Pro Co-sleeping!

Katie - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 134 moms have responded )

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I'm looking for breastfeeding friends who co-sleep with their nursing babies. I find it to be the best thing for my family; I did it with my now 2.5 year old son, and it was great. Now I'm doing it with my 3 month old daughter. It provides comfort for her, allows both of us to get more sleep, and strengthens our bond. I also let her sleep on her stomach, as she seems much more comfortable that way. I refuse to take our society's orders on what you should and should not do with your children. Some of those things I agree with, but others I don't; mother's intuition is powerful, and sometimes we know better than the supposed experts who give the same recommendations for all babies and all families, regardless of any of the various factors that influence our situations and lifestyle choices.

Please note: I am not looking to hear from those of you who are against co-sleeping. I am aware of our society's recommendations that tell us not to do this, and I am aware of the reasons they cite as to why. I respect the decision not to co-sleep; to me though, this is the way families have probably slept for thousands of years, and many still do in other parts of the world. I have made my decision after plenty of research, asking opinions of lots of professionals and parents, and my own trial and error to see what works for us as a family. Hoping to find like-minded mamas out there!

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I'm also a breastfeeding, co-sleeping mama!!! My son is 10 months, hes' my first. I love breastfeeding and co-sleeping. I feel like these are days I'll never get back once they are gone and I want to enjoy every minute of it. Many ppl have tried to tell me and my husband not to cosleep but I feel like we have to do what is best for us. And, no one has perfefctly raised children, so as for my family we'll do what works for us no matter what other ppls opinions may be.

Lydia - posted on 07/31/2009

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We co-slept until she was 15 months. We still co-sleep in the mornings. My DH and I loved it. When people ask me if I am afraid of rolling over on my kid, I respond by asking them if they ever roll out of bed. When they say no, I say "See even though you are sleeping you know where the edge of your bed is. Well even though we are sleeping we know where our baby is." That helps it make sense to people, I find.

Lynn - posted on 07/31/2009

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I love sleeping with my 4 month old son. Living in Sweden, they actively encourage you to co-sleep with your child. When he was born he slept naked 'skin to skin' with me in the hospital. It was wonderful. I have a good nights sleep every night. When he grumbles a little for boobie I simply slip my nipple in his mouth and we both fall back to sleep again. I have tried him in his crib (at the suggestion of others) and find myself lying awake listening to his every movement, breath etc. Separation anxiety I guess ;o)

Minnie - posted on 07/30/2009

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Two thumbs up for cosleeping!! Our babies are MADE to sleep in mother's arms, nursing at her breast through the night. What other mammal leaves her infants in another nest while she sleeps in her own? Unreal!

Kristen - posted on 08/05/2011

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I'm so glad to have found a like-minded mom!! I'm so sick of reading how bad co-sleeping is and how much I'll "regret that decision later"...I'm with you, I think I know what is best for my child and our family!!

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Toni-Lynn - posted on 08/05/2011

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I co slept with my son till he was a year old... I now co sleep with my daughter. My son is three and sleeps very well in his own bed, is very secure and confidant. I know my daughter will be the same way. Babies just need Mommy and Daddy close by . My babies start night in bassinette and when they wake for nursing I keep them with me the rest of the night. It sure makes nursing easier on mommy. =)

Kristen - posted on 08/05/2011

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I am a co-sleeping mom of an almost 5 month old and I love it! However, for the last three weeks or so my son has started to wake up in the middle of the night to play. He isn't crying or fussing but wanting to "talk", kick his legs, roll over, scoot across the bed...etc and he stays up for an hour to two each night. In the beginning it was more of a teething issue because he would wake up and just want to chew on EVERYTHING, but in the last few days it seems to be more about wanting to play than chew! I get up with him and go into the spare bedroom so that my husband can continue sleeping but I'm wondering if I'm creating a bad habit by doing this. Any suggestions? Is this part of the 4 month sleep change I keep reading about?

OhJessie - posted on 04/30/2011

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Heh, cuddle up with that baby and enjoy it! No judgment here - my husband used to joke that every morning he opened his butt cheeks and out crawled my son. He was 4. As an adult, he now prefers to sleep alone...though I daresay he will enjoy sleeping with his someday-wife, don't we all like sleeping with someone? Why would babies be any different?

Marisa - posted on 08/06/2009

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We co-slept with our son until he decided he wanted his space at about 18 months. At that point, he started sleeping in his own bed for part of the night and then toddle into our room and climb into our bed for the last few hours. I do co-sleep with my daughter, but only when she wants to as she is starting to get to the "I want my own space" stage too now at about a year old, but we co-slept on a regular basis until then. I think its wonderful as we all sleep better like that. With my husband gone right now, our son comes over on fairly regular basis to snuggle with daddy's pillows. I'm all for co-sleeping if it is the best solution for your family. :)

Kimberly - posted on 08/06/2009

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I definitely agree with co-sleeping. I am a breast feeding mother who co-sleeps with our son. He is now nine months old and can wake in the middle of the night for a feeding with little support from me. He just helps himself to my breast while I sleep. I sometimes wake up for a minute when I feel him latch on then I go right back to sleep. This being our second child co-sleeping has provided a way for me not to loose sleep in the middle of the night so that I am well rested for the events the next day. He has also been sleeping through the night since two days old with waking occasionally some nights to feed but as I said I hardly take notice of it. Co-sleeping is the best thing we ever did. Our daughter who is now six also co-slept with us but I bottle fed her> I found that to be easy but co-sleeping and breast feeding is a sleep saver for sure.

Wendy - posted on 08/06/2009

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I agree 110% with you. I have a three year old who I nursed until she was almost a year & then she still falls asleep w/ me. I also have a 1 year old who i kept in bed w/ me while he nursed until he was 6 mos. (so he was in bed being nursed & his sister was asleep right next to him.)

Its not for everyone, but if your nursing, its really the best way to get any sleep and what mom doesnt want to spend as much time as possible w her baby(ies).

Of course thats how it was done for most of history....it works...good luck!

Brenda - posted on 08/06/2009

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I LOVE cosleeping with my little nurser. He sleeps so well. We couldn't cosleep or breastfeed with my first because our bed was too small (only had a full and wasn't well informed on the practice at the time). Now, I'm a full fledged, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby wearing momma. We have a king sized bed, and I've co slept with my nearly three month old since we were in the hospital, which the hospital was supportive of that decision. There is nothing better than waking up next to my precious little boy. We have a full family bed, my four year old sleeps in the middle and the baby beside me. We bought one of those co sleeper beds, but my husband calls it the most expensive junk catcher he's ever seen. It holds the diapers and wipes and other stuff. :)



I wish more people would get informed about co sleeping instead of just bashing it. There is emerging evidence that it is not only beneficial, but the increases in certain chemicals in the brain when babies sleep alone may be detrimental. People are always claiming it causes SIDS. No, I feel that sleeping seperate caues SIDS. The reason I believe this is because in China, where they co sleep as a normal occurrance, there is no word for SIDS because it just doesn't happen that often. Personally I feel there has to be some connection.



Here's a cool article for you: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk...



And if you haven't already, I suggest the various Attachment Parenting groups on here if you want to meet other co sleeping moms, and there is a family bed group as well.

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I co-slept and nursed my daughter for 2 years. It was the absolute best way for us both to get what we needed. Sleep for me and milk for her. I read all the books that cautioned against it and then threw them out the window. I think the best thing you can do for your children is what feels right for you.

Bridget - posted on 08/06/2009

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I co-sleep with my son. He was born a month early and had a hard time learning to nurse. I also let him sleep on his tummy. He sleeps longer and better that way. It is so nice to know there are others out there that feel the way I do. He is doing great. We are pros at breastfeeding now.

Bridget - posted on 08/06/2009

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I co-sleep with my son. He was born a month early and had a hard time learning to nurse. I also let him sleep on his tummy. He sleeps longer and better that way. It is so nice to know there are others out there that feel the way I do. He is doing great. We are pros at breastfeeding now.

Melinda Mendy - posted on 08/06/2009

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You go, Best thing i did for my now 4 yr old, he is so much more independent, however we have a very strong family bond and at 4 he sleeps in his room in his own full size bed and needs no toys or comfort amenities to sleep at night. We let him grow up on his own and didnt push him to wean early and potty train etc. He is very intelligent and has been evaluated for intelligence and rates off the charts. by the way i breatfeed until he was almost 3

Stacey - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am a huge proponent of co-sleeping. It definitely feels like the most natural way, doesn't it? My baby is 7 months old and we are hoping to conceive another in the coming months. I would love to keep Jonah in bed with us as long as he wants to be there but if we have a new baby, he will have to go into the crib. What have been people's experiences with transitioning older babies to the crib after 1 year + of co-sleeping. I have heard that six months is the ideal time to make the shift but I would like to keep him there until a sibling arrives. Any thoughts?



If it is advisable that we begin the transition soon, he other issue for us is that Jonah is always nursed to sleep. If we try to move him into a routine where he sleeps in his crib, how can we break the nurse-to-sleep habit?



Thank in advance for your ideas!

Elisi - posted on 08/06/2009

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My little one is just short of 7 months and we have been co-sleeping from day one. About a month or so ago, we set up the crib and attached it to our bed so we have a little more room, but she is still within arms reach. I usually put her back in between us sometime in the night too.

Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2009

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I did co-sleeping with my kids. They are all adults now. But I liked getting my sleep and co-sleeping worked for us. When I became a single mother of three small children, including a small infant, we all slept in the king sized bed. I just needed my kids close to me. There were two boys and a girl. I got a crib as a gift when #2 was born, but only used it for laundry that needed folding. They eventually moved to their own beds across the hall, but were always welcome back for bad dreams, etc. They are all well-adjusted adults now. One is married and one might be getting married in the near future. I would highly recommend it. For breastfeeding, and also for family bonding and closeness. Now I sleep with a poodle. ;-)

Katherine - posted on 08/06/2009

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SUPPORT TO YOU!!!! I slept with my daughter when she was small (till about age three) and am co-sleeping with the new arrival. Love it! My man and I don't always sleep together, because it gets a little crowded, but we both enjoy the result of mom sleeping with baby.

I TRULY believe that exclusive breastfeeding and co-sleeping create happy super healthy babies!!! Good for you for going against the flow!



one question - how do you handle the flack? My Dr., some family members, even some friends think what we're doing is dangerous. I have always tried to stand my ground where i can, and just keep folks in the dark if i know their opinion.

Trisha - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am a co-sleeping, Breastfeeding in public, uncircumsized, babysleeping on her belly kind of a momma. I feel Momma knows best. Its like whats my son says "Momma knows child Momma knows." LOL. hope to get to know you better katie

Sally - posted on 08/05/2009

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Sure! I am currently co-sleeping with my 14-month son, he still breast-feeds at night, and I love it.

Crystal - posted on 08/05/2009

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I am co-sleeping with my third baby now and wouldn't have it any other way. With my first child, I tried the bassinet in our room and was out of bed more than twelve times that first night home. That was when she got put into our bed and I never looked back. The other two also slept in the bed with me at the hospital which was not very welcomed by the nursing staff. I can't imagine having to get out of bed to nurse so many times throughout the night!

Candice - posted on 08/05/2009

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Cosleeping=win! It's the key to getting sleep with newborn.It makes middle of the night feeds quick and easy for mama and baby.The dude was afraid to do it at first but now he's on the wagon too.My kiddo is going to move to her own room soon,now that she curls up to sleep in weird places,signs she's ready to be put in her own space.

Shandy - posted on 08/05/2009

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YAY another co-sleeper!! I no longer breast feed but still co sleep. I WOULD NEVER HAVE IT ANYOTHER WAY!! Our children are only little for so long and I want every moment I can snuggeling that beautiful creation... K so I'm gonna cry now. HAHA!

Rachel - posted on 08/05/2009

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I agree. Co-sleeping really is quite ideal. Unfortunately there isn't a whole lot of room in the bed for me my spouse and soon to be first child. Therefore we have got a bassinet that doubles as a beside co-sleeper. The side actually comes down and it fastens to the bed. Basically an extension for the bed. We only have a double bed at this point, but if we get a larger one, co-sleeping all the way. I do plan to nurse during the night in bed so as not to completely wake myself and the baby up. That way we will both feel more rested in the morning.

Shannon - posted on 08/05/2009

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hey...new to this site. BUT....I co slept with my now 7 year old until she was 3 and BF her til she was 2. My son, now 22 months, still nurses and sleeps with me. I love it. It's best to do what feels right to you. No other mammal mother puts her baby in another room to sleep alone. Why should humans? You're doing what's best and you can be proud of that!

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We didn't cosleep w/ our twin girls and they were much, much better sleepers. My son and I co-slept until I was able to have his crib (at 6 months). Now, at 16 months, he sleeps in his own crib and won't ever sleep if I try to put him in my bed. We are still in the same room though. He still usually nurses 2-4 times in a 10-11 hour night. His sisters had been sleeping 12 hour nights for 2 months by the time they were his age.

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I am with you! I think our families would be much better off if they participated in the family bed! It creates such a close bond and makes our children so much more secure in their world! I am huge fan of it and would love it if we could convince the medical community that it is a fix to most of our problems. Countries that do not put a stigma on the family bed (most of Europe and Australia) have a lower infant death rate and child suicide rate than the U.S. We need to be more vocal about the benefits of co-sleeping so that the next generation of mommies won't feel quilty when they put their little ones to sleep with them.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have an Arms reach co sleeper. It is attached to our bed. but my daughter Does sleep with us off and on thought the week in our bed. I support co sleeping 100%. My oldest daughter I also co slept with til she was a year old. Breastfeeding is so much more easier this way also.

Ali - posted on 08/05/2009

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My 11 month old (still breastfeeding) is now in his own bed, but it hasn't always been this way. Co-sleping was the only way anyone was sleeping in our household for many months. Everest (our son) refused to sleep anywhere for more than an hour or so at a time...until he found our bed. At the time I was working a full-time job during the day so it was not only more convenient (not getting up multiple times nightly to feed; I could just roll over, swap sides, right there in the bed and go back to sleep), but it worked--for everyone. We put up a mesh rail on my side so no one (including me) fell off at night and we kept temp in house higher so no covers were really needed. I slept pillow-less for awhile, not a big deal...and like I said, it worked. I slept, Everest slept, my husband slept...it was a lifesaver for our family. I already know I wi do the same with our second child. :)

Karen - posted on 08/05/2009

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Am loving co-sleeping with my almost nine month old baby. Nothing beats her waking me up by patting me on my arm and saying "mama". Simply the best thing I've ever experienced!

Deanna - posted on 08/05/2009

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I too am for co-sleeping. I did it with all my kids. I have tried to get my little one (he is 7 months old now) to sleep in his crib or the playpen & he will not but he sleeps so soundly with me. He will only be this little for such a brief period of time so I am soaking up all the time I can. My babies all slept on their tummies by the time they were a month old. They preferred it.

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I slept with my oldest (he's almost 7 now) and it was just the best thing for me then..I was so tired I was halucinating..then my now 2 year old slept with me but I got him to his own bed at about 10 months..and he sleeps on his own fine now..I just had twins in April and spend the night switching them in and out of my bed..with the breast feeding it's just the easiest..and I'm a better mom during the day because of it..Also I don't see it as dangerous..I have mom radar...and in all my years of doing this i have never rolled on or had my husband roll on a baby..I wake up the minute anyone moves!

Christine - posted on 08/05/2009

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I can't stand when people tell me that my baby will never get out of my bed. I don't really care to have him out of my bed, and when the time comes that he needs to move into his own bed, we will work on it then. There is no need for my almost 7 month old to be "independent" and sleep on his own without waking to feed. I don't understand why society stresses independence at such a young age; its ridiculous. Oh wait, that's right, cause they want to sell you a crib and put your baby on formula so he will "sleep through the night" like they're trying to make parenting more convenient for you, less like actually having a child to worry about. I'm not knocking parents who can't bf, or are afraid to co-sleep, but I AM taking a stab at those who think I'm wrong for co-sleeping with my baby!!

Melany - posted on 08/05/2009

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Finally! Someone to agree with! I have been searching for mommy friends, but can't find anyone in my area who shares similar beliefs on child rearing! I agree with you 100%!! My son is only 6 months old, and is my first, but I still feel like I know what best for him. better than any expert! You go momma!

Topaz - posted on 08/05/2009

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i support co-sleeping.. i also nurse my 3 month old daughter in bed. it gives me more time to rest and she seems to eat more..

User - posted on 08/05/2009

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I think it is very UNnatural to put you baby in a crib away in another room or just out of your reach. Our babies are meant to be close to us. It is/was the best thing for me and each of my babies. I just wouldn't have been comfortable any other way. You have to do whats best for you and your family.

Christine - posted on 08/05/2009

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I encourage co-sleeping. It creates a bond that can't be broken. I spent every night with my only child and now that we have a second one on the way the same pactice will be followed. We never had any issues or problems with the baby in bed with us. My sister is also Pro Co-Sleeping and encourages it.

Samantha - posted on 08/05/2009

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Right on!!! My son is almost 11 weeks old and has slept with my husband and I since the day he came home from the hospital. I couldn't imagine him being in another room where I couldn't look at him or touch him. I also breastfeed and I believe it really helped me get more sleep in the beginning because I didn't have to get out of bed other than to change him. He also sleeps on his stomach, after the first time I laid him down that way he wouldn't sleep on his back again without waking up shortly there after. He has slept through the night since about 3 weeks old and there is NO WAY I could move him to his crib yet! I completely agree with you and Lisa Moreau. I think people tend to forget that we are indeed mammals, and mothers intuition is best!

Grace-Anne - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son slept with us till he was 2 ish, it def gave us more time to sleep.
It was hard to break him of it. but it was worth it. Now is 3 and goes to bed when he is tired and sleeps all night.
I dont listen to other ppl but its true, a mothers intuition is bbest! do what works for you.

Rebecca - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi! great to hear you co sleep. I had to answer you as I had always wanted to do it. Luckily when I had my baby we lived in Asia where everyone co sleeps, actually when i moved my baby to a bed at 14months I was asked how children bond in the west. haha too true! My baby never screamed for the boob i could always here him wake, and he also enjoyed to sleep on his front. I didn't worry i was right beside him. I just wanted to say good for you, we are only one little corner of the world but i know it is so difficult to go against "society norms". I would like to add that my son's bed is still in our room, he is 17months and we are not concerned if he wants to come to our bed sometimes. whats the problem??! Hooray for natural lifestyle choices.xx

Christina - posted on 08/04/2009

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I co-slept and breastfed both kids and it was wonderful!! In fact they are 7 and 3, (3 year old just weaned a couple months ago) and they still come in some mornings to snuggle. I wouldn't have it any other way and am so excited to have this baby in dec to co-sleep and nurse with as well!! I think its awesome!

Maria - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have twin boys that are 7 months old, and they both sleep with my husband and I. When i put them in their crib, i just feel sad and end up sneaking them in bed with us. Even though they take up 80% of the bed, i sleep much better and i feel like they are safer with us. I loooove it so definetly pro Co-sleeping!!

Laura - posted on 08/04/2009

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With both of my girls I put them to bed in their own bed but when they wake up (the little one to nurse and the big one when she has to go potty) they come in bed with me. I love waking up snuggling (okay, usually it's having my hair pulled or face drooled on). I love it! Good for you!

Heather - posted on 08/04/2009

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I am a mom of 4 and have nursed and co slept w all of my children. I think time frame is relative to every family. My oldest slept w us until he was 6 or 7. My girls were in their own beds by Kindergarten and my youngest is almost 3 yrs old and still co sleeping. Never doubt your own intuitive mind regarding your children.

Angel - posted on 08/04/2009

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I totally agree with co-sleeping. We co-slept with both our sons. It helped me as a breastfeeding mother to get more sleep. As like alot of the other mothers on here said, I felt more secure about having them share our bed rather than have them in another room away from me. We are a close family and I do believe that it is because we have shared so much together. I believe that it creates a good sense of trust and stability between parent & child. So you go right ahead and keep your baby close to u. They are only babies and soon enough will be adults, on their own. Enjoy them as babies.

Jaime - posted on 08/04/2009

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I agree with the co-sleeping since I have done that with my oldest. I still do that with my youngest. They are both boys and my oldest even comes in real early in the morning sometimes. We just move them when we know that they are asleep and sometimes we just leave them there with us.

Diana - posted on 08/04/2009

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We love and enjoy co-sleeping with our almost 10-month old. It seemed like the natural thing to do since the day we brought our baby home. There's also a recent study in the UK challenging the social conventions against co-sleeping. We did have to make some minor adjustments, like moving our mattress onto the floor once the baby started crawling, and relegating the cat to the foot of the bed, but all four of us happily share a queen-sized bed :)

Dana - posted on 08/04/2009

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beverly, we did the same thing in the hospital. they told me she had to sleep in that cold plastic container, but i kept her in bed with me the whole time! we have co-slept since birth. it just seemed right to me (even though i hadn't planned on it) and i wouldn't have it any other way!

Athena - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son is five now, but I did have him sleep in my bed the entire time I breast fed. I don't see anything wrong with it. The only thing for me was I slept on my side with my arm up, because I figured I wouldn't role over that way, that got a bit uncomfortable after awhile. I thought he was sleeping through the night early, but his Dad informed me that he was just helping himself ;-)

Erin - posted on 08/04/2009

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i did alot of research on cosleeping before i had my little one. i decided i wanted to cosleep and got a lot of guff for it. but it has worked for us. It made getting the sleep i needed to be a good mom easier. i heard an ad on the radio a few months back about a "safe sleep day" in LA, where they actually spent money to go out into the community and tell people not to sleep with their babies!!! I had a fit! It is a choice each person has to make for themselves.

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My daughter is almost 7months old now. I'm still breastfeeding and co-sleeping works for us too.

Beverly - posted on 08/04/2009

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ATTN Nicole Beck: GREAT POST!!!! I totally agree!!!



I have been co-sleeping for the last 4 years. There was just somethin strang about me having to put my sonin some plastic bassinet at the hospital, so he slept in the hospital bed with me...they tried to make me stop (with both of my boys) but soon realized, they weren't going to win that fight. Hines (4) and MIles (7mo) and my husband all share our king bed...can geta little cramped at times but I LOVE IT! Especially since I nurse Miles.



POO ON WHAT OTHER PPL THINK ABOUT CO-SLEEPIN, BABY WEARING AND BREAST FEEDING...WE KNOW THAT WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT!!!



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