diet to more healthy foods. I dont think its just the breastfeeding but it cant hurt. Good Luck

Autumn - posted on 09/10/2010

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my son is 9 months old too and i am still 30lbs away from pre-pregnancy weight. :( your not alone, i didnt eat much before i got pregnant and now i do eat alot to make more milk. but hang in there. if were determined will lose it, it just takes. my doctor told me it talkes nine months to make the baby, stretch pulling and putting on weight, it shouldnt even come close to being like pre-pregnancy till a year. i have lost 50lbs, yes i gained 80lbs with my son lol

Jessie - posted on 09/10/2010

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it is different for everyone. I weigh less now after having my son and nursing him than I have in years. I lost all 25 bls of preg weight plus another 10 in 5 months time. however I am completely stuck where I am. I have tried losing more but as soon as I go down a bit I turn around and go right back. my bub is 14 months old and nurses 3 times a day. I am afraid to gain weight when he is done nursing and not eating up my extra calories. I do eat tons better than I ever did before pregnancy so I think that helped me. good luck

Mary - posted on 09/10/2010

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I lost all my weight within 3 months of having both of my girls (24 month old and 5 month old still nursing)
After my first it took about 3 months to get it all off, i was still squishy but the same weight as before.
After my second it was all off within 2 weeks but i was having to chase my (then) 19 month old around. :)
Its different for everyone. it depends on how much weight you gained while pregnant (i gained under 40lbs each time), how much you exercise, what kind of foods you eat, and your genes.
My mom has 5 children and has never been over 135, not counting pregnancy. She always bounced right back. I did too. Look at your mom and grandma's see what they did.
"Eat when you're hungry, drink when you're thirtsy, nurse on demand, & exercise when you can" is what my dr told me. I wrote it on a fridge magnet to remember lol :)

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Don't feel bad, I've been breastfeeding for almost 7 months and lost what most woman loose after haing a baby in 7 months.

Samantha - posted on 09/10/2010

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I started nursing at the hospital and the reduction in my abdominal fat was incredible. However, I also got really sick (I believe due to stress and being pumped full of induction drugs that my system didn't like) So I can't fully relate it to nursing, because I hardly ate for the first 2 months of my son's life and dropped all 21lbs of pregnancy weight and an additional 10 on top of that.
Then, my appetite arrived, I have never been so nonstop hungry in my life, I've tried to drop below 2000 calories while nursing and every time I try to, I get woozy and weak and my milk supply lessens. Anyway, the point I am making is that initially nursing may reduce your weight, but overall I think the need for lots of protein and a good number of calories each day is more likely to make you gain overall. I certainly did, I have gained back every pound I lost and then some and now am on the uphill battle of lots of exercise to lose it because I can't cut calories while I continue to breastfeed. I think it probably just depends on your metabolism and exercise and eating habits prior to pregnancy. We're all different.

Nicole - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had my 3rd baby 3 months ago and haven't lost a lb. With my other two my body would hold on to the last 20lbs until my babies quite nursing and then the weight would just melt away. I eat health and excersize......some times your body is just going to do what it wants to do.

Kimrose - posted on 09/10/2010

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Just my two cents/experience - I exclusively breast fed and my DS did nurse A LOT - and I honestly never "noticed" when I lost weight. I don't weigh myself as it's just mentally healthier for me ;) BUT...when I see pics of myself from his 1 year old party I'm definitely smaller than I've ever been in my life - so somewhere near the end of that first year I did "just lose". I know it's hard, but from someone w/a "food issue" past - the less you think about/dwell on it and just try to do healthier things - move and eat well - and if you can, don't even weigh yourself! Truly - it's not like you don't know - we all know when clothes fit better, etc. You'll probably end up smaller just making it less important ;)

Laura - posted on 09/10/2010

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It didn't come off for me either. Just keep watching what you eat, drinking healthy fluids and staying active.

Kristy - posted on 09/10/2010

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It took a few months for the weight to come off. I noticed a big difference when I started to exercise. I had my baby in January. I couldn't go out and walk so I went mall walking instead and ate healthy. It just started to melt off. I didn't breast feed as long as I would of like, and I gained a few pounds back. I bought a BOB and started to run and walk more out side. You can do it. It's hard to get into that schedule. I work full time and I still run into days that I just don't have the time. Give it some time to get into that schedule!

Cassandra - posted on 09/09/2010

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It didn't happen for me either.
My 2 SILs were back to pre-pregnancy size in less than 2 months. But, they're tiny people to start with.

Jen - posted on 09/09/2010

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as far as trying to lose weight, good job on eating healthy! try fitting your exercise in in the form of a walk. exercise for you and relaxing for baby. start small!

Rebecca - posted on 09/09/2010

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It didn't happen for me either but I have seen it work for other moms that I work with (I teach women about breastfeeding for a living). For myself I think I might have sabotaged it because I knew I would be in one place for a lengthy amount of time for I had my snacks etc right there with me. LOL Do a little baby involved exercise & get out for some walks to kick in your metabolism.

Lynne - posted on 09/09/2010

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I didnt lose weight either. I think you hold onto some of the fat for breastmilk. im just starting to wean now. well see what happens...

Diane - posted on 09/09/2010

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I lost my baby weight really easy with my first 2 but with the twins I actually put on 25 lbs during the first 3 months and when they were about 9 months old I magically dropped 15 lbs with no effort. I think it has to do with how much stores your body thinks it needs to hold onto while you're nursing to make sure there's enough for baby but by the time baby is a year it should get easier. Good luck!

Jenna - posted on 09/09/2010

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I lost the first 15 pounds quickly the last 10 came right off as soon as I weaned my daughter at around 12-18 months. I work out a ton and eat pretty well so I expected that the weight would drop off but I held onto 10 lbs until I stopped nursing. Don't fret maybe your body is different than the people who told you nursing would do it.

Nedra - posted on 09/09/2010

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Hey Candace!



I am nursing, too. I have nursed all four of my kids and each time its been different. Sometimes it just melted off right away without me trying and other times it took some time or a little effort. So not only is it different from person to person, its different from pregnancy to pregnancy with the same person.



I wasn't taking any chances with this last baby (She's 6 weeks). I started working out (lightly) at about four weeks. Its been great! I feel good. I'm strong.



If you're interested, I've been doing Jillian Michael's Yoga Melt Down and her 30 Day Shred. You are supposed to do them daily, but I am only doing 3-4 days per week. The results are fabulous. The workouts are only about 25 mins each so naptime or between feedings is a great time to get them in.



Almost forgot, my brother-in-law (a fitness instructor) advised me to stay on the six small meals (3 regular meals cut in half) a day to keep my metabolism fired up. If your body is constantly digesting, you're burning more calories. I just have a "meal" after I nurse so I don't forget to eat. I still have 2 snacks, too.



Hope this helps!



Nedra

Carol - posted on 09/09/2010

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i lost a few pounds, and eatting three meals with a few snacks during the day but i never felt full so i end up waking up at night and piggin out lol. Thats not good so i havent lost any that i can think of. I know you burn about 500 calories when you breastfeed, but is it each time?

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