Should I listen to others about stopping breastfeeding at 15 months??

Ashley - posted on 02/16/2010 ( 204 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 15 months and is still breastfeeding, I am gettin galot of negativity about this. Many people, most of who are nor very educated on breastfeeding seem to be giving me a hard time, neither my son or I are 100% ready to stop breastfeeding, but all the negativity has made me believe I should stop. He doesn't take a pacifier so I think he still needs to sucking for comfort. I don't have to support that I use to, so it's getting extremely difficult. Should I just continue breastfeeding or is really time to start trying to wean him????

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Oneika - posted on 02/18/2010

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that is extreme! at least when my family members asked & I told them why we weren't they said, ok.

Oneika - posted on 02/18/2010

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I say no! My son & I didn't stop until he was 21 & a half months old. The only reason why we stopped before he was two was because I became pregnant. We had him early because I had developed preeclampsia, so when my son started to only BF once a day, I helped him wean so I didn't have to rush a weaning if I had any problems with this baby.

Angie - posted on 02/18/2010

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Do what you feel you should do you are the mom, who cares what other people think.
I have a friend that nursed all three of her kids past a year, even up to two years, and they are all happy and healthy, they also have a great bond with there mother. I don't think you should let anyone tell you what to do with your kids. If it makes you feel bad don't tell people, nurse him at nap and at bed. Good luck, you still have support out there, don't worry.

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2010

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If you are not ready to stop breastfeeding DON'T! It is called child led weaning and I am a very firm believer in. The benifits to both you and your son far out weigh having to deal with what ingnorant people have to say. I nursed my son until one day before he turned 19 months old. The ONLY reason we stopped was because I had an infection and HAD to be on an antibiotic and he was severely allergic. I was heartbroken! My son is almost 22 months old and if we had not had that issue I would probably will be nursing. You have to do what is right for you and your baby.

Asumpta - posted on 02/18/2010

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Listening to what people have to say can make you not to do lots of beneficial things to your child. I think you should continue breastfeeding your son as long as both you and him are comfortable doing so. And gurl if you have the milk give it to him as there is no harm doing so. My daughter is 7months and I plan on breasting feeding her for as long as she would let me:)

Charmaine - posted on 02/18/2010

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Only you can and your baby can decide when you are going to stop, do not listen to other people or their opinions.

Kirsten - posted on 02/18/2010

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I stopped at 7 months with my first as i was pregnant again, we really fought to keep feeding that long as we were both very ill from the delivery and then he was and still is a poorly boy. Times when he was in hospital and didn't want to be touched i would express and freeze my milk. I would express for them to put down his tube instead of them using formula. I have a 4 month old daughter who i had to stop breast feeding to take medication for post natal depression although i put it of for 2 months. The medication wasn't an option after that. There isn't a day that goes by when i don't regret not feeding her myself for longer. There are so many benefits to breast feeding. Children don't need breast or formula milk after 12 months as long as they get a healthy well balanced diet. But i see no harm in continuing, at the end of the day you don't want to feel the guilty for taking away your booby when neither you nor your child are ready. Once you have stopped there is no going back. Stick with it as long as you feel comfortable with it, and remember breast feeding burns an extra 500 calories a day.

Joanne - posted on 02/18/2010

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Yes Yes Yes continue to breastfeed. Well done for getting this far. You are doing the best thing for your child well done. Don't listen to people that are not educated on this matter. I breastfeed my son until he was 23mths old and My little girl is one now and planing on breastfeeding her till 2yrs old or until she wean's herself. Join a Breastfeeding support group, they will help you alot and give you the support you need. I breastfed my son when I was preg and I got a lot of negativity too. But I know I'm doing what is the very very best for my kids. Keep up the good work.

Sa - posted on 02/18/2010

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Dont wean him off till your both ready. i breastfed my son till he was 3yr old. he only went off when his aunty's started teasing him, saying he 2 old to be on the breast.

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You have to do it when u feel ready cause if u stop because of what other people tell u to do will regret it. Im still feeding my daughter she is 14 and half months. I stopped bf earlier with my son as I had little support then and I still regret it and he is 4 now. Good luck x

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

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NO NO NO!!! Please don't listen to what these people are telling you. It seems to always be people with little or no education on breast feeding who have negative things to say about extended breast feeding. Breastmilk has special antibodies that your child cannot get anywhere else. Did you know that the world wide average for weaning is 4.2 yrs. Our society makes it out to be sick and wrong, but it ISN'T the EBF that's wrong, its the way our people MAKE it out to be. They have sexualized the breast and that causes so many uneducated people to say negative things when you EBF. Breast milk changes in composition as a child grows older. BM that is produced for a newborn will not be the same as BM produced for a toddler or preschooler. Why do you think that is? Its because our bodies are built to be ABLE to bBF for an extended amount of time. If we weren't meant to BF past infancy, our bodies would not continue to make milk for as long as needed and BM wouldn't change to meet the needs of GROWING children. Several health organizations recommend bf for at LEAST 2 yrs of age. Its funny how people think they know better than all the studies and professional advice out there. You will know when it is time to stop. Just follow your sons lead & know that you are giving your child the best start possible. Please ignore all of the ignorant people out there that are being negative towards you. Good luck & I hope this helps!

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't let anyone else's opinions keep you from doing what is right for you and your son!! If you still want to breastfeed and he is still getting something out of it (whether that be milk, sucking, or just mommy-comfort) you owe it to yourself and your son to continue until both of you are ready to call it quits. I know it's hard to face other people's opposition (my inlaws have been pressuring me to wean my son since he was 6 months old - now 23 months, and still nursing like a champ!), but you are his mother, and you get to decide what is right for him! So, if he still wants to nurse, and you're willing to nurse him then go for it, and be proud of the wonderful gift you're giving your son!! You're letting him know he is loved, you're giving him nourishment, comfort, and immunity. Know in your heart you are doing the best thing for him and be proud of your wonderful, milk-making self! :) As for the things that other's say, either try to ignore it, as they are just ignorant and scared of boobs, or if you want to reply, kellymom.com has some wonderful info on the benefits of extended breastfeeding, and I believe there are some witty retorts for people who won't mind their own business too!! Good luck to you! And good job nursing for as long as you have!! :)

Christina - posted on 02/18/2010

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If you don't feel that you or your son are ready to stop, then don't. My daughter is only 3 months old, and I already have people telling me that I should stop! Like you, everyone that is saying this to me is very uneducated on breastfeeding, or they're going by what they were told to do with their children 20+ years ago. I regret not following through with the breastfeeding with my older daughter, and you shouldn't have to feel that way with your son. You need to do what's right for the both of you. I used to be a teacher in a daycare, and we had one mother there that worked close by that was still breastfeeding her son at 32 months, regardless of the comments and the stares she received from people, and I had always admired her for that. You do what is right for you, and ignore everyone else. Keep up the good work, Ashley!!!

Laura - posted on 02/18/2010

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Still breastfeeding my 2 year old daughter and will stop when she is ready to stop - i get a lot of negativity from family but it's what is right for both her and me. I listened to too many people and let them influence decisions i made after her birth and i feel i am the only one who can decide what is right for me and my daughter now! Just wish i had had the confidence earlier on. Do what makes you happy - its a big decision and once you stop its hard to go back. Good luck with what ever you decide x

Brandy - posted on 02/18/2010

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Do whatever feels right to you. It's your child and don't let anybody tell you what you should or should not do. I breastfed for 11 months and I didn't want to stop but my son did. It was all up to him. If it's a problem with people around you, try pumping and putting the milk into a sippy cup. That was he is still getting what he needs but nobody is "weirded out" by it. Pacifiers are not good for kids and most people don't seem to understand that. I hope my advice is helpful. I support breastfeeding mothers in everything they do. Good luck!!! : )

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't stop until its right for both of you!! My nephew is 2 years old and still nurses! My son is only 19 weeks, but I won't stop nursing him until he is ready, who cares what everyone else says! The only opinion that matters is yours!

Tracie - posted on 02/18/2010

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Do Not Stop. I nursed all my kids until they were over 2. They are all happy healthy wonderful children. And they stopped at their own pace. My youngest was always very thin and needed the extra calories. My middle was one of five kids in a preschool of 50 who did not end up in the hospital one year with a bad stomach flu. he would nurse even when he was throwing up water the breaset milk stayed down.

Gillian - posted on 02/18/2010

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DO what you thinks best, I have the same problem with so called educated friends! I have just basically just not mentioned it anymore

Susan - posted on 02/17/2010

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I'm just starting to wean my 3.8 year old ! And my boy and I are fine ! not one ear infection too I might add !
Listen to your own instinct. and sucking for comfort is part of what people say to make you think that you should staop ! he IS sucking for BOTH milk and comfort ! and avoiding allergy to cow milk or soy !
You are still giving your baby tons of nutrients and help for his immune system.
Remember that around the world the average age of weaning is 4.5 years.
I thought I would stop at age two but we kept on going and I'm so glad I listened to my gut instinct ! He got calm every time he needed to check in with me or got a bonk or needed me.
Today he is very independant and smart too ! It's good for brain funtion, jaw allignment....

Google > extended breastfeeding
and you may get more answers.

READ : Our Babies Ourselves by Meredith F. Small and also Mothering your nursing Toddler by Norma Jane Baumgarner.
Here's one good point: The Formula industry is just that ann industry... they want to earn a buck that's why they give free formula offers and stuffed animals in a basket right after you deliver !!! Once upon a time women nursed with our portable breasts that don't need to get heated or mixed... and if a woman couldn't nurse for any reason there were wetnurses. no joke we are animals that deserve our own mother's milk.
When my son became old enough of course I gave him cow's milk as well as still breast feeding...but I'd rather have organic goat's milk -it's closer in chemical makeup to human milk.
good luck and just tell those folks who want you to stop - no thank you - but I do appreciate you care, what I am doing works for me ! if they keep it up say it again.
Stay strong in your heart you know...listen to only you and your babe.
best of luck ! :)Susan

Melanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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i have only finished feeding my son.He is 20 months old. I think you should stop when u r ready. Bugger anyone else,he is your son you do what is best for the both off you. I stopped because my boobs where getting to sore and i wanted my body back. He coped quite well.

Naomi - posted on 02/17/2010

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Hell no!!!! You and your child decide when you are ready no one else!! Would you stop giving him potato because someone else told you too? Of course not! Don't worry what others think do what is right for you and your son! My youngest weaned himself at 11 mths and i miss it! My sister is still feeding her son and he is 14 ths with no end in sight. Our kids our choice I say!!!!

Meghan - posted on 02/17/2010

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Don't listen! Resist the peer pressure- remember, in many countries, breast feeding until 2 is perfectly normal, it's only in America where it is looked down on to go past teething. It's a very unfortunate pressure on American moms to wean too early.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2010

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First things First.. you should be patting yourself on the back for doing such a great job! Not second guessing yourself... you are being a good mom there is nothing negative about that!

Kelly - posted on 02/17/2010

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I still occasionally breastfeed my 2 1/2 year old...we're just not ready to stop. Some people seem surprised at this, and I just let them know it's right for us. Don't let anyone pressure you to stop if you're not ready to! There's nothing wrong with breastfeeding a 15 month old!! My sister in law still nurses my nephew, and he's 3 1/2! Do what's right for you and your son, not what others say is right!!

Melissa - posted on 02/17/2010

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You're not ready, he's not ready, no one else matters in my opinion. My daughter is 18 months old, she still nurses and often, 5-10 times a day. We clearly aren't ready either, my husband and friends are supportive, my family makes jokes. I can understand, the negativity and I just say, it's not your call, thanks, or when I ask what you think then give me an opinion. It's not always easy to do what you think is right when the people who matter most tell you its wrong. I say breastfeed, and do it proudly, until you and your son are ready to stop.

Rebecca - posted on 02/17/2010

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Bravo to you for nursing your son for this long! You've given him such a great gift, and yourself too. My son turned 1 on Feb. 14th and we have no plans to wean anytime soon. I am sure that I will start to encounter more "questions" and negativity as time goes on, as well.



I think you already know the answer to your question, because you stated it in your question. However, I know how upsetting it can be to have everyone around you questioning your parenting your choices. I think the best approach is to surround yourself with like-minded, supportive people (get the to La Leche League meetings!), and deal with those who are not supportive by calmly stating "this is what's best for my child and for me; if you can't be supportive, I don't want to discuss this with you anymore." I know that's easier said than done with certain family members or close friends, though, so perhaps you can share the following information to help them better understand your choice:



The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) policy statement on breastfeeding: "Exclusive breastfeeding for approximately the first six months and support for breastfeeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child." http://www.aap.org/advocacy/releases/feb... If your pediatrician believes otherwise, I would find another doctor immediately.



The World Health Org. recommends breastfeeding for up to two years or beyond (their official position is that weaning should be avoided before age 2). http://www.who.int/nutrition/topics/infa...



From La Leche League: "Toddlers breastfeed for many of the same reasons infants breastfeed: for nutrition, comfort, security, for a way to calm down and for reassurance. Mothers breastfeed their toddlers for many of the same reasons they breastfeed their infants: they recognize their children's needs, they enjoy the closeness, they want to offer comfort, and they understand the health benefits." This link has so much great info -- perhaps you could e-mail it to your concerned family/friends? http://www.llli.org/FAQ/advantagetoddler...



From Kellymom.com: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/eb... Tons of great info here!



A scientific perspective: when is the biological normal age for a child to wean? http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/kather...

Sara - posted on 02/17/2010

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I have breastfed 2 children. my first stopped when he was about 16months and only because I found out I was pregnant with his brother and wanted him well weened before I started nursing another. my second son is 14 months and still nursing strong. I got alot of grief from my father in law. but the benefits greatly outway what he had to say. if your son is happy nursing and you and happy nursing him keep going!! perhapes find a la lache league around you if you need more support. you can find them online to find out where the closest one to you is.

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I had problems breastfeeding my son becuase I didn't have enough information or support to do it right. When he was ten months old I finally gave up because he was feeding every two hours day and night. I thought I was the only one who got pressure to stop or to do something "better" for me. Family members would criticize without knowing how much they were hurting my feelings and making me feel like a bad mother for not doing they thought was, again, "best" for me. After I quit I was really sad and lost a huge part of my attachment to my son. I also had a lot more free time and sleep at night, but emotionally it was more draining than losing sleep. I'm pregnant again and part of the reason why I really wanted to get pregnant again was so I could nurse this baby the right way and as long as we both need it. So I think you should listen to what all of these supportive people are saying. Breastfeed until you both are ready to wean. Its hard to stand up to people you love who criticize your parenting, but you should know that many many mothers who had their children before the 70s and 80s were encouraged not to breastfeed even by their doctors. Its amazing that this still happens today even when we should all know that breastmilk is the Best formula for your baby and the Best way to relax, connect with, and enjoy your baby.

Rachelle - posted on 02/17/2010

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Let me be one more person to say that this is your decision! Also, if you let others pressure you into quitting sooner than you want, you're probably going to forever regret it and feel sad and angry that you and your baby were robbed of that time AND resent those people who are pressuring you forever as well. One more thing to consider.....there will be many more occasions when you'll want to make one decision for your child while others may disagree and again pressure you. My boys are 7, 6, and 3....it happens.....so consider this your first opportunity to practice sticking to your guns and be your child's mom.....you're the only one. Maybe ask those people who are pressuring you if they are open to your parenting advice for them????? Do they have perfect children? Do they havesome special training or experience that makes them a better mom for your baby than you? Hang in there!

Ellen - posted on 02/17/2010

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this baby is YOUR child, to hell with what anyone says!! i have people telling me I won't bf after my lo has teeth but hey I plan on bf until he's at least 2. Wean when YOU AND YOUR BABY are ready not when other people are telling you to.

Kristen - posted on 02/17/2010

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Ummm...no. Continue breastfeeding. It's for your and your child's benefit only. Not someone else's! Who cares what they think?!! I don't. There are people that ask me when I'm going to stop breastfeeding my almost 15-month old daughter and I just tell them when we're ready and that I need their support if it's family or friend talking. I'm having a hard time myself trying to figure out when to wean also. I have a friend with a 2 year-old whom she still breastfeeds. They aren't ready to stop either. It's hard to break that "forced bonding" which is what I call it. It's so beneficial. Just keep on. You can do it!

Kristen - posted on 02/17/2010

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Don't stop until you and your baby are ready. You will know, and it will probably happen gradually. Of my 4 kids, I BF them between 17 - 30 months each. Each of them gave it up at their own pace. My youngest is 27 months now, and still gets one feeding before he goes to bed. He can live without it, but we both enjoy that bond that won't last much longer. This is your choice, and only you and he should decide how long to continue..

Tanya - posted on 02/17/2010

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Don't give up Ashley because of what you are being told, and everything negative around you. Let your son tell you when he is done, or when YOU are truely done.
I know what you are going through, the only person who is 100% behind me is my husband with breastfeeding our almost 2 year old son. I am also planning on double nursing as I am pregnant and have no plans on stopping because of it.
I have reduced the amout that my son nurses, but I did it over time and let him adjust to it.
My son now sleeps 12-13 hours a night with one nursing just before bed and at times during the day when we are home.
We have taught hime some little signs to let us know he wants to nurse that no one else know about, or needs to know about.

Stay strong and do what you feel is the right decision, not because someone is telling you too!

Lisa - posted on 02/17/2010

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You do what is right for you and your son. the other people's opinions will not matter to you in a few years, but knowing you did what is right will. I am still nursing (once a day) my 2 year old because he is not ready to stop. I have slowly reduced the number of feedings and now we are down to just at bed time, when i am home ( i travel for work) Hang in there, this is a special time that will not come again!

Rosalinda - posted on 02/17/2010

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I believe you should do what you feel is best for your baby and right now that is continuing to breastfeed. Many mothers breastfeed til their children are two years old some even longer. You should be proud that you have been able to continue to breastfeed, it can be a challenge at times.

Kiersten - posted on 02/17/2010

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Breastfeeding is such an incredible experience between you and your sweet baby- that many people (esp if they have never done it) don't understand. Only you, your baby and your husband can be the true authorities on when the time is right to stop. I breastfed my first two until they were a little over two years old. Then they began tapering off, and pretty much weaned themselves. They felt secure and good about things, and that made me feel great knowing that they had made that decision and felt good about it. I am now breastfeeding my third and will continue as such until he is ready to be done! Good luck to you- just remind yourself that you and your baby have a connection and bond that enables you to know your baby more than any one else out there. They may have good intentions, but if what they suggest is not something you are comfortable with, it's ok to disregard their suggestions and stick with what you know in your heart to be the best for your family.

Julie-Anne - posted on 02/17/2010

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ALL of these mums have great advice - KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!! I've felt the same negativity, sometimes feeling pressured that I'm not doing the right thing...but I've decided to stop listening to them and just listen to what my 15-month-old son and I need. I have concluded that anyone who gives me grief about me still feeding my son is jealous that they didn't do the same thing, and now remind these pessimists that the World Health Organisation (and the Australian Breastfeeding Association) recommend breastfeeding for two years. That seems to keep them quiet, and after all it is our decision - I know I'm doing what is best for my son and I - there's nothing better that I could possibly give him. Keep it up Ashley!! :)

Lydia - posted on 02/17/2010

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Hi, I breast fed my daughter until she was 15 months, but it was the right time for us both to stop, it felt right to stop then, however I'm now breast feeding my son, he is 13 months old, and I am not planning on stopping yet, as he still requires his wake up morning fed and just before bed fed. However I do not feed him to comfort him, as I believe this is unnecessary at this age, and is probably just habit. Neither of my children have had any type of pacifier, although my son does suck his thumb now when tired, but this only started when he was about 10 months old and I had stopped feeding him through the night. Please do not give up on breast feeding your son, it's the best possible start to life and such a fantastic time for the two of you to bond closely. No one else can have that bond, hence the people being unsupportive probably never breast fed anyone, or didn't have the correct support either. Keep going until it feels right for both you and your son, only you have the right to decide when enough is enough, as it is your body after all. All the best, Lydia :-)

Tanja - posted on 02/17/2010

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Don`t stop!!! Please don`t!!! My son was 22 months old when he stopped by himself. Breastfeeding was the best time in my life. That was time I spend with my children and it shouldn`t be negative.

Miranda - posted on 02/17/2010

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I weaned @ 13 mos bc of pressure from family and coworkers. I thought *I* was ready bc of all the lines I was fed *get your body back*... but he was sooooo soooo upset and it was pretty emotional, so now Bfg my 3rd, I will just follow his signs.

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I am still nursing my son who is 2 and a half. He doesn't nurse very much, but he really seems to need the comfort and it helps me get him down for a nap and to bed at night. When he hurts himself nursing makes him feel better instantly and when he's sick and won't eat anything else it makes me feel good to know that he's getting something nutritious. I nursed my daughter until she was three and I'll wean my son when he seems to be ready. I'm sure some people will think that I'm crazy or extreme, but for me this was about what my kids need and want... not what other people think. My daughter is very secure and strong and so is my son. I have no regrets. Just do what's best for you and your son. You're a good mom. Good luck!

Lorri - posted on 02/17/2010

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You and your son will know when it is time. It is no one else's journey but yours and your sons. I would still be feeding my son now at 18months if he would have me.
There is only positives that can come from this. Itl make him stronger and healthier physically, mentally and a better bond between child and mother. Not to mention the benifits you will reap.
Stuff em - mum know best!

Pauline - posted on 02/16/2010

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hi Ashley, i am a mother of 9, 7 of which i gave birth too & 2 are my step-children but out of those 7 i was able to breastfeed 4 & each of those 1's i breastfed i chose to keep them on the breast til they were each 3 years old & i loved it i wished i could of breastfed all my babies, my oldest son was 6 months old when i stopped breastfeeding him only because i got a bit run down, my other 2 i tried to breastfeed but couldn't cause they are twins...but i had no problems feeding my other 1's i chose to stop i didn't want to listen to anyone else about giving it up & i didn't care where i was i'd breastfeed, if i was shopping, at mcdonalds anywhere if my babies were hungry i'd feed them....if i had to i'd make sure i was wearing a real huge t-shirt & if my baby wanted a titty i'd give them one, i'd just pop them up under my t-shirt & give them a feed - it didn't bother me & i couldn't care less what other people thought so carry on with what your doing if your happy with it......Good luck

Mollie - posted on 02/16/2010

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My son is 14.5 months and still nursing, minimum, 4-6 times a day. I'm going to let him self-wean and am glad I made that choice early! I haven't received any negativity (yet) about still breastfeeding him but I'm also pretty open about it. One mom recently told me that she admires me for keeping with it so long! Her goal is to give her daughter breastmilk 'til she's 6 months and she's 4 months now. I can't imgaine trying to force Elijah to wean at 12 months! He obviously still needs it, for nutrition and comfort, and I'm not going to force him to "give it up" before he's ready. Surround yourself with support, even if it's on-line! And try to get some bfing lit. to educate those who need some schooling. :) Best of luck and keep up the great job!

Jessica - posted on 02/16/2010

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No, keep breastfeeding!! My son is 17 months and still nurses. I was originally only going to nurse for a year, but he was too attached & neither of us were ready to stop. We still aren't ready. He will stop nursing when he chooses to & until then I'm going to gladly nurse him, no matter what anyone else thinks.
You can tell the people that are giving you crap for nursing that it is recommended to nurse until the age of 2 years old.

Becky - posted on 02/16/2010

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The only right time to wean is when you and your child are ready for it (or when you have no choice for a medical reason or something.) There is no magic age when you "should" wean. I know it's hard when you don't have your family's support, and even harder when they openly criticise you, but ultimately, you need to do what is best for your child, and only you, not they, know what that is. If you're not ready to wean, don't let them bully you into doing it!

Ginny - posted on 02/16/2010

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This is a choice to be discussed by you and your husband only... others should not have a say in it. The best thing to do is not to let anyone outside of you and your husband know your are even still brestfeeding. Just tell others you are going to put him down for a nap when he needs to feed. Thats all they'll see is you leaving the room to go put him to bed when you need to feed him. If you think it's not time for you to wean or your son it probably isn't. You can always talk to your doctor and to get positive support you can try to join brestfeeding support groups. Blieve me i have got all the negative feedback there is; not bc my daughter is too old but like you said no one around me is educated on the subject of brestfeeding.
Good Luck, stay positive and know that you are doing a great job.
p.s. you can always pump!

Sarah - posted on 02/16/2010

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It's hard as a new mom to tell your family and friends that you don't agree with them and have different plans for YOUR child. It's a very delicate situation to let them know that you are firm about what you want to do without insulting them. You can state your facts: breastfeeding provides proteins, nutrients, and antibodies that cow's milk and formula can't. It reduces the incidents of illness, and reduces the risk of childhood obesity. Or you can just say, 'it's worked well so far, so I'm going to stick to it.'

It's hard, but YOU ultimately decide what's best for your child, and sometimes telling your family, friends, etc that plainly is what you need to do.

Kari - posted on 02/16/2010

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If your son is not ready, then you know the answer to this. Weaning before the baby is ready can cause issues, especially if some of the nursing sessions are strictly comfort. If you are still comfortable with it and have no issues then just ignore those negative remarks. You are doing what is best for your son. My son, 18 months, still nurses a minimum of 3 times a day, more if he's sick. I have no issues and while I feel that my in-laws don't agree - I am doing what's best for him and will continue until he is ready to wean. *hugs* Stick to your guns mama -

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There is nothing wrong w/ listening to other people's ideas, but (IMO) don't EVER let someone else's opinion keep you from doing what is best for you and your family. Please only wean if you are ready regardless of what anyone else has to say about it.



It isn't time until you decide it's time. Whether you start weaning him now... or let him self-wean. YOU are the mom. :)

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