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I am looking for other mom's experiences on the subject, because at this stage I'm just not sure anymore if my daughter's sleep-pattern is normal.
I know she has a strong sleep-association with my boobs and my arms and that's fine with me. I don't mind nursing her to sleep or nursing her back to sleep frequently. I don't even mind having to nap with her every day - I like a nap too after all! I should also add that my daughter has always been very alert and getting her to sleep was a nightmare for a long, long time. I used to have to rock her to sleep standing on the mattress (more bounce) while nursing and singing to her for an hour - now at 22 months we are just nursing to sleep, so we've really come a long way. Still though, nursing to sleep at night takes around an hour unless she refused to nap, though that messes with night-sleep even more. She had gotten to a point where she'd 'only' wake every two hours, but that has changed again recently. When she wakes it sometimes takes me well over an hour to settle her again. I know she wants to sleep, I can tell. She uses one boob, then roots for the other so we swap sides all the while she is twirling the other nipple with her fingers. This can go on back and forth countless times, sometimes she even starts crying.
I guess it's the length of time it takes to nurse her to sleep that worries me and the fact that she clearly wants to relax but can't. I've read all there is about sleep, I am doing my best to maximise her sleep, she gets a lot of fresh air and activity during the day, we have quiet time too, particularly before bedtime, she eats healthy, no TV - I just don't get it.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.