Anne - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I would like an idea of what others consider normal for the amount of accidents and number of times their toddler get hurt. I feel like my little girl is particulary accident prone to the point where I can't leave her with anyone in case she gets seriously injured. My friends all expect me to leave her with a sitter and some have kindly offered to babysit themselves but I keep declining and none of them understand my reasons. To give you an idea; by the time she had been awake for 4 hours this morning my little girl had 2 major accidents - one serious whack to the back of the head as she fell off a shoe rack and one accdient where she fell over a plastic toy box she was carrying and scraped the skin off her legs and nearly choked as she fell on to the side of it with her windpipe. She already has a big bruise to her face and a big purple lump on her head from 2 separate play park accidents in the last 3 days and graze on the back of her leg where she was sliding around on a park bench. Other mums tell me that their children bump their head regularly but my daughter manages to get minor bumps on the head around 20 times a day and several major whacks (feet go from under her flying through the air, landing on the back of her head) several times a week. It's not that we are not being careful. I never take my eyes off her, I follow her around all day, averting hundreds of disasters, but sometimes I just don't have enough free hands (I need at least 6!) or I don't react quickly enough, or someone has said something to me and I have turned my head for literally 1 second, and sure enough she gets hurt. She is very active, never stops, completely fearless and wreckless, climbs on everything. If she falls and hurts herself she is trying to get back on the thing that hurt her while she is still in floods of tears. My mum, a primary school teacher of 30 years experience, has said that she has never seen a child as wild. Whenever I try to eat my meal and her dad or granny are running around after her while I do this she always has a big accident. We have covered the floors in foam mats but she manages to find the bit near the door that has no mat with the back of her head. Everything in the house is padded now but she still manages to find something. She got a black eye from a cardboard box that the delivery man had left. We took her to the park and 30 seconds after getting out of the car she had found the only big stone in the grass to fall backwards and hit her head off. Other mums have said to me 'you can't take your eyes off them for a minute' but it seems to be just a saying because then they stand chatting while their little one toddles around - without coming to major harm! I am fielding accidents at a rate of one every few seconds! So is this more normal than I am thinking? I haven't seen any other toddlers in any of the groups we have been to that are quite so impulsive and active. Do any of you have the same problem? Do any of you feel that you can't leave your little one in the care of anyone? I'd like an idea of how frequently other toddlers have little accidents (stumbling, minor bumps, no real harm) and how many bad ones (big bruises, bad head bumps, significant injuries) they have in a day.