What to do i do?!

Diamondchic92 - posted on 02/20/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My goal is to breastfeed my son until he is at least three. None of my family nor my sons father respect that i breastfeed or think its pointless even though my son has an outstanding immune system, perfectly straight teeth, smart and good brain growth, no diaper rashes, listens to me etc etc. Ive tried to educate them about the benefits but they still see it as unnatural or perverted. So i have recently moved to georgia and his father is in indiana. He wants to keep him the ENTIRE summer but i have to breastfeed king and im afraid he wont give him my stored breastmilk. So what should i do about this to make sure he gets his daily milk?

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Ev - posted on 02/22/2017

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Also, do you actually have court orders setting custody, visitation, and child support? You said in a post below that he does not help but not with what. Does he pay child support? If so, he is providing financial means to help raise this child. He is being active in one way. And since he is wanting the entire summer with the child, that also shows that he is wanting time with his child too. And being you moved out of state--if no court orders are in place--he can petition the courts where he lives for custody, visitation and so forth and you would be required to go back to deal with the court. If there is a custody/visitation set of orders in place already, you might well be in violation of them just by moving and not taking it up with dad or the court and he could hold you in contempt of court orders where his visitation is concerned and even sue for custody for alienation of a parent....himself because you have moved and he does not have as much chance to parent or see his kid even if all he took the child for was a portion of the day or overnight.

Sarah - posted on 02/22/2017

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You did not mention any of those issues in the OP. However, dead beat or not, he is still the father. I did offer you a solution. If you want him to to drink breast-milk, then pump, store and ship it. If you are looking for tips o n how to prevent him from even traveling? Call a lawyer.

Diamondchic92 - posted on 02/20/2017

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I think u are being judgemental instead of helping me come up with solutions. U dont know me or what type of baby father i have. So never based your opinion around false assumptions about people you know nothing about. His father barely helped AT ALL, didnt come to visit him and REFUSED to keep him longer than a 24 hour period (and even 24 hours was too much). Ive never kept him away from his child but he is very much a dead beat father. Im not going to push pause on my life or possible opportunities else where to stay in a state i do not like for a man who doesnt do shit to help out or take the work load off me.

Sarah - posted on 02/20/2017

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Ultimately, you and your son's father are both equally entitled to parent. During his parenting time, he can decide what to feed his child, just as you can choose when you parent. Breastfeeding does not guarantee straight teeth good health etc. If your goal is truly to get your milk in him, then request that his father give it too him and be prepared to pump, store and ship the milk all summer.
If your goal is to prevent the father from having the child for the entire summer, I'd caution you not to push your agenda in a court room. You are the one who moved away- taking your breasts and milk farther from his father. A judge may not look kindly on that action. You are not the first woman to use breastfeeding as a means to keep a child from his father.
I nursed my own kids for two years each and 3 of the 4 weaned on their own around 2yo. So, you can't be sure that you'd still be nursing at age 3 anyway. Most important is a healthy relationship between child and both parents, and a relationship of mutual respect between the two parents. You are going to linked to this man for a long time; best to start out on a positive note.

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