Pro Co-sleeping!

Katie - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 134 moms have responded )

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I'm looking for breastfeeding friends who co-sleep with their nursing babies. I find it to be the best thing for my family; I did it with my now 2.5 year old son, and it was great. Now I'm doing it with my 3 month old daughter. It provides comfort for her, allows both of us to get more sleep, and strengthens our bond. I also let her sleep on her stomach, as she seems much more comfortable that way. I refuse to take our society's orders on what you should and should not do with your children. Some of those things I agree with, but others I don't; mother's intuition is powerful, and sometimes we know better than the supposed experts who give the same recommendations for all babies and all families, regardless of any of the various factors that influence our situations and lifestyle choices.

Please note: I am not looking to hear from those of you who are against co-sleeping. I am aware of our society's recommendations that tell us not to do this, and I am aware of the reasons they cite as to why. I respect the decision not to co-sleep; to me though, this is the way families have probably slept for thousands of years, and many still do in other parts of the world. I have made my decision after plenty of research, asking opinions of lots of professionals and parents, and my own trial and error to see what works for us as a family. Hoping to find like-minded mamas out there!

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My daughter is almost 7months old now. I'm still breastfeeding and co-sleeping works for us too.

Beverly - posted on 08/04/2009

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ATTN Nicole Beck: GREAT POST!!!! I totally agree!!!



I have been co-sleeping for the last 4 years. There was just somethin strang about me having to put my sonin some plastic bassinet at the hospital, so he slept in the hospital bed with me...they tried to make me stop (with both of my boys) but soon realized, they weren't going to win that fight. Hines (4) and MIles (7mo) and my husband all share our king bed...can geta little cramped at times but I LOVE IT! Especially since I nurse Miles.



POO ON WHAT OTHER PPL THINK ABOUT CO-SLEEPIN, BABY WEARING AND BREAST FEEDING...WE KNOW THAT WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT!!!



Amy - posted on 08/04/2009

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I am also co-sleeping with my son. I wished I had known to do so for my first child, a daughter. I get plenty of sleep to function happily during the day. And I also put him to sleep on his stomach, because it helps him to sleep for longer stretches. When on his back or his side, he startles himself awake with those pesky, uncontrollable new arms and legs.

Jennifer (Elle) - posted on 08/03/2009

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My daughter is 13 months and happily has been sleeping in our family bed since day one! We'd love to be a part of a community that supports that (we're usually the odd ones out).

Ashlee - posted on 08/03/2009

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We co-slept until my son self weaned and started sleeping through the night just before 7 months. It worked great for us and I plan on doing it with out next as Aiden is 9 months and in his crib as he sleeps through the night. The next one is due feb 2010 so basically once baby wasn't in our bed we created another. HAHA Co-sleeping worked for us as we all got a good nights sleep.
YEA co-sleeping!!

Kate - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hi Katie, I have co-slept with all 3 of my babies while breastfeeding, right from the start (even in the hospital). To begin with they all slept up on my chest, on their tummies, then as they got bigger, beside me in the bed. My first two children were also tummy sleepers (if I laid them any other way they would spring awake immediately), so we just invested in a breathe-easy cot mattress when laying them in their cot. My eldest son is now 5, my daughter is 2 and my second son is just about to turn 4 months. I honestly don't know how other women function if they have breastfed babies waking half a dozen times a night and don't feed them in the bed. With two other children to attend to, I think I'd be in a right state with such a small lack of sleep. I find that our bubs sleep better in the bed, my boys seem to have a love affair with using my breast as a warm juicy pillow once they are finished feeding. lol

Katie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I co-slept exclusively with my now 5 month old son for the first 4 months of his life. His father was gone to school so we had the whole bed to ourselves and it worked great, especially because I'd had to have him by c-section and for the first few days it hurt to get in and out of bed, so it was much easier having him in bed with me when he woke up hungry in the middle of the night. He's also been a cuddler since birth and he slept better when we were together and it was nearly impossible to get him into the crib still sleeping, so I got way more sleep just taking him to bed with me. At about four months he started becoming more independent at night, not cuddling as much and taking up more room in the bed. His father also got back home around that time and having him in bed with us no longer resulted in more sleep for me, it was just the opposite. So we moved his crib into our room and he spends most of the night in his crib, coming to bed with me when his father leaves for work in the morning and it works great.



I'd never thought I would co-sleep with my children because of the horror stories about how impossible it is to get them to sleep on their own when you're ready for it, but it hasn't been a problem for us. I plan on co-sleeping with the rest of my children, when I have them, and I'm glad to see there are so many other women out there that do the same.

Barbara - posted on 08/03/2009

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I think co-sleeping is THE MOST important thing in a baby and mommy relationship! It will truly give them a sense of confidence in you and who doesn't love a warm cuddly friendly little baby snuggling with you. There is certainly NO DAMAGE caused by this. What is the big deal. I think the baby will rest sounder next to mom anyways.

Juli - posted on 08/03/2009

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Its great to see so many mommys that co-sleep, im proud to my name down as a co-sleeping mommy!! tho its only in the mornings but i love it :D its the best feeling in the world.... only someone that dose the same can understand.

tbh with you all it stop me from getting low. i was suffering with PND and co-sleeping help pull me out,its that feeling of him being sooo close made me feel like a real mother that did me wonders, maybe only co-sleepers understand what im talking about :-s

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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My son is currently sleeping with me and he definately finds comfort in me being close to him. I have to admit I also love having him bed with me and figure when he is ready to sleep on his own we will make that transition when the time comes.

Helene - posted on 08/03/2009

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hi katie im a mum of five and have found with all five of my kids co-sleeping while nursing was so much easier for me and my child and found it helped with bonding and my husband enjoyed it too it made him feel a bit more involed. all my children have slept on their front because when i had my first son i put him on his back like i was told to be woken up on day one by a nurse who found my son choking on his sick if i wasnt in hospital and the nurse hearing him he might not of been here today .xxx

Annelle - posted on 08/03/2009

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My daughter slpet with us until she was about 21 months or so despite everyone telling us it was a bad thing to do. I say people should mind their own business and you should do what works for you. I also breast fed her up until that time, and even still she sleeps in her toddler bed in our room. I think most people are just too selfish.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hi Kate im glad to hear you didn't give in to society. This being my first child i was completely against co sleeping AT FIRST now i have no idea why i waited so long . So many sleepless nights and up and downs trying to get him to sleep alone i fought ! I gave and he sleeps with my husband and i and i would not change a thing!

Stephanie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I love co sleeping with my children! They sleep better and so do I! knowing that their safe right by me.

Shanna - posted on 08/03/2009

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I think it is the most natural way to sleep!!!! Our dog didn't leave her babies to sleep alone! Also it promotes nursing!

We are HUGE fans of the family bed!!!!!!!!!!

Arwen - posted on 08/03/2009

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I loved co-sleeping. When she woke up, I didn't even have to get out of bed. =)

Alison - posted on 08/03/2009

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Both mothers and babies sleep better when next to each other. I actually read too that cosleeping makes children more independant later in life because their need for closeness has been satisfied early in life....It is great too for breastfeeding if you are able to do the lying down position. I sleep with my daughter every night my husband and I cuddle her until we all fall asleep it is great. I do, however, plan to stop once she is able to roll over because we cant put her in between my husband and I, as he moves alot when he is sleeping as I worry about him hurting her, and I dont want her rolling off the bed and hurting herself.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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"Two thumbs up for cosleeping!! Our babies are MADE to sleep in mother's arms, nursing at her breast through the night. What other mammal leaves her infants in another nest while she sleeps in her own? Unreal!" - Lisa Moreau



couldnt have said it better myself

Beth - posted on 08/03/2009

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I co-sleep with my almost 6 month old daughter. It helps both of us to get more sleep. I let her start out in her crib, when she wakes up in the middle of the night I bring her back to bed with me to feed her, and she stays with me for the rest of the night. This method has worked great for me, because I don't have to stay awake and wait for her to finish, or make her stop too soon because I can't stay awake. I also let her sleep on her tummy. At first only during the day for naps, when I could keep an eye on her. But now she can roll over both ways, so it doesn't matter how I put her down. She is a very happy baby, and I am a happy Mom because I get my sleep.

Marie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Each of our 2 girls co-slept with us (4 yr old and 9 month old), moved the bed to the wall and they did just fine. However, at some point the little ones have to be able to sleep in their own bed. For us, the 6 month mark was perfect and I'm actually getting restful sleep now, unlike when sharing our bed with a newborn. Yes, 6 months of little to no sleep was fine--it was so convenient when baby needs to nurse every 2 hours!! But now they both sleep in their own bed. If Andrea (9 months) wakes up during the night/early morning, I use the rocking chair in their room to rock and/or nurse her before placing her back in her crib. I'm definitely for co-sleeping but the girl's doctor's nurse did scare me that it is possible for mom to roll onto baby and that babies have died that way. Maybe that's why I couldn't sleep as soundly! Good luck and keep nursing!!

Charndra - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hi Katie!




I LOVE LOVE ADORE sleeping with my kids! My baby is just one - if he has a 'tumble' day I know I can re-connect at night and just gush at being able to cuddle up with him at night!




My 4 year old often hops in during the small hours between me and his dad, then just goes to sleep.



My baby feeds to his needs during the night too - I've done it that way twice, couldn't do anything else as this way is so darn EASY! Then it passes...and they are sleeping through all by themselves!



Here are my experiences of feeding to sleep (that terrible rod for the back, LOL...)



http://www.tribalbaby.org/Feedingtosleep...


Cheerio!


Charndra

Nichole - posted on 08/03/2009

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Co-sleeping is amazing!! I know you're not supposed to and blah blah blah, but personally I feel so much better with my baby sleeping right up against me where I can feel her breathing and moving if she wakes up. I told my self when I left the hospital that I wasnt going to co-sleep, but when I got home I was so exhausted that I was terrified that I wouldn't hear he crying once I fell asleep. She's slept with us every night since. Before she started sleeping through the night I could just stay in bed, let her latch on and then go back to sleep. I think that co-sleeping helped her to sleep through the night faster, because she feels more comfortable with me next to her!

Toni-Lynn - posted on 08/02/2009

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I love snuggling my little man at night. It just feels right to me. many people warned against it due to rolling on baby and said DON'T do it, but I am very aware he is there as I think most moms are. I did co-sleep right from the hospital also, nurses encouraged it as well as his DR, He is almost 1 now and he starts night in his crib (that way mom and dad have a little time to ourselves) but wakes up at 3-4am and snuggles with us until morning. And neither my husband or myself would have it any other way.

Happy co-sleeping family here!!!

Cassandra - posted on 08/02/2009

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I love co sleeping. We weren't going to do it at first... but it was so much easier BFing during the night, and it's wonderful having him next to me at night and in the morning. The only bad part is that our son takes up the entire bed somehow.

Katie - posted on 08/02/2009

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I co-slept with my second daughter and it was great. She slept with us till she was six months old and then transfered to a crib in our room. It was a gentle transition for her. She now shares a room with her older sister and the hermony continues. I am a fan of co-sleeping.

Nicole - posted on 08/02/2009

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My daughter is 6 months old and sleeps with us. So much easier when you nurse and the bond we have because of it is great! Everyone around me has babies as well and they keep telling me how bad it is for her and so on and on. But i totally agree with the mothers intuition thing. You know what is best for you and your children! I even tried putting her in the crib but i was the one who kept waking up to go check on her because i was worried. With her sleeping with me i can feel her breathing and it calms me! I love it! Good to see other moms believe in the same thing! Plus waking up in the morning to seeing her smile is the best thing in the world!

Michelle - posted on 08/02/2009

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I looove co-sleeping :) Dahlia is so cuddly and happy and when she's hungry neither of us wake up really. I think it might bother my boyfriend sometimes that I don't cuddle against only him, but I feel like we should cherish the time we have of her being young.

Stephanie - posted on 08/02/2009

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I did the same exact things! I am such a light sleeper that could sleep with him next to me, And i could acctually get sleep , i was really uncomfortable when he was not next to me . I breast feed till about two weeks and i would get him in bed with me a feed him. It was so easy. He slept on his tummy the first day he came home from the hospital even now and he is 9 1/2 months .I feel like if it works for you do it you know the risk and you know your self. So more power to you!!

Angela - posted on 08/02/2009

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I co-sleeper with my nursing baby. I think its the most natural way to sleep. Babies feel warmth and comfort next to their mommy and they sleep longer and sounder. Be confident in your decision to co-sleep, thats how mom's and babies sleep in most other countries :)

Jennifer - posted on 08/02/2009

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I agree with you completely! I am breastfeeding my two month old daughter and she sleeps so much better next to me or on my chest. And my husband and I have found that putting her on her tummy to sleep keeps her comfy longer! She'll sleep five hours at a time like that, which is great for me :)

Jillian - posted on 08/02/2009

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I am pro co-sleeping and I also breastfeed my son. I love having our son in the bed with us, he sleeps better (and so do I). My husband wasn't too sure about it at first, but now he wouldn't have it any other way. My son's doctor is also pro co-sleeping and that is really helpful to ask him questions about it.

"this is the way families have probably slept for thousands of years, and many still do in other parts of the world". My mom says the exact same thing about it too. And mothers know what's best for their children!

Keri - posted on 08/02/2009

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I have been co-sleeping with my daughter since she has been born, despite many telling me we shouldn't be sleeping this way. It just feels so natural to us, and Kailee sleeps sounder, as do I, being able to feel her breathe and move beside me, I can be unconsciously aware of her even during sleep. I could name off reasons why co-sleeping is healthy (including stronger infant-mother attachment, an easier transition with an adult biological pace and studies that show decreased SIDS risk), but mostly my reasoning is that I just love sleeping with her. It can be hard, as the only way she'll go to bed at night is nursing lying next to me, making it mandatory that I am home in the evenings to put her down, but what a small sacrifice to make!

My partner doesn't always agree with me and occasionally will remark on her neatly made crib that is never used, but I have such strong feelings about sleeping with her, I don't care anyone else's opinion. I just know this is right for us.

I commend your choice to co-sleep! My mother co-slept with me to fall asleep until I was eight years old, when I decided on my own that I wanted my own bed. Enjoy this time with your baby, God knows they grow up too fast and we only have this time with them for so long, we might as well enjoy every waking and sleeping moment!

Bri - posted on 08/02/2009

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My hubby & I have co-slept w/our 10 wk old daughter from birth! She absolutely refuses to sleep in her bassinet and it is INDEED much easier to feed her in the middle of the night when she DOES wake up. I wish she would sleep in her own bed, because Daddy and I miss being able to cuddle, but since she doesn't, we embrace it...once she finds comfort sleeping in her own bed-she will be there, but I won't have her being uneasy because the 'professionals' suggest it. We go with what works best for us and thats having her right in the bed or on the couch with us! Because we know she's in the bed, we don't sleep as heavy so we can check on her and we know not to roll, so she's good. My baby will stay in the bed with us until SHE'S ready!

Also, I slept on my belly as a baby 23yrs ago, and while my baby sleeps on her back MOST of the times, we also allow her to sleep on her belly for naps too because she rests easier that way--Dr.'s get me worried from time to time about the whole SIDS thing, but i just keep an extra good eye on her....

Candace - posted on 08/02/2009

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I co-sleep with my 4 week old son, he sleeps better, I sleep better, it makes nighttime feedings a breeze & lets face it babies are GREAT cuddlers :) I actually think him sleeping in the bed with me is safer than him sleeping by himself in his crib; I hear every little grunt he makes and feel it every time he moves so if anything were to happen I am right there and aware of it.

Amy - posted on 08/02/2009

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The best thing in the world for your baby is what works best for them AND you! It has to work for you both. It did for me and my baby and it was the best day of my life everyday to wake up face to face with my baby boy. Now he is 4 months and its not working for the two of us so he is in his own bed next to mine (but still come in for a morning cuddle!). Babies are little for such a short time that if you do decide to co sleep, then enjoy it cause it is such a very short period in your life. I highly recommend, but again it has to work for everyone, including dad if he is also in the bed.

Jessica - posted on 08/02/2009

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Hi, I also co-slept with my children and let them sleep on there belly. My husband was nervous about rolling over on our daughter so I put a body pillow between me and my husband. I also slept on my side with my arm up so it is hard to roll over. Well both kids survived. I only kept them in bed with me until they were sleeping through the night. My children both sleep fine on there own so it doesn't scare them. My parents always had there door open at night so if we were scared we could sleep with them. As long as it dose not interfere with you and your husbands relationship then what is the problem.

Kathy - posted on 08/02/2009

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I would never survive breastfeeding if it weren't for co-sleeping. It's the natural way to go.

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You go girl!!! I have 6 children and have co-slept with the last 4!! Our 15 month old is still sleeping with us and still nursing!! Just makes sense to keep our little ones close, it is so much easier to meet their needs!! The 3 others that have co-slept with us have all adjusted into their own beds when they were ready, all before they were 2 and they have no sleeping disorders.:-) You follow those mommy instincts, we know our babies better than anyone.

Liwah - posted on 08/02/2009

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I've been co-sleeping wif my son since he was abt a week old, although I didn't plan to do so, it has turned out to be the best way for us. He's now abt 6 and half months old now, still breastfeeding and has always slept on his belly. For the last 2 months I've put him to sleep in his cot beside our bed for the first part of the night, but he's always welcome to sleep our bed whenever he wants to, like recently coz of teething he's waking up during the night more frequently. As long as we make sure he's safe, I think co-sleeping is great.

Patience - posted on 08/02/2009

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I was reading someone's reply on SIDS and sleeping on back, I also read an article about SIDS possibly being related to crib mattresses- most are made out of PVC- the most toxic type of plastic and placing baby on stomach made them forced to breathe in the fumes, whereas on the back there was more fresh air...makes you think about both...sleeping on back and cribs...I was a cosleeper when I was a baby, so was my husband and we are cosleeping with our 7 month old son. Being a parent is hard enough, and when you are waking up 2-3 times a night to feed still I can't imagine having to walk over to the crib and get baby, especially if in a different room! Yay moms!

Chantelle - posted on 08/02/2009

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I'm still cosleeping with my 1 year old and don't plan on stopping anytime soon. He has been in our bed since day one, and I wouldnt change it for the world. We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper that has turned out to be an expensive laundry basket :D

Karen - posted on 08/02/2009

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i agree wholeheartedly with you! my daughter is 2.5 now and i breastfed her till she was 2 co-sleeping all the while. i am aware that other communities do it around the world and why shouldnt you it is the most natural thing in the world! And yes it meant that i could get extra sleep!!!!

Johnny - posted on 08/01/2009

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We co-sleep about 50% of the time & love it. My daughter often goes down early in her own crib & never wakes until morning (when she comes into our bed to nurse) so we don't always. But if she's having a rough day or she wakes in the night, we love to have her sleep with us. My husband is the one who usually brings her in, because he says she needs her mommy & daddy close. I'm so grateful to have a husband that feels that bond is important enough to give up a solid night sleep. It's mostly been lovely to sleep with our little girl, although recently she's become quite restless & we've nicknamed her "the steamroller". So it's become a necessity to get the bed to ourselves for a night or two to catch up on sleep. But we'd never deny her the comfort of mommy & daddy. Co-sleeping is a wonderful way to strengthen & bond a family, and can be done very safely. I'm glad to see so many co-sleeping mamas & families on here.

Stephanie - posted on 08/01/2009

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I am a single mom and an avid co-sleeper, I personally didn't even think of doing it any other way. My son who is now seven months old does sleep in a crib for his nap times or just to play. But, at night he sleeps next to me, it is such a wonderful gift to wake up to a smiling happy baby instead of one who is crying in the next room. I believe it makes our days go much smoother because we start out on such a good note.

Katie - posted on 08/01/2009

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Hey, can someone tell me how you respond to individuals on your own thread? I can't seem to figure it out!!

Katie - posted on 08/01/2009

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I'm so excited to get such positive responses from all you ladies!! In a society that frowns upon the practice, it's nice to find plenty of mamas that are willing to go against the norms to follow what feels best for themselves and their families. It is TOTALLY unnatural to stick your baby in a room all by itself!! Keep the stories coming, I'm loving it! And add me on to your circles, I'd love to stay in touch.

Morgan - posted on 08/01/2009

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i co-sleep with my daughter and its wonderful my mother frowns on itand says it will be hard to get her out but i really dont care its my baby and ill co-sleep if i want GO YOU!

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