Esther - posted on 09/02/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )
My daughter is 22 months old, she has always been on the small side for her age. She is growing but at 21 months old she was only 25 lbs. She LOVES breastfeeding.. as I do, too. She was exculsively breastfed till she was about 8- 81/2 months old. We tried giving her cereal, but she just wasn't interested. Now, she loves some food, but it's starting to bother me that she'll rather nurse than eat real food. She won't eat unless she can feed herself but then she gets frustrated and throws it. The only thing I can feed her myself is grits with butter, parmesan & cream. Yes, I know it's unhealthy. But she is so skinny that I feel the need to "fatten' her up. Really, it's almost the only food I don't have to fight her to eat. She used to eat veggies with gusto. Peas & green beans were her faves, but now.. its a chore. They all get smooshed on the high chair & I feel like I'm cleaning up more than she eats. My dog is getting so fat! Am I wrong for wanting to cut down on her nursing... sometimes I feel like I'm chained to the couch. I got stuff to do!
I feel like if I just limit her nursing to naptime & bedtime she'll eat more. But she pats the couch & says boobie.. usually that means shes tired. So I'll just lead with that. But we watch tv together with the boob... I feel like its the only form of togetherness we share. When we sit together & both my boobs are out I"m just feeling used sometimes. Wait.. Does that make sense? Because she DEMANDS that I give her the boob she wants.. that she points to & asks for.
I don't mind nursing till she's over 2 years old. But I would like to stop soon after. My hubby kind of expects me to start weaning her when she's 2. I, on the other hand, am willing to let her go till shes 3. But only 1 or 2 times a day. Because for the sheer reason SHE'S RELYING ON IT TOO MUCH. I don't mind that she does it for comfort. But she's substituting meals for booby. I know that's not good for her. She needs more than I can give her now.
My plan is to try to avoid giving it to her unless its after lunch (naptime) & at bedtime. I am I right for doing this? I'm a SAHM & i have a touch of agoraphobia, so I don't go out much. Its not like I can just leave her with a sitter & wean her like that.. which in the heat of a few moments I have thought of.. but I would never do.
I'm at wits end. I feel like I'm an open snack bar for my toddler. Please, any advice would be greatly apprieciated.