Sherree - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi, my daughter is 17 m. She is still breastfeeding (or shall we say soothing on my breast) on demand. Whenever I'm around she likes to nurse at least once an hour, let's say, on average. She does it mostly for comfort. Like if someone new comes over, she wants to nurse. Or if she hurts herself. Or, sometimes I wonder if she does it just cause she's bored. She is very demanding lately. She will temper tantrum and cry like she's lost her best friend if I don't respond immediately when she wants it. She looks into my eyes so pitfully and cries her heart out, it's really hard to take. Other times, she is visibly angry and that just makes me mad and not want to respond to her at all. I don't like feeling manipulated. It's getting to that point just lately.
I always wanted to let her self wean. I still do. My question is, is she just at a really needy stage right now and will it get better? Will she self wean eventually (by age 2 hopefully) on her own or is she going to be just getting more and more demanding and I'm going to have to start putting her in time outs and letting her temper tantrum. I'm confused in my responses to her. I've tried ignoring the tantrums a couple times in the past week but in the end, they always end in her coming over to make up, which means nursing her. If I let her come over to make up and pick her up, and don't nurse her, then it starts all over again. I don't think I can follow through on hurting her over and over like that when she's trying to make up. So I nurse her, so what really was the point of letting her cry it out in the first place when I knew that was what she wanted? Other than to teach her that I won't nurse her when she's angry and screaming and being too demanding, only when she's apologetic.