Weening my little one earlier, so we can go to Cancun?

Nyssa - posted on 10/02/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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So....My husband and I have the option to go on a payed, all inclusive vacation to Cancun thru his company. The thing is, it is in the end of Feb. beginning of March, and my baby will be almost a year. He's our 5th, and I have nursed them all until they were a year, and I can remember just wanting to be done when the 2 oldest got close to a year. But, not for the last two. I kinda just weened them as I liked. I don't know if this trip is worth weening my little one. Though we would probably be down to only a couple nursings per day, I don't know if I will want to stop then. This would be so much easier if I knew I would have him weened. For all I know, he might be the first of my children to ween himself early. Argh, and they want to know today if we will go or not. I don't know if anyone has any suggestions, but input would be nice.

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Nyssa - posted on 10/28/2009

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Thanks everyone. I decided to stay home. I just don't know if I will be ready to stop nursing even though he will almost be a year, and thought maybe he wouldn't take me back after being gone for a week. It's nice to see that most of the people in this group are supportive of other moms, but odd that the sites admin. is so critical. What's up with that? Selfish, huh? I really hate it when other moms are so critical of each other. I don't judge those who choose formula, or to work. Why are we always comparing each other? We are doing the best we can to care for our families no matter if we work or stay home, nurse our babies or bottle feed. Ok, so the WHO recommends 2yrs...what exactly does that mean? NO cows milk at all? Of all the countries, how many of them have children that aren't starving and have no other good source of food? I can see how a mothers milk would be best for more than 2yrs. I love the fact that I can give my baby something that I don't have to buy. I would never recommend formula, but I can't judge others for using it because it's not my choice, and it doesn't make me any better. I think it's kinda funny that my husband is more judgemental of those who don't nurse. Of his three sisters, one decided not to nurse at all, and he thought that was just wrong. She didn't even try, which is the one thing I would tell all new mothers...even if they don't want to nurse, they should atleast try it. I thought this group was about supporting other nursing moms, but when the administator puts you down, what does that mean? I would think that you, Chelsea, would have been the first one to recommend the pumping and not the put downs.

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Nyssa - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Chelsea:

I would like to apologize for my above comments. I was not the Admin. of this group at the time but that is no excuse. I have no right to put down another mother only the right to offer constructive critisim, which I did not do in this case. Nyssea I am sorry for being so harsh. I am very passionate about breastfeeding and I have trouble holding back my passion for breastfeeding at times. Again, I am sorry for my above statement and I hope that we can all move on from this event. I look back and wish that there had been members that had moderated what I said.


Thanks, and yes, sometimes it is hard to hold our tongues. It's probably a lot easier to just put down our first thought on something like this when we don't know everyone. It will probably bug my in-laws greatly if I continue nursing past a year, which I think I probably will with this one.  I think it just makes them a little bit queasy. For some reason I have enjoyed it more with each child.  Everyone seems to leave the room when I need to nurse. Though, at this point it doesn't really bother me. They would distract him while he was eating anyway. 
 

Nyssa - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Naomi:

This is a very interesting conversation! I do not want to wean my son before a year.. but i am not very happy with the idea of nursing him 8-9 times a day as he currently does (at 5 months) either! I know that amount should lessen some as we start exploring solid foods, and I would be fine doing early morning/nightime feeds after 12 months.
However, I am in a family wedding a few weeks after he turns one. I know I've got some time to figure it all out, but I'm worried about what to do if he's still wanting to nurse in the day time. Being in the wedding party will probably look like getting up early and getting hair/make-up done (away from baby) then of course the ceremony, then pictures, then reception... I could feed maybe in the early morning and then evening at bedtime, since I'll have people looking after him, they could give him solids during the day.. but he still needs breastmilk right? or is 2-3 feedings a day ok at a year old with solids? For me, the big reason I'm worried is because for the first few months I was pumping to help increase supply.. and getting maaaybe a third of an ounce at a time out.. it would take me a day to get even an ounce of milk with the pump! I'm concerned i won't be able to pump and store breastmilk for him during that time. any suggestions?



Okay, so you should be down to 2-3 times a day by a year. I know I'm nursing my little one about 5x a day now and he is almost 8mos., but part of that is he's not really into the baby food. I was in two weddings, shortly after giving birth, for 2 of my previous children. For both of those the dress was strapless, and the reception was at a hotel. That made it easy to go nurse him when I needed to, but your baby should be old enough that you shouldn't have to worry about that. We had someone watching him at the hotel and one bottle pumped for when I wouldn't be able to nurse. Since your baby will be a little over a year I don't think it should be that hard. I took our little ones with when it was time to get my hair done, and saved the bottle for the reception. If you want to nurse atleast once during the day I would probably pick the morning or night feeding.  What ever is the easier one for your child to go without you.



Have you pumped lately? The best time is in the morning when you are the fullest. It is hard to get much in the first couple months. Atleast for me it was, and after nursings. I seemed to get the most if I pumped before I fed the baby in the morning. So if you haven't tried lately you might have better luck at it now.

Amy - posted on 10/31/2009

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If you want to ween him for your trip then I say go for it. You are the only one that knows what is right for you. If not than bring your pump with you and two bottles a day would be easy to store up. Whatever you do have a blast in Cancun without any worries. You have 5 kids you deserve to have fun.

Chelseaszidik - posted on 10/31/2009

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I would like to apologize for my above comments. I was not the Admin. of this group at the time but that is no excuse. I have no right to put down another mother only the right to offer constructive critisim, which I did not do in this case. Nyssea I am sorry for being so harsh. I am very passionate about breastfeeding and I have trouble holding back my passion for breastfeeding at times. Again, I am sorry for my above statement and I hope that we can all move on from this event. I look back and wish that there had been members that had moderated what I said.

Kerry - posted on 10/31/2009

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Chelsea, given that you are our administrator, I often find your comments extremely harsh. I understand you are upholding the guidelines of the community but not everything has to be so cut and dry. I would think some advice or reccommendations might be more helpful than telling someone that they are selfish.

Naomi - posted on 10/30/2009

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This is a very interesting conversation! I do not want to wean my son before a year.. but i am not very happy with the idea of nursing him 8-9 times a day as he currently does (at 5 months) either! I know that amount should lessen some as we start exploring solid foods, and I would be fine doing early morning/nightime feeds after 12 months.
However, I am in a family wedding a few weeks after he turns one. I know I've got some time to figure it all out, but I'm worried about what to do if he's still wanting to nurse in the day time. Being in the wedding party will probably look like getting up early and getting hair/make-up done (away from baby) then of course the ceremony, then pictures, then reception... I could feed maybe in the early morning and then evening at bedtime, since I'll have people looking after him, they could give him solids during the day.. but he still needs breastmilk right? or is 2-3 feedings a day ok at a year old with solids? For me, the big reason I'm worried is because for the first few months I was pumping to help increase supply.. and getting maaaybe a third of an ounce at a time out.. it would take me a day to get even an ounce of milk with the pump! I'm concerned i won't be able to pump and store breastmilk for him during that time. any suggestions?

Nicole - posted on 10/29/2009

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I think Chelsea might have just been offended at the thought that you were willing to wean to go on a vacation and maybe she felt she needed to speak for your little one. I don't know... Personally, I would have recommended pumping and storing in preparation for your trip, but I would have also said that being away from a baby so young might be hard on your baby and yourself. Breastfeeding or not. And, really, would have encouraged you to not go and take a night away with your hubby instead to give yourself a break. It would have been heartbreaking for you if you had only been away for a day or so and in the middle of the ocean and you learn that your baby wasn't doing well without you. At least with only a night away, you still get a break, it is easy to pump and store for that one night, and if your baby doesn't do well, you are back the next day. I think you made the best decision for your baby and I hope you DO find some time to take for yourself and get a break soon.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think you should except today for today and tomorrow for tomorrow. You sound like an excellent mum and always do what works for you and your family in the end. So stop analising and just deal whenyou need to.

Almira - posted on 10/04/2009

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Breast milk stays fresh for 7 days in fridge. So if you get a room with a refrigerator you can store pumped milk in the fridge. Then when you travel back keep in in a cooler with ice packs where it stays fresh for 24 hours. Then freeze all the milk when you get home from vacation.

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/milks...

Sarah - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Almira:

If you want to continue to nurse I would take your pump with you. I went on a trip leaving my 14 mo old behind. I pumped and traveled back home with the milk. You do not have to pump and dump the milk. You can fly with breast milk.


Hmmm.  That seems like a good thought - but would you really be able to keep it frozen the whole time?  I would worry about bacterial growth as it gets into a semi-thawed state in a cooler.  I don't know about breastmilk - but pasteurized cow's milk takes only one hour for bacterial levels to become enough to make a person ill (bio class experiment). 



 



But pumping to keep up your supply while you are gone would help you to nurse when you return if you choose to do so.  :)

Almira - posted on 10/04/2009

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If you want to continue to nurse I would take your pump with you. I went on a trip leaving my 14 mo old behind. I pumped and traveled back home with the milk. You do not have to pump and dump the milk. You can fly with breast milk.

Jennifer - posted on 10/04/2009

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I really hope that you decided to go as well! Too bad there doesn't seem to be an option to put people like Chelsea on Ignore.

User - posted on 10/04/2009

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Chelsea - I think you are being too ridgid. Nyssa had BF her child for 1 year - that is fantastic! Everyone has different circumstances. In this day and age when formula is the norm not BF - CONGRATS to anyone who has the dedication to BF their child. Frankly with 5 kids - Nyssa really deserves a vacation & how often does anyone get the chance of a free vacation. I am shooting to BF my daughter until she is a year old - we have three more months until that point. I would like to go longer but I have been dealing with horrible insomia since she was born. No natural remedies seems to help & my dr will not prescribe anything while I'm still BF. I'm trying to hold out on weaning as long as I can but as I said - everyone has different circumstances.



It seems that lately alot of mothers in this application are being very critical of other mothers. Nyssa - if you want to keep nursing after vacation - pump while you're gone & then you still have the option when you get back :)

Chelseaszidik - posted on 10/04/2009

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Yes breastmilk does last 6 months if frozen in the back of the freeze or in a deep freeze. I still stand by my recommendation to not wean such a young child. Having a child is not about convenience.

Sarah - posted on 10/03/2009

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I know it's after the fact now - and I hope you decided to go! The only bit I wanted to add was that I've heard it recommended not to wean just before a trip because while you are gone, your child will most likely want a little more comfort than usual, and the familiarity of mama's milk - even in a bottle - can help them with the separation. If possible, I would start pumping and freezing now (I believe breastmilk lasts up to six months in the freezer if stored properly?).

Hope this helps!

Darci - posted on 10/03/2009

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I agree with Marcy... the breastmilk will be available. And, if you pump while gone your milk will still be available when your return. I know exactly what you're saying about not being in a hurry to ween the last 2 children. Our third child is almost 5 months old, and I am enjoying breastfeeding... again! Not looking forward to starting solids with the new baby though... it's just so easy to breastfeed. And, I love that I need to slow down and feed the baby a few times a day. Such a blessing. Good luck with your decision, but I think you should go.

Krystal - posted on 10/02/2009

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Quoting user:

Weaning so you can go on vacation is selfish no matter how you look at it. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding until at least two in order to gain all of the benefits of breastfeeding.


i'm a little taken aback by the 'selfish' comment made. We all know the benefits of breast feeding - that's why we have chosen to do it. Having kids is a self-less act. whatever our reasons for nursing and weaning they are our own. The fact that we make it past the first feeding, the first day, the first week, the first month is something that nursing mothers should take pride in.



That being said, the idea of pumping and freezing is a good one if you're really not sure if you (ok, your baby) will be ready to be done. at least it gives you the comfort of knowing he is still having breast milk.



good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2009

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You know what - he's your 5th kiddo! You deserve a vacation. How close to a year will he be? To me - anywhere inside 11+ months would sit ok with me.

Chelseaszidik - posted on 10/02/2009

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Weaning so you can go on vacation is selfish no matter how you look at it. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding until at least two in order to gain all of the benefits of breastfeeding.

Marcy - posted on 10/02/2009

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I guess if you wanted to you could pump now (and freeze) and pump while you are away and just dump it....its up to you how strongly you feel about continuing to nurse. However, whatever you don't feel guilty about any of it. GO AWAY on vacation! 5 kids, you deserve it! We have 1 and if you don't go, I will! HAHAHA. Have fun!

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