public breast feeding yes or no?
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Heather - posted on 01/19/2010
i am really shy and i try not to breastfeed in public or around people that i am not to familiar with...cause like sometimes people will look at you the wrong way...and then i feel stupid but not stupid in another way cause it's natural but still shy! what can i do to make myself less shy about that??
Varsha - posted on 01/19/2010
Aww yes!!! anywhere on the earth - it goes without saying - we are moms and feeding them is no offense or shameful act rather then smooching in public. my both babies had fun whether malls, public buses, clinics, etc. just a small cotton covering and the baby goes suckling.....
Misty - posted on 01/19/2010
Oh yes but it should be made more easy like benches or an area I dont know how many times I have had to run to the bathroom to feed my daughter and I hate it I wish there was a spot in most stores or even a little lounge in the bathroom but then again it took them forever to put change tables in so what do you expect
Lara - posted on 01/19/2010
Yes, as long as you are modest. Like some of you said, there are plenty of ways to cover yourself. People now a days except so many things that aren't right, but when it comes to a natural, healthy and beautiful thing like breastfeeding, it becomes taboo! How very twisted this world is!
Dana - posted on 01/19/2010
I always nursed in public and my family thought it was inapproptiate until I proved my point. They realized I was right.... eventually. I had nursing tanks which cover the majority of your breast and only exposes enough for your babe to latch on. I also used a blanket or a sling... depending on where I was and it worked. If somebody gave me a dirty look I thought how horrible it must be for them to not know how wonderful this is. Power to breastfeeding in public....while covering up!
I nurse my little guy in public all the time! When he was a newborn, I generally did look for a family room or quiet corner, just because he and I were both learning the ropes and it was easier to concentrate that way. But now, I find the nearest seat and settle in. That said, I do generally use a cover...not because I'm embarassed, or because I feel I should HAVE to cover up, but because I always feel bad for guys in a busy place like a mall--they probably feel like they're one wrong glance away from a sexual harassment charge! ;-) Seriously, I know some people are very uncomfortable, mostly because they feel like they're intruding into a private moment, so if it's convenient to use a cover, I will; if not, I try to find a slightly out-of-the-way corner or a seat at the back.
By the way, in Canada, breastfeeding in public is a human right. No one can ask or require you to leave a public area because you're breastfeeding (although there isn't anything wrong with making you aware of a family room etc., of course.) I've never had anybody complain or even look at me funny, but I'm always prepared with details about that in case anyone ever does!
Joy - posted on 01/19/2010
Absolutely. I had my first child in 1993 and I used a "over the shoulder baby holder" from CA, which covered both me and my child, but I was once asked to leave a restaurant, and another time told it was innappropriate. My last child was born in 2004, and I actually had to feed my baby while at a preschool parent/teacher meeting, and was told other parents complained! I was shocked! Most people can't even tell when when I nursed one of my four kids. But I think it is other people's issues, and breast feeding is the best thing you can do for your kids!
Leslie - posted on 01/19/2010
YES! breastfeeding is natural for me in public, at the end of the day you gotta feed your baby, no matter where you are or how u look, just do it. I don't cover up why should we, like Lee Jackson says anyone got a problem with it tell them not to look....baby is satisfied thats the main thing...
Kelli - posted on 01/19/2010
No one said, "Hey Katie go use a cover.". We just said, we prefer it when people cover up. That's stating our opinion and preference about something totally not discriminatory. We aren't even saying don't breastfeed without a cover. Just, hey, we prefer them because we value modesty.
And for the record, nursing with a cover and being shut off in a separate room are completely different.
Maybe not to you. I find it offensive. I see someone suggesting others cover up to be pretty much the same as this experience I had where a woman asked me/tried to convince me to go feed my son in the family room. If I want to use a cover, I will. If I want to go feed my son in the "family room" I will. But i don't want to so I don't appreciate anyone suggesting I do so.
Kelli - posted on 01/18/2010
P.S. Asking people to wear a cover isn't offensive. If you can modestly nurse without a cover, that's great! However, I can't do that, and I think modesty is important. If I see someone breastfeeding without a cover I'm not offended, and I would never say anything rude or negative. However, please don't say anything rude or negative/harsh to those who do support modesty.
Crystal - posted on 01/18/2010
YES!!! BABY GOTTA EAT TOO AND THERE THINGS THAT YOU CAN BY AT
WAL-MART TO HIDE YOU/ BABY AND FEED HIM/HER AT THE SAME TIME IF YOU ARE SHY AND DONT WANNA EXPOSE YOURSELF TO THE WORLD I HAVE ONE MY SELF AND I LOVE IT I CAN KEEP EYE CONTACT WITH HIM AND STAY COVERED UP AT THE SAME TIME
yes! i don't feel it is fair to make a baby wait because you have to find a place to hide. I use a nursing cover but my son is starting to dislike being covered now that he is older. I usually just wear nursing shirts or tank tops under a t-shirt so I can nurse uncovered without anything showing. I don't think people know what I am doing most of the time they just think I am holding him. some states have laws about it. where i live you have the right to breastfeed in any public place.
Jennifer, I find what you said a little offensive. If you want to cover up with a blanket when you nurse, that's all fine and dandy. Do whatever makes you comfortable. But I really don't appreciate the fact that you are saying that you think others should do this as well. I have never once used a cover. I feel comfortable without one, I'm sure my son would hate it/just rip it off if I used one, and I really could care less if it makes someone else uncomfortable. If they don't want to see my son eat...well I'm not forcing anyone to watch.
Amanda - posted on 01/18/2010
most definitely yes...I was feeding my daughter one time walking through walmart and she snatched off the blanket leaving my ENTIRE left side exposed...at first I was super embarrassed even though I nurse in public all the time. But the funny thing was that no one really seemed to notice one older lady just winked and smiled so I just covered us back up and finished my shopping and picked up the prescriptions. Most of the time people are to preoccupied to notice what I am doing and the ones that do never seem to care and if I ever encounter someone who has issues with it I guarantee u that I have a wonderful fact filled peace of my mind already waiting
Katie - posted on 01/18/2010
yes just get some wraps if you feel uncomfortable in front of strangers they are great! otherwise go for it mate its a natural part of life if people get offended they can get stuffed! bub needs feeding the same as we do. good luck sweetie
Ereka, I'm still nursing my 13 month old and if he wants to BF when we're out and about then he gets to. I nurse him anywhere and everywhere and I know some people probably think he's too old to still be nursing but I don't care. I'm dang proud of it and you should be proud too! :) For the 13 months that I've been BFing my son, I have only ever had one person say something to me that wasn't postive. It wasn't all that rude but this woman basically tried to convince me that I should go in the family room. "No thanks!" I said with a big smile. I'm sure there are plenty of people who think nasty things but most people keep it to themselves (as they should). We have the right to feed our children when they are hungry wherever that may be. Don't let anyone take that right away from you. I've fed in the car I think twice. And holy cow is it uncomfortable! Next time you're out and your baby wants to eat I hope you will think about what I've said and you find somewhere comfy to sit (or stay right where you are if you're already seated somewhere comfortable) and feed that baby of yours with pride and a smile! :D
Jodi - posted on 01/18/2010
YES YES YES! If women who don't breastfeed their children don't have to go to a nasty bathroom stall or wherever to feed their children neither do we! There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeding your child in public, no matter the means of doing it!
Nicole - posted on 01/18/2010
Yes! I nurse anywhere- even on the bus. Anyone who has ever said anything bad has left feeling really dumb because I give them the most windy fact filled lecture on earth. Heh pretty soon I will be a card carrying lactivist because a friend of mine is printing up business cards with BF laws and info. :D
Ereka - posted on 01/18/2010
I've been breastfeeding my son for 9 months now and i normally go out to the car to nurse because I'm afraid of someone saying something to me. I have no problem with others public breastfeeding I've just been too nervous myself. But reading all of these stories makes me feel better and I should be proud of myself and able to nurse in public, even if I'm at a restaurant or the store.
Nicola - posted on 01/18/2010
yes!!!! I did with my son. ~One day in a supermarket resturant i was breastfeeding my son when i felt a hand on my shoulder- I thought I was going to be asked to leave or put my breast away! This was not the case- it was an old lady- she said it was lovely to see someone breastfeeding their baby and that more people should do it! I was proud to breastfeed my baby no matter where i was!
Dawn - posted on 01/18/2010
yes - i took my baby out at 2 weeks old for our first big outing. she started screaming on the tram so i sat and fed her. i also fed her in the food court in our local shopping center on the same trip. i've not looked back since and at 8 months still feed in public if she needs it.
Ernestina - posted on 01/18/2010
Yes. A baby needs to eat whenever they are hungry no matter where you are.
I breastfeed my son everywhere we go even though he doesn't like to be covered and he pulls the cover off. Just got do be fast about covering up. And don't let peoples comments or looks get to you cuz' your doing what's best for your baby.
Beth - posted on 01/18/2010
Definitely yes!! I breastfeed publicly all the time. It's the most natural way for a baby to eat and a breastfeeding mother might even see you feeding and then feel more comfortable to do it herself! Plus between a burp cloth and your baby eating noone can see anything anyways.
Brittany - posted on 01/18/2010
Yes! It is a natural part of life and it is great for the baby. I don't understand why people feel so uncomfortable or threatened by women who breastfeed in public! They sell some really great cover ups from $20-$200. Wal-Mart has some really nice ones.
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