Merry - posted on 09/18/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )
Well Eric is 1 1/2 and he is becoming very attached to my breasts. Like puppy love for them. He always asks me to unhook both sides while he eats and he will stroke, pat, poke, etc the are boob. Now I know him pinching the one he's eating from is a let down enhancer. But this is just like playing with the free boob. Honestly, I don't like it. I don't like the gentle stroking, or the playing with the nipple, it just feels wrong. But he really gets upset if I won't unhook it for him. So I just deal with it. I also don't like it when he pokes his fingers all in my mouth. So it's not just the boob, maybe just that he is on a free for all on my body. So then when he is done nursing he loves to just lay his cheek on my boob and snuggle. That's so sweet! It's like he is saying "mom you are everything I need" so I'm not arguing the love from him, but it's just uncomfortable for me to have him stroking my nipple etc.
Is it ok for him to be so in love with my breasts? I don't want him growing up with some sort of bad attachment to my breasts. I know most kids are nursed more then twice this long and I figure that they aren't being messed up from it so I try to ignore it. But I am trying to get over a lifetime of being taught that boobs are sexual. And with him growing into a kid, it's hard to ignore my old thoughts.
So first, is this normal of him to be like this?
Second, is it normal I feel like this?
Third, how can I get myself to a better mindset?