Julie - posted on 08/16/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )
im just wondering if i did the right thing????
with my son (now six months) i had a very harsh pregnancy..... at 11 weeks we lost his twin and had mult times of bleeding time throughout the pregnancy...... he was due jan 26...... toward the end of the pregnancy i was put on bed rest as well as given a strict low sodium diet i went into mild labor on the 25 of jan at 4 pm and my app was 9 the next morning with the ob we had planed a natural birth at the hospital birthing center (ours has one as well as a regular delivery floor).....i started full active labor around 2am that morning before the app at the app my dr said he would like to get me into the hospital that day at 6pm
so by the time 6pm came i was ready for the dr to give my first exam 75 effaced and 1 dialated at 26 hours into labor......
10 pm....he started me on a pitocin drip to speed up my contractions
11 pm....... 80 effaced 1 dialated still natural aside from the pitocin i was not allowed to eat anything either except ice
7 am jan 27..... 80 effaced and 1 dialated pitocin gets uped and contraction are now 18 to 20 a minute
4 pm jan 27 .... no change
7 pm....... 100 effaced and 2 dialated pitocin uped again to make me contract 18 to 20 an hour (they had slowed to about 15 an hour)
11 pm ......no change
4 am jan 28..... no change pitocin uped again bag of waters popped
9 am ....... ultrasound finds baby fliped over now sunny side up (posterior position)
12 pm ...... 100 effaced 3 dilated pitocin uped again
2 pm.......... dr finally talks me into having an epidural placed moniter attached to babys head vaginally
2 34 pm....... epidural placed and pitocin uped still 100 effaced and 4 dialated
2 49 pm ........babys heart rate slows drastically
2 57 pm ........babys heart rate lost dr insists on emergency c section
3 02 pm .........wheeled to OR epidural uped
3 05 pm ..........c section begins
3 11 pm jan 28 .. troy is born perfectly healthy apgar is 9 weighs 9 pd 10oz and is 22 and 3/4 inches long
3 47 pm .......... me out of OR and headed to meet my baby boy
also you need to know that i hemoraged severly during the birth and was in the hospital till the 6 of february i have EBF my son the whole time since then he is now 18 pds 4 oz and is 27 in.
what i want to know is: was this the right way to do things did i do something wrong to cause my son to be born in such a harsh way? the dr claimed troy had a severe allergic reaction to the epidural... but a nurse told me that he was born concerned about the birth itself and me being too exhausted to push i had been awake the whole time and i labored for a total of about 70 hours 60 of that active labor with no pain meds and i could not get him out what did i do wrong?????
my MIL and SIL and own sister all think thats they are better moms than me because i could not give birth vaginally all of them had births of 12 hours or less with all of thier children they tell me all the time that i opted out... did i opt out? am i less of a mom? they keep bringing the issue up ..... i just need some support here.....