Christine - posted on 02/13/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi all- I haven't posted on here forever. Been fun reading to catch up!
I am due in 3 weeks with a baby boy. I have a 16 month old that is still nursing. My milk dried up somewhere around 20 weeks and I thought my toddler would wean at that time but she didn't care at all. If anything, her nursing has increased. She has learned to verbally ask to nurse (pulling at shirt saying "mom mee nur?") and it seems like since she learned that, she ALWAYS wants to nurse. She seriously asks 7-10 times daily. Is night weaned, though. And I am able to say later or not now from time to time without too much trouble.
My plan had been to wean her sometime around a year but when we got there neither of us were ready. I then stated that I wasn't going to tandem nurse but it's become obvious that we're going to be doing that, as well. She still isn't ready to wean. My husband wanted her weaned before a year and is 100% unsupportive of tandem nursing. He thinks it's weird. I don't know anyone who has tandem nursed nor do I live in an area where there is an active LLL group.
Is there anyone that can give me some advice on how to make this the most successful experience for the 3 of us? I did buy a moby wrap to hopefully learn to nurse the baby in so my toddler won't notice and get the idea everytime I nurse the baby. It's really important to me, however, that my toddler not feel neglected or left out. I am a stay at home mom and we are very bonded. Any support and advice would be appreciated!