orgasm during breastfeeding????

Racheal - posted on 09/01/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyres...
ok so a local morning radio show i listen posted this is his facebook, and it really angered me..not only is this completly false but it is just adding to the fire of negative stigma!!! im not sure what to do. i kinda want to rally it or something..like get invited to the show and prove its not a sexual feeling, its motherly..

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Ashleigh - posted on 09/08/2010

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There is nothing wrong with having your own opinion.We just have to watch how we voice our own opinions and make sure that we are not hurting others in the process.We can do this without name calling and assumptions.
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Ashleigh - posted on 09/09/2010

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It was the "there must be something Psycologically wrong with you if this happens to you" comment.It upset some of the other Moms.We just try to keep it friendly around here.
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Ashleigh - posted on 09/04/2010

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Oxytocin is present when we have sex,give birth and breastfeed our babies.It doesn't mean that nursing our babies turns us on.Its more because of the feelings of Love.We love our babies,we love our SO,we release Oxytocin because we feel love.Some women do feel an orgasmic feeling during nursing.Its nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to worry about.Its not something you can control.And we don't BF to feel sexually stimulated.A lot of us that are BFing don't have much sex drive or none at all because we are getting some satisfaction from BFing.I DON"T mean that its the same as sex,I'm just saying that we are happy and content to be feeding our babies,we don't need anything else right now.Breasts are sexual and functional,just like other parts of our bodies are sexual and functional.We might not feel Aroused by BFing,but we feel satisfied and warm and happy and content,similar to the feeling we have after an orgasm.Part of that is due to the oxytocin.It doesn't mean that we are feeling a 'sexual' feeling.Its because we are nurturing our children.Its because we love them.

Melissa - posted on 09/08/2010

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What's wrong if your body responds like this while breastfeeding? Mine did and I loved it. It was nicer than anything my ex could do for me and it was more natural.

If you are aroused, it's nothing to be ashamed of. I'd much rather that than nursing being purely a mechanical act. I had enough of that in my marriage.

Missy

Dora - posted on 09/08/2010

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Becareful what you post about this topic because you will be reported and find a message like the one I received for having my own personal opinion. I though being part of Circle of Moms I was entitled to my own personal opinion and was encouraged to express the way I truly feel especially when I feel so strongly about something. I GUESS I WAS COMPLETELY WRONG. This is the message I received:

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A recent post or personal message of yours is not in keeping with our Terms of Use and Community Guidelines ("No T.H.U.M.P.S.").

Our Terms and Guidelines are in place to help keep Circle of Moms a safe place where moms feel comfortable sharing personal information about their lives and families. And since you're an important part of our community, we ask that you contribute to this as well. This means refraining from personal attacks--even when provoked and checking your gut before posting to make sure what you're about to share adds real value rather than taking it away.

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Sunel - posted on 09/09/2010

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No name calling to any one, no names were mentioned and no one was pointed at........

Sunel - posted on 09/08/2010

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NO, we werent even remotely a little bit mean. every one believes what they want to believe and and obviously u believe what u want, my opinion was just my opinion and nothing personal towards the ladie that believe what they want. If that feelings is what u feel,but i dont agree with that, read the topic and c that every one is allowed to say their say.

Caitlin - posted on 09/07/2010

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WOW I breastfeed my daughter for a year and not once did i ever feel anything remotely like pleasure. I felt great for the fact that I was feeding my baby!

Ashleigh - posted on 09/07/2010

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Its not an 'Old Wives Tale' You uterus DOES contract when you BF.It doesn't mean you are having what you would call an orgasm(although contracting of the uterus is considered an orgasm).Oxytocin levels go up during a lot of different times.It doesn't mean you are thinking sexually of your child,or thinking of sex at all.It an involuntary reaction.I venture to say that most women giving birth aren't thinking of sex,but oxytocin is still present then.Your levels go up.As i said above,it has to do more with a feeling of contentment and love.For most women that does tie into sex,weather you're thinking of sex or not.And there is NOTHING wrong with any woman that this happens to.

Merry - posted on 09/07/2010

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Well then I guess I'm just a monster right? And any woman whose body reacts without her brain thinking about it should be locked away in a mental hospital.
You ladies are mean.

Dora - posted on 09/07/2010

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I have to agree with you Sunel. I think that could be yet another reason why women may decide against breast feeding and why people may have a negative opinion about breast feeding. When women start talking about arousal, twinges or fluttering while breast feeding it does come off as sounding sexual. I have always felt happy, love and content when breast feeding my child but NEVER anything even remotely close to an orgasm, fluttering, etc....... Whenever I breast fed I viewed it as giving my son the best nutrition available for him and that was all. My nipples were NOT being stimulated if anything that part of me connecting nipple stimulation and sex completely shut down while breast feeding.

Sunel - posted on 09/06/2010

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this is total nonsense, i breastf eed twins and not once have i had the feeling of arousal during this presious moments, they either have to redo the studies or the information have been added randomly by some one that believe in old wife tales.

Melanie - posted on 09/06/2010

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Dora, I don't think for any woman it is a sexual act. The nipple stimulation causes other things to occur in a woman's body. Every woman is different, so not every woman feels it. Women might not realize what it is, but for at least 6 months after giving birth, a woman's uterus is contracting back to it's normal size. It's just natural. Just like breastfeeding. There have been plenty of studies done about it, and it is completely normal. There is no study confirming that a woman must be mentally incompetent to have an orgasm, or mild fluttering, while breastfeeding.

Merry - posted on 09/06/2010

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Dora, just because you don't experience something it doesn't mean that anyone who does has a mental disorder. You are only one person so you can't say what is or isn't normal for the whole population of women.
I haven't orgasmed while feeding Eric but that doesn't mean women who do are psychologically wrong. Just different. You don't want to offend anyone right?

Briana - posted on 09/05/2010

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Hm I honestly never heard of that! But I don't get much from nipple stimulation sexually anyways haha.

Melanie - posted on 09/05/2010

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It's not a sexual orgasm... It's just a tightening of the uterus, which is considered to be an orgasm. Sometimes, women just feel a fluttering. Other times, women have a full-on orgasm. I get the little fluttering. I do not think it is in any way sexual. It's just that nipple stimulation stimulates orgasms. Not in all women, but in some. That is why nipple stimulation induces contractions... An orgasm is just the uterus contracting...

Dora - posted on 09/05/2010

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I have to say I never even came close to having an orgasm while breast feeding my son. For me is was never a sexual act, it was the time my son had to eat just as when me and my husband have a meal. Also another reason why I can't imagine having an orgasm during breast feeding is that I was way too exhausted to even think about anything else besides making sure my son was well taken care of. I honestly can say that if you have an orgasm while breast feeding then there is something wrong with you psychologically cause to have an orgasm you need that physical feeling as well as the mental and emotional feeling. My child doesn't arouse me in any way at all, but my husband definitely does. LOL!

Merry - posted on 09/04/2010

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No her next time wasn't orgasmic, it was awesome but not the physical release like the 1st. It was a boy. He was super cute! I really want to do water births but I'm positive for group b strep so I can't, also my husband refuses it but I am only convinced by the strep :) it looks so wonderful in the tub, I ended up with an epidural after laboring 32 hours and still stuck at 6 cm for most of that time, turns out Eric was facing my hip so I had a corner of cervix that couldn't open. Finally when I relaxed completely and stayed on my hands and knees for 2 hours he turned! I want to hire a doula to help me labor better this time so I can go unmedicated. I did great dealing with the pain until it was over a day with no food or sleep. (my dr offered food to me but I was too nauseus the whole time) that lady was lucky to have such a good memory!

Ashleigh - posted on 09/04/2010

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Thanks,Laura.I did it med free all 4 times and it hurt like the dickens every time,lol.I know that when I give birth Im getting something in the end,so its not that bad...not to say it hurts less,but,theres a REASON for the pain.We should all be so lucky as that lady.I bet it was very surprising.What I was able to watch last night was interesting.Did the same thing happen the second time around for her?I watched part of it,but Noah is teething and I was trying to BF him in a quite room with no lights or noise-except a fan.Poor little boy is so restless whe hes teething.

Merry - posted on 09/04/2010

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Thanks for explaining Ashleigh! It's wonderful to hear that. I just watched a show on discovery health called strange sex and one woman featured had what is called an orgasmic birth, she reached an orgasm at the moment of natural birth. It was like pain pain pain then orgasm. The drs said it a rare surprise, like icing on the cake. Most women have an emotional orgasm of a surge good feelings at birth but rare few get a physical high at birth. Only works without drugs though :)

Melanie - posted on 09/03/2010

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It is actually very common for women to have minor orgasms. It is said that this occurs to help put the uterus back into the size and shape it was prior to having baby. It can take up to 6 months or more for it to go back to it's normal size. I don't think that the article you posted is stating that all women have this feeling. I think it is just saying that it happens to some women.

Katie - posted on 09/02/2010

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I have to agree with Jodi. I've never felt aroused while breastfeeding. I feel warm, and enjoy the closeness of BF Arabella. I've never even heard someone say otherwise.

Merry - posted on 09/01/2010

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My husband works with a woman who says nipple stimulation is her main source of orgasm so she never even attempted nursing her daughter because she was certain it would turn her on even touching her nipples. now I dont know if it would have or not since she never tried but I guess there are women so turned on by their nipples that they would not try to breastfeed.
Honestly, when eric was little and he would fall asleep nursing and the sucking turned into just gentle fluttering I would feel twinges like I do when my husband strokes my back or legs when he wants to have sex. So that bugged me and I would just take him off as he was done already. It was unsettling but it only really happened when both of us fell asleep nursing and I awoke with the light sucking. So i havent felt that in a while, like 6 months or so. But this reminded me of that. It wasnt often but it did scare me a bit.

Jodi - posted on 09/01/2010

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Well, I can only speak for myself, but I have never felt aroused while breastfeeding much less had an orgasm. Breastfeeding is not sexual in that way, it is only sexual in the way that breasts inour society are conceived as a sexual part of our body...and even that is up to personal difference. Not that my husband has ever tried to turn me on while I was breastfeeding, but sex, foreplay or any such thing is the very last thing from my mind while I'm nursing my daughter, and I'm not sure I COULD get turned on if I tried.
I can't imagine that after being a part of this community, attending LLL meetings and knowing so many breastfeeding mothers on a personal level that I have never, not once encountered a woman who had feelings of arousal or an orgasm whilst breastfeeding. If it happened to me, it's certainly something I would ask others about and warn new breastfeeding mothers about.
I'm most bothered by the source, I kind of thought that about.com was a fairly reputable source, but they admitted there is no scientific backing to the claims! I will have to definately rethink ever trusting something that comes off of this website again.
I would email them or call and overload them with facts, links and stories of the benefits of breastfeeding that are in no way sexual.

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