Sleep routine. Need some advice!!

Ava - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 months old.

A few weeks ago he started napping horribly and is now chronically overtired. He fights it every time I try to put him down.



At this point, I'd like to put him on a schedule and eventually get him caught up on sleep...



But since he is overtired...I don't know where to begin?????



And I don't think I completely understand the nighttime routine.

Am I just supposed to do a few things (bath, story, feed..whatever) and then put him down in the crib and BAM he's supposed to fall asleep? LOL I dunno... I'm lost!

Right now, I am swaddling him and rocking him to sleep...everytime!

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Ava - posted on 03/29/2010

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Yeah I do not plan on letting him cry in his crib...I just can't! Plus, I really don't think it would work for him.

I don't mind that he still wakes up to nurse...I just need some kind of structure or something to ensure he is getting all the sleep he needs... and also...so when it's leepy time it isn't a painful ordeal. lol

Allison - posted on 03/29/2010

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I wouldn't worry too much about developing a schedule. Their sleep changes so much in the first year that (teething, growth spurts, illnesses, developmental milestones, and separation anxiety), in my opinion, you work to hard trying to get *back* to the schedule that it's just too stressful for mom and baby. Just follow baby's cues.

None of my kids have ever slept all night until later on (like age 2) but I think it's really normal.

I'm also not a big fan of an approach where you put baby down in bed, walk away, and let them cry (even if you come back sometimes to help). I think it's confusing to babies because if they cry during the day, you come to them, so why don't you do so at night? Also, research has shown that it can be harmful to the parent-child attachement and can cause an increase in stress hormones in the body. Plus, if it's so hard for a mom to let her baby cry, it just can't be right.

Eventually they do sleep well, no matter what you do. And they are only little and need nighttime support for a little while, in the grand scheme of things. They do grow up and sleep without you!

Tracy - posted on 03/29/2010

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Naps are very important. a good book "healthy sleep habits, happy child" by marc weissbluth. sleep should look something like; bedtime 6-8pm, awakening 2x's 2 eat, start day 7am. nap 9am, nap 1pm, maybe nap 3-5pm. I just put my twins in bed to nap. they cry alittle the first few days. I would lay them down. Than take a shower, by the time I go out, they would be asleep. I worked on naps first. We got them down. We are now working on sleeping through the night. they are 7 mo.

Judith - posted on 03/29/2010

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MY DAUGHTER DOES THE SAME THING!!! Ijust gave up and am at her wants and needs. When u stop fighting them, they begin to leave u alone. also, my daughter got sick and was like ur baby for like a monthand a half and then she was ok.

Ava - posted on 03/29/2010

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He only falls asleep while nursing when he is going down for the night...not for naps.

However, after he wakes up early from a nap and I try to put him back to sleep...I end up having to hold him lately because he likes to nurse whenever he wants during his nap. He'll sleep...then nurse for a few secs...sleep..repeat.

April - posted on 03/29/2010

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15 months here and still doesn't sleep thru. does he fall asleep on the breast when you nurse? that's the only way my son will go to sleep. rocking works but only after a nursing session, but it takes forever.

3 months is prime time for a growth spurt. it is also the age where they sometimes do marathon nursing....have you tried just offering him the breast even as often as several times an hour? it might not be what you want to do but it sure beats rocking!

Judith - posted on 03/29/2010

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my baby is five months old and she still does not sleep thru the night. she wakes up constantly tp eat. my other two didnt sleep thru the night either. some babies are like and others, like my nephews sleep thru the night after the first week they are born. it is a trial and error. i say do ur night time routine and dont vary from it so they understand that it is night time and time to sleep.things dont happen like on tv. it takes time. i dont like the cry it out method, i would get her to sleep, put her down, pad her back for a little and leave her. if she wakes up again, same thing. studies say that it takes one week for kids to get it and two so they can sleep thru the night. hang in there

Anne - posted on 03/29/2010

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At 3 months old he's probably too interested in what's going on to co-operate with going to sleep. I never found any of the bedtime routines in books to be realistic and I always had to rock my baby to sleep. It was the only way without letting her cry it out. Some people have babies who go to sleep easily like that but we didn't. Bath time was exciting, story time was exciting, massage was not welcome, feeding was not welcome until she was nearly asleep...

So if it works for you I'd keep doing it. As for the naps we always found that with our distractable baby she had to be taken out in the pram, the car or in a baby carrier to go off to sleep. If we didn't do those things she would go the whole day without a nap and be extremely upset and difficult to settle by evening.

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