Sex & Breastfeeding

T - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




Two questions:
This may be TMI, but now that I am a nursing mom, I am very uncomfortable with the caressing and normal foreplay with the breasts. I feel like I can't be without my bra and pads now...can any relate?

Second, has anyone ever experienced a let down when stimulated or during sex? It has happened to me and has really made our sex life say the


Danielle - posted on 10/11/2009




i must admit that i find having my breasts played with atm a bit of a turn off, for me its hard to think of them as feeding tools and sex objects as well, but try to explain that to my other half lol.

i was warned by my midwife that orgasms can stimulate a let down and not to worry about it, im not sure if it happend to me because like you i didn't take off my bra and pads.

Alicia - posted on 10/12/2009




yes and yes I wore a bra during intercourse while breastfeeding both my children, but when done breastfeeding things were back to normal

Tricia - posted on 10/11/2009




Yes and yes... But I have a solution! Have any of you tried LilyPadz? My husband thinks they are the best thing in the world, because they've made my boobs on-limits again. :-) They're silicone breastpads that stick to your nipples. They put pressure on the nipple so you don't leak milk. They're provide a barrier so it doesn't bother me when he touches. And they're clear, so he can see my boobs nicely. Yay helpful!

I don't really like them for anything else because if you need to nurse while you're wearing them it's a pain. But I love them for sexy time. Here's a link:

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Yes to both! At first it was a bit uncomfortable for me, so of course it made my husband uncomfortable. But as soon as I relaxed and started to enjoy it....well, so did he :) Now the breast fun is one of my favorite parts! And he seems to enjoy it just as much since it's so nice for me....maybe you could just try to ignore the akwardness and see how he reacts when you let him know you like it.

Jeandre - posted on 10/11/2009




Yes to both questions also. At first I would keep on a spagetti top with a bra and breast pads. That way you have most of your body exposed but the breast are tucked away nice and dry :)


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T - posted on 10/11/2009




Oh thanks is soo good to know I am not alone. It's crazy how the boobs went from being a part of foreplay for me to....NOOOOO...they're for the baby! lol...

Aleks - posted on 10/11/2009




Totally agree... No, when I am lactating, boobs are off for my man. He actually laments that they are not his anymore but the baby' And yes, am in need of constantly wearing bra pads ( nipples otherwise too sensitive for just bra alone, not to mention the leaking that still occurs from time to time).
And yes, let down does happen during stimulation, sex and climax. Sometimes when I have done the breast exam on myself I have leaked too.

However, neither I nor my man find it uncomfortable though. There are other ways of having fun ;-) And I must admit, that I do usually wear a bra during - makes it easier that

Terri - posted on 10/11/2009




Yes to both. My breast are off limits to my husband until the baby is weaned. And my LO co-sleeps so if my poor husband can find a night when it is just the two of us in the bed he is lucky LOL!!!

Sarah - posted on 10/10/2009




Yes, and yes. My husband and I agree that my breasts are off limits at this point (to him). It makes it a little weird and uncomfortable. It makes it interesting find other ways to get in the mood though.

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