Lisa - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
I've been nursing our 26 month-old daughter since birth with the intention to allow her to stop when she's ready. I've always loved the bond we share. Since I'm a working mom too, and pumped like crazy when she nursed for nourishment, I loved having our nighttime cuddling on the boob. We still cuddle at night she she can nurse in my and my husband's bed at least once per night, sometimes more if she's sick or waking up more frequently and wants the nipple. She never took to a pacifier. We have a co-sleep bed attached to our queen-sized bed, which she uses about 50% of the time.
My problem is that my husband is less and less supportive of this choice of having our child in bed and becoming increasing frustrated (we're both sleep deprived, but what parent isn't?) and blaming me for her awakenings because she knows she can "get the boob." Has anyone else experienced this? How did you deal? I'm getting frustrated with my husband because of his lack of support. He's convinced that her multiple awkenings during the night is harmful to her development; the research I've read is that awakenings don't matter, but entire duration of sleep + nap matter. Of note, he's a pediatrician. I am also a physician but not peds. Anyone have any research articles they can quote on sleep and toddlers?