trying to get my 15month old of the breast having major trouble with it any ideas ???

Natasha - posted on 06/17/2011 ( 29 moms have responded )

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my daughter is very attached to me i'am finding it so hard to wean her my 1st son was so easy as i fell preganat wen i started to wean him so he disliked the milk on his own.

any ideas ?? she has never taken to a bottle only a sipper cup and has refused formula all the way threw only breast milk

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Andrea - posted on 06/17/2011

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Every child is different, every child has different needs you could find out what is it that she is getting from nursing and find a new way of giving it to her, now if that doesn't work you can always put some yacky tasting thing in your napless and hopefully she will stop nursing

Sarah - posted on 06/20/2011

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LOL! I don't need a PHD to know what i'm talking about! You may not realise that you're not the only one who can research these things! Maybe your American rules are more relaxed but i have consulted 3 maternal and child health nurses, a lactation consultant, a nutritionist and a paediatricion, I've read a thousand pamphlets, articles and forums so i think i know what i'm talking about!

My 1 year old CAN get my shirt up and latch on by herself when i'm asleep? Would you say that is too old to be breastfeeding? I'm sure the World Heath Organisation wouldn't! You can have your opinions about breastfeeding but don't preach your opinion to other people without specifying that it's your opinion because people can get the wrong idea. I was breastfed til 3 and clearly I'm fine! Never had more than a cold in my whole life actually! So there's living proof extended breastfeeding is beneficial!



Taking what you have said to the extreme, do you have to flavour everything to convince your children to eat/drink it? Because thatis just digging yourself a grave! If your children won't drink milk without the chocolate, won't eat vegies without cheese or sauce, if you add additional sugar and salt to everything your children eat then your children will grow up unhealthy and overweight!



As bridget said, CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE DRINKING JUICE! This information comes from many different health professionals! 3 MCH nurses, midwives, a paediatrician, a nutritionist etc.! NO ONE i know would consider juice an appropriate thing to give your child on a daily basis!!!! I'm not perfect, my daughter has had juice twice in her lifetime (extremely diluted and only a few sips) so i'm not saying that i totally follow the rules but I KNOW where to draw the line and giving your child juice every day is TOO MUCH!

They should ONLY be drinking water, and milk (be it breast, formula or cows). NOTHING ELSE BECAUSE IT IS TOO MUCH SUGAR!

Also I'm not a perfect breastfeeder and no i don't think i would be a wet nurse thanks!

Why do women who have problems always assume extended breastfeeders had it easier than them?

Every woman has their problems and yes i too had to express before and after every feed for 4 months or more because my supply wasn't good, but it got better and i did not have to supplement with formula.

I also had bleeding nipples for months every time i fed her because she would feed for 2 or 3 hours at a time. She had sucking blisters so my top was wet with our blood when i was done.

And i got mastitis! And no, i couldn't give her to anyone else even her dad for more than a few minutes! But i stuck with it because i know what's best for my child.

I don't know what you are to put in formula to flavour it up but i sure know that no doctor would recommend chocolate! They should have their license revoked for recommending that!

There would be something available that is appropriate for infants and children that isn't packed with sugars and caffeine.

Nayyara - posted on 06/20/2011

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hi guys. I just want to add some comments from my personal experience. I weaned my son when was 2. And he never took bottle, formula in his life and I tried to give him cows milk when he was one but he was not much interested. So given this background I learned following things when I weaned:

- I had to give him a flavored milk to make him drink but i looked for some healthy options. those were honey, jaggery and pediasure. yes they contained sugar but also a lot of nutrients too.

- he started taking more interest in other foods and his weight gain was improved after weaning. I guess the reason was my milk supply was reduced in last few months and still he was insisting on breastfeed than other foods due to comfort reason. So if your toddler is not eating enough and there is low weight issue as was in our case weaning may be helpful (still after 2 years in my opinion). And by saying this I do not mean breast milk is less nutritional but it may not be enough if other food intake is low.

Bridget - posted on 06/20/2011

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Kids absolutley do NOT need to drink juice. If you chose to then thats your choice, but they dont need it. My daughter is 12 months and only drinks milk, and occasionally water. She has never gotten acid rash or had any problems. She eats well, and drinks plenty of milk. Of all of the researce Ive done, and info from doctors Ive never seen anyone saying juice is necessary, ive heard the opposite, even watered down its unnecessary sugar that kids dont need in their diets.
I didnt have to wean my 21 month old, she weaned herself at 9 months- I suspected it was because one of my breasts wasnt producing enough milk. She weaned off one side, then a month later the next side. Now I have a 3 month old who also seems to struggle on the same side. At that point my daughter wouldnt drink formula, her doctor suggested giving her some vanilla pediasure in the formula- just a little to sweeten the taste, and then decrease the amount until I cut it out completely. It worked like a charm.

Sarah - posted on 06/20/2011

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@Amanda, i think maybe you should check some of your info before giving advice? :)
3 and 4 is not too old. Children get all the nutrients and antibodies from breast milk as long as they are bing breastfed. If i drank breast milk now i would still get the nutritional benefits! It doesn't mean they get less nutrition from food as they still eat the same as children who are not being breastfed. IMO breast milk is much better for a 3 year old than cows milk! Though i don't know if i'll still be feeding by then, i just mean your facts are wrong.

Chocolate syrup would also be a big no no! 1 because that is A LOT of sugar to be washing over their teeth and 2 because that is A LOT of sugar for their system! Children under 5 years aren't supposed to drink anything other than water and milk... Not even juice! I know 5 is a little extreme but encouraging your baby to drink chocolate milk isn't going to be beneficial for him/her at all.

I'm not having a go or anything :) Of course you can do as you wish with your baby but i just thought i'd point out to others who may choose to take your advice on board, that it's actually a bit incorrect. sorry! Hope i don't seem mean now :(

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Tania - posted on 06/11/2013

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Breast feeding is a very personal choice for every mother and how long they breast feed @ Amanda. I breast feed my son until 22 months because I was going to teacher's college and I needed to ween him off. Also, he was around so many other kids that he was kind of not wanting to anyway, so it was easy with him. With my daughter, she is 15 months, I would like to stop breast feeding NOW. But, only because I do not have a great relationship with it as I did when it was my son. Partially because she bites and sucks too hard. My nipples are swollen and soar. Also, I had just the right amount of milk with my son and with my daughter my books are milk faucets. I could feed the neighborhood. My boobs are always engorged, I always feel this pull when she sucks and it gets my oxitocen, the natural chemicals in my body to start going and that gives me cramps. So, depending on your relationship with breastfeeding, I say do it as long as possible, but once you feel anxiety about it and resentment, stop right away, it's not good for you and the child will feel it. So, I am trying to distract my daughter right now with other things. I will do one feeding in the morning and one at night, which can last an hour or more, but jby night I am so engorged anyway. But weening takes awhile and can't be done suddently because of engorgment. It can be done slowly but surely.

Tanya - posted on 06/21/2011

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a friend of mine weaned her son by putting band aids on her nipples and said she had "owwies" and that it hurts her to feed with them... it worked right away but she had to wear Dora band aids for a weeks..lol

Lady - posted on 06/21/2011

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Sorry hun but she'll wean on her own. My son was 20 mths when he weaned himself and i thinkit was because i was 3mth pregnant which make milkj yaste different n he didn't want anymore. All he new was breast milk as well but i did pump every now n then giving my husband a chance to feed him or whenever i needed to run errands. I hope it alll works out for u. If u don't mind me asking y r u trying to wean?

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2011

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Well all I'm saying is that 4 is too old to be breastfeeding "in my opinion"....Also my information came from a person with a PhD...they are still getting some nutrients as the same as someone with cancer would drink breast milk to get nutrients....the cholcoate milk is just a flavoring factor also came from someone with a PhD..it's just one little drop is not going to harm their teeth or their system in any way, it is just a flavoring factor to help them with the taste if milk just like they do with formula..i dont know how much chocolate you put in your milk to make it so sugary but it's probably too much, just one drop does the trick with no harm...so maybe you should check your info before you make people think that my information is wrong when it comes from someone who has been a pediatrician for years. :-) obviousely I would say you've never had a problem breastfeeding...in the old days you may have been the wet nurse for other children...I myself have had troubles producing breast milk like a lot of other women who are a part of this group because they have issues producing. My child was very difficult..no pacifier, no formula, not even baby food, she refused it all...noone not even her father could watch her for even 10 minutes because she was so attached to me, i had to pump bottles driving down the road because that was the only time I could pump a bottle because her just breast feeding she would not eat enough to be satisfied...so I have seeked help through many professionals and all my information has come from them not from others with experience. I never said they got less nutrition from food just because they are being breastfed...if a 4 year old can come up to you and unbutton your shirt and start feeding themselves...they are a little old! :-) Im not sure where you got no drinking juice info. You have to supplement what they drink during the day. WIC gave me things for juice for my daughter. She can't just drink milk all day long because babies bodies digest milk quicker than anything else and they can wind up getting an acid rash which is basically like pooping out stomach acid, so a no juice policy is just a little rediculous, you are of course only supposed to give them 4-6 oz of juice a day so if it gets watered down you can strech that to 3x a day which cuts down on the intake of cows milk. Because too much juice can give them a tummy ache thats why it's only 4-6 oz a day.

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2011

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My pediatrician told me to try a little bit of chocolate syrup in milk to see if that could entice her to drink milk. If shes never had formula she will probably hate it...stuff it pretty gross tasting and I dont blame my daughter one bit for not taking it at all...as soon as the nipple would get close to her mouth and she could smell the formula she would throw it. But if some chocolate in the milk doesnt work gerber smart sips are pretty tasty but are recommended for children 1+

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2011

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4 is a little too old to be breastfeeding. It is good to go long but if you go too long they are not getting the nutrients a 3-4 year old needs and it also will make them more dependant on your boob instead of food. My daughter never took a pacifier, or formula and her father has never helped out with the bedtime routine so I knew she could smell my milk everytime I picked her up. I am still lactating even tho she has been off the boob for almost a month now. All I can say is keep trying different things. I found that my daughter likes the Nuby sippy cups with the soft top kind of feels like a nipple maybe..im not sure but it took a few different sippy cups to see which one she liked. I also made the mistake of everytime my daughter got up in the middle of the night i would go get her and immediately feed her maybe just to get her to go back to sleep so I could when one night i watched her in her monitor and she was sleep crying and there was no need for me to go in there and wake her up for a feeding. she cried for maybe a minute and slept the rest of the night. Thats when I knew she was done with nighttime feedings. You just have to watch your babies cues and try different things since each child is different.

Sarah - posted on 06/20/2011

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I have a 15 month old daughter too and couldn't and wouldn't wean her yet. My daughter is attached to me too and i would feel that if she got upset because i wouldn't feed her then she's obviously not ready and that's fine with me!
Your daughter doesn't understand why she can't have those comforting bonding times with you anymore. She won't understand that she's too old for it and you don't want to do it anymore. I say, if she's not ready to stop yet then don't do it and definitely don't do it cold turkey!!
I've cut out my daughters day feeds completely and she hasn't cried once! All i do is when she launches at my chest, i pull her away and make her laugh like it's a game, and then i distract her with some toys! She rarely even asks for feeds during the day unless she's hurt herself or is really really tired. :)
I don't have to feed her before bed time or nap times either because when i taught her to self settle i didn't let it become part of the routine. :)
Now i only have to feed her during the night which works great for both of us! We co-sleep sometimes so it's quite easy! As soon as i figure out how to get her sleeping through the night she'll pretty much be weaned :D

Just do it slowly and in the nicest way possible for her. Good luck!

Julie - posted on 06/20/2011

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It's a very hard thing to do because you will want to nurse for your own relief and comfort and baby wants it. But just say no gently and your discomfort will go away and baby will forget in a few days. It's hard to believe, but she will. That was my experience. Baby will eat because she will get hungry. Don't rock her in the same position near your breast and that will help her to forget.

Belinda - posted on 06/20/2011

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Something to think about- she probably isn't ready to wean if she's really attached to you and you're having such a hard time. So you may want to consider waiting a bit then try again. It may be a bit easier at that point.

I found that distraction and a "don't ask, don't offer" approach worked best for my son. When I weaned him he was already down to 3 feedings a day, sometimes 2. So if he didn't ask to nurse, I just didn't offer. And when I was ready to completely eliminate a feeding I would distract him with something else. Sometimes it was something to drink in a cup instead, other times it was a toy or game of some sort.

Monica - posted on 06/20/2011

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Hi there - same situation here but I think we are finally making progress - I started offering her a bottle or sippy cup with milk as well as other calcium containing foods just to make sure she was getting enough milk without breastfeeding - many times she just took one sip or sometimes none at all but once or twice she's drank some milk throughout the day little by little. Then I stopped offering her bf during the day - for the past month it was just once at night right before bed - then the next step was to skip a day when my husband put her to bed without me (for example on a night when I went to the gym) then we did 2 consecutive nights and last night I put her to bed and she didn't even want it anymore when offered. It's actually a little sad - she's also 15 months and I'm home with her and have enjoyed bf but have been wanting to wean for some time now but hadn't decided to definitely do it until last month. So my milk supply has also decreased as a result and it feels more as though she's weaning herself because I've never denied her of bf she's pretty much lost some interest. I hope this helps! Best of luck!

Heather - posted on 06/19/2011

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Why are you wanting to wean her? I nursed my daughter until she was 22 1/2 months old! Try cutting all nursing sessions to only 3 to 4 times a day, morning when she wakes up, before nap(s), and before bedtime. Do this for a week or two. It took me two weeks of doing this. I also still nursed her once in the middle of the night too, which that was easy to stop. It only took a few nights of my daughter fussing a little bit, and then she stopped waking up in the middle of the night to nurse. Then I cut out the nap time nursing. I gave her a sippy cup with a little juice and water or with cow's milk before naps. Then I cut out the morning nursing. I got her up in the morning, made her room bright, rolled up the shade, talked to her, distracted her. I would some mornings read her a book, do her hair, get her dressed. Then I would get up and tell her to come on. We'd go into the kitchen, get coffee and breakfast! She never thought twice about it. Then we were only nursing at bedtime. That was the hardest for me to stop. She cried, but I did it. It took a full week before she stopped asking for it. Here we are two weeks later, and she still asks once in a great while. :( But we will get through it. She is doing fine in the mornings and before nap times. Bedtimes I now read her books and she lays down on the floor beside me and she drinks her sippy cup of milk and I sing to her and rub her chest and tummy. She is getting used to this routine and so am I. She especially loves the attention of me reading 2 to 3 books to her before bedtime! I hope this helps.

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This really annoyed me I now have 3 children, currently breast feeding my 9week old. When I was pregnant with my 2nd baby I was still breast f the 1st born. I asked a couple of Health Visitors & also my GP, "How do I stop"? I found bf very easy from day 1 & was always given praise of how well I was doing from health professionals but they lacked on the weaning advice! It was always beaten around the bush & even laughed off! I was told "oh that's because we dn't want u 2 stop"! I learned to tell my little one that he was getting a big boy & only needed 'boobies' at bed time then thankfully managed to stop all together & replaced bf with 'growing up milk' in a sippy cup about 2 wks before 2nd baby was born! 2nd baby had a dummy so was much easier to comfort & wean. My eldest has now just turned 4yrs & middle child is nearly 3yrs, they drink cows milk during the day & still have the 'growing up milk' at bed time. Sometimes I would add 'milkshake powder' so it actually tastes nice & not formulated.

Sharon - posted on 06/19/2011

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Cali, you don't have to wean unless you and your daughter want to. There are lots of mums out there that have succesfully fed all the way through a pregnancy and beyond. You may find your daughter self weans as your milk changes back to colostrum for the new baby. If you want to wean her then slowly is the way to go, tackling one feed at a time - just reduce the time she feeds for that feed until she cuts it out all together.

Shelz - posted on 06/18/2011

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just slowly cut back the amount a day, my daughter is 2 and 2 months and she still wants it, been weaned since her 2nd bday.

She didnt wean when pregnant either so was tandem feeding for a while. She may go off it though, wean her then, my daughter went off it but i wanted to continue feeding till she was 2 so i just kept her at it.

Carey - posted on 06/18/2011

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Both my daughters nursed till 17 months. I tried weaning the first at a year and she vehemently opposed. My second weaned herself gradually as she became more interested in other foods. I know some people do 'cold turkey' bc that works but it's so stressful that I'd definitely advocate doing it gradually as you see your child is READY. If you have to go back to work or something, then a little encouragement seems appropriate. A friend of mine did lemon juice on her breasts to make her son think the milk was 'bad'. At least that way it was his own choice and not mommy taking something away from him.

Cali - posted on 06/18/2011

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I have been told that because I am pregnant I should try to wean now, but my daughter has no interest in giving up! She won't drink milk and I has never had formula. She is 2 in a couple of weeks. What do you offer instead of the boob?

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2011

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World Health Organization recommend breastfeeding up to 2 years & beyond for full physical and emotional benefit to child and mother.

I ended up feeding first child till 2 yrs 2 mnths (just one or two feeds a day, then she gave me a kiss one day & said, Bye bye baaboo'.

My second child till 4! Only one feed a day.

My third child is 15 months and feeding night and day, several times!

Suzanne - posted on 06/18/2011

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I agree with Sharon on dropping feeds until you work down. You may need to add more snacks/meals in place of having your milk as they will be missing the extra sustenance. Try and avoid having your child in positions where they expect to feed. Once you have worked down to just 1 feed a day (my last one was the nighttime feed), I removed myself from the bedtime routine entirely for a few days until the routine was broken. Don't forget the cuddles so you keep the closeness! Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 06/18/2011

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My daughter refused formula and baby food...then my milk supply drastically dropped when she was about to turn 1, I couldn't give her cows milk because she was too young so I. Got gerber graduates smart sips vanilla flavored and put it in a bottle and she actually drank it...so then I just started weaning her off...although at night time around 9 she refused everything except the boob! But around 13 1/2 months she just decided she no longer wanted her bottle so she transitioned over to a sippy all herself...which was amazing! When she was old enough her dr gave me the ok for cows milk...around 15 1/2 months I started to give hera warm sippy cup of cows milk and shed drink it and burp and we would both climb into the crib because she was also co-sleeping with us....after the 3rd night no more breast and she's been sleeing 10 hours at night ever since...soo amazed because she hasdefinitely been a challenge!

Sharon - posted on 06/18/2011

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At 15 months she is fine with a sippy cup and really doesn't need bottles so don't let that worry you. As for stopping then please do it slowly or you may risk blocked ducts or mastitis. Try starting with shortening just one feed until that feed has been dropped and then and only then start to shorten the next feed, continue until you are no longer feeding.

Emily - posted on 06/17/2011

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Went cold turkey with my daughter, never again! Was once away from my son for 4 days, boobs nearly exploded yet still lactating afterwards.

Amanda - posted on 06/17/2011

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I went on vacation for 4 days without my kids and made my daughter go cold turkey while I was gone, since every other weaning technique failed. Cold turkey worked.

Karisa - posted on 06/17/2011

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i am having the same problem. i so wish i could offer some advice but i would like some myself. he is very attached and doesnt seem to want to give it up for anything he also did not and wont take a bottle nor formula. he also doesnt take a pacifier so...any help would be greatly appriciated im sure for both of us thanks.

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