When is the best time to stop breast feeding?

Samantha - posted on 03/08/2011 ( 133 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone, :)



I'm 20 years of age and have 2 children. My first will be 3 in June. I could not breast feed him as it was way to difficult, but with my second, she's 7 months old and I am still breast feeding her. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be breastfeeding at her age now. I need some advise i guess. I do want to give her the best start in life as possible, but what is a good age to stop breastfeeding??



Thanks :)

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Celeste - posted on 03/11/2011

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Samantha, I know it's hard when you have unsupportive friends and family. I'm in my 30's and my friends and family didn't like the fact I nursed my children past what they deemed acceptable.

I found that the more I educated myself, the less I cared about their opinions.

Cinda - posted on 03/11/2011

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You breast feed as long as YOU want to. The U.S. is the only country I know of that's so concerned w/ this. Most other places easily nurse until 1-2 years. My son is 2 1/4 & still nursing. He LOVES it. It calms him when he's upset. It has continued to create a stronger & stronger bond between my son & me. He's always been a super healthy baby, rarely getting sick & only mildly when he does. I honestly believe it's due, in part, to the antibodies in breast milk.
If you enjoy the special time this creates for you & your daughter then you do it as long as YOU want to & don't feel pressured by others to stop.
Check out this website from the World Health Organization http://www.who.int/features/factfiles/br...
Good luck & happy nursing!

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Ladies-

Please take a moment to review our guidelines:

This group is here to support families that breastfeed. We follow the recommendations of the World Health Organization (WHO) and La Leche League International (LLLI). This group is here to promote breastfeeding and support families who choose to breastfeed. Group Guidelines: 1. We do not encourage the use of Formula. Please refrain from recommending the use of formula. 2. This group does not encourage weaning an infant under 12 months of age for any nonmedical reason. 3. In line with LLLI we do not support or recommend the introduction of solids until around the middle of the first year. 4. Debates about when to wean are discouraged. Any posts that personally attack a member for their weaning choices, be it mother led, child led, or otherwise, will not be tolerated. 5. No posts that violate Circle of Moms No THUMPS guidelines

There are a lot of BF myths being stated in this thread. This post by one of our moderators may be helpful:
http://www.circleofmoms.com/breastfeedin...

If someone asks a question about when to wean, please feel free to share when it worked for you. However, do not pass judgement on another mom who chooses to BF for a longer or shorter time than you. What works for one family does not work for the next.

Please keep our guidelines in mind while posting in this community.
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Jennifer - posted on 03/10/2011

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My almost 3 year old daughter is almost weaned. She can go without it and has for up to a week but is not quite ready to give it up completely. It has been such a natural progression over time of decreasing frequency and amount and I'm sure she will give it up soon. I have been fortunate to be with her all along and to have the courage to know that only my daughter and I know best in this relationship and to be able to stand strong against misinformation and ignorance. I hope that one day breasts will again be seen foremost as the beautiful maternal foodsource they are meant to be and not only as sex objects. "Truth goes through 3 stages: First, it is ridiculed. Then, it is violently opposed. Finally, it is seen as self-evident."

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Maria - posted on 03/24/2011

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Breast is best for the first year of life if u can. I exclusively breastfed both my children for the first year, after they only breastfed at night right b4 bedtime and it was more of a comfort thing as they were drinking soy milk during the daytime. They both stopped completely at around 22 months .

Good Luck

Jessie - posted on 03/22/2011

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Well with My son I have pretty
Much stopped now as he has teeth coming through and is 6 months old in a couple days but he was born a larger baby and I'm not really makin enough now to keep him happy but I feel I have given him a great start as he's reaching all his milestones and is healthy so I guess it's up to each person depending on the situation but u have to be happy to. I was sad I couldn't continue but he accepted formula well and it's easier for me now as well good luck!

Kristiana - posted on 03/22/2011

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My daughter will be 3 in June and she still nurses at bedtime, so don't necessarily make it about age - although it's really best if you can continue for at least the first year for the health benefits for both of you.

Donna - posted on 03/22/2011

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i breast fed my son but he was a really hungy baby.. i stoped feeding him with he was 3months old.. in my opinion you should feed your baby for as long as you feel comfortabled doing so..

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2011

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My daughter is 19 months old and still is nursing but only at nap time and night time. My other 3 children were nursed until 1st 5 months, 2nd and 3rd until 10 months. Each child is different and it is up to you and your child when you should stop . Don't let anyone else make that decision for you.

Audrey - posted on 03/22/2011

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you don't stop till the baby stops...it won't hurt either of you if you continue, it makes the child strong and less proned to infections and diseases, it will bother you sometimes when you just need a break but you are doing more good than harm if you let the child wean themself...my daughter is almost 3...

Christan - posted on 03/22/2011

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I have 4 children. The first wouldn't nurse at all. The second I nursed for 2 months, the third I nursed for 4 months and this last one is 17 months old and he is still nursing about 2-3 times a day. Some days he nurses for 5 minutes at a time and others he will nurse 30 minutes. I felt the same way about thinking I needed to stop. It was because I didn't know of ANYONE else around that still nursed their baby after 6 months. When six months came and went he wasn't ready to stop so I told myself I would do it till a year because my sister nursed hers for a year. To be honest I would have probably stopped then but I meet a preachers wife in town who was still nursing her youngest who is about a week younger than mine with 4 kids of her own. I also received so much encouragement from mom's who posted about nursing their babies till they were ready to self wean. My advice is to nurse until you and your baby are ready to stop. Don't let others who AREN'T nursing let you feel badly about still nursing, even if they aren't doing it intentionally. There are plenty of Moms who are in the same situation you are in. You have a support group here on circle of moms even if you don't have one where you live. Good luck.

Magda - posted on 03/22/2011

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The best time to stop is when you are both ready. I'm a stay at home mom and my daughter is now 19 months and is still breastfed, 2 times a day. I wanted to stop but she is not ready yet and asks for it, especially in the morning, so I give it to her. I agree that he best method to wean a baby off the boob is not to offer it but not to refuse either.
Good luck!

Ronnetta - posted on 03/22/2011

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I breastfeed 4 kids 2 of the I stopped when they turned 1 year of age and 3rd when he was about 14 month and still nursing my 15 old which she is weaning herself But I say all that to say STOP when It's best for u and ur BABY know one else :)

Tine - posted on 03/21/2011

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I am still feeding my daughter at nearly 2 and a half years old.

The World Health Organisation and many other respected health bodies reccomend breastfeeding until at least age 2. It still offers huge health benefits to both mother and child for as long as you want to feed. Did you know that your chances of getting breast cancer drop dramatically the longer you breastfeed for? If you feed for at least 2 years over your lifespan, you have a very much lower chance of developing breast cancer, and osteoporosis too!

It is very important toyour child to keep feeding until at least 12 months, and when you get there you will probably find that you and your daughter are still going strong, you could play it by ear from then on. I personally don't see the point of substituting artificial milk or the milk of another species (ie cows) when I can still give my daughter exactly what she needs in the form that suits her body and gives her the best health advantages.

The one thing to avoid is weaning because you think you 'should', or because someone tells you to(even a doctor etc - doctors are not always informed about breastfeeding, they don't study it as part of their training, and some give terrible advice!). You have a beautiful bonding healthy thing going there, and you should only give it up when you and your child are truly ready. Most kids self wean somewhere between 2 and 3, or a bit earlier or later in some cases.

Relax and enjoy, it's a truly special cool thing to share with your child! :-) :-)

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So many moms have cited the WHO's recommendations, and I would have to agree for a minimum of 2 yrs. As for weaning at that point, your daughter will wean when she is ready. Right now, I'm sure 2 years seems like forever, but it will get easier. As they get older, they will naturally look to food and drinks instead of breastmilk. They tend to need nursing at night because it's a comfort thing. I've noticed mine don't nurse as much at night if they are sleeping with me. But they will eventually not need this either. Don't forget to enjoy your baby and the time you spend together.

Bess - posted on 03/21/2011

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It's recommended that you nurse for at least a year, and the world health organization recommends at least 2 years. I have nursed all 3 of my children until their third birthday or a little bit more (okay, my third just turned 2, but I have no plans to push weaning until he turns 3.) I know that extended nursing does not work for a lot of people. I would highly recommend you go at least a year, and as long after that as feels right for you and your baby.

Sabrina - posted on 03/21/2011

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If you talk to your child's doctor they would recommend atleast 1 year. I have a 1 1/2 year old and she breastfeeds maybe 3 times a day for 30 minutes each time. She drinks cows milk as well. It is easier if you stop when you are both ready.

Heather - posted on 03/21/2011

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One more thing. I could tell my daughter was ready to wean, so I didn't force it on her. She was only nursing once a day, right before bed time. She was so ready to wean that it only took 5 days! Way faster than I anticipated. So waiting til your child shows signs of ready to wean might be something to consider. :)

Heather - posted on 03/21/2011

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I think it's best to breastfeed for the baby's first year. Because during that first year, your baby either needs breast milk or formula. So why wean them when you have milk just to give them formula? I think it's best to wait til after the 1st birthday to start weaning. Because that's also when you can introduce whole milk to your baby. My daughter is 16mo old & I weaned her at 14mo. Professionals will tell you to nurse at least the first year and they even recommend it up to 2yrs old now.

Lara - posted on 03/21/2011

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i am 30 & i have 3 kids ages 10, 7, & 2.5. i'm not against woman who choose to bottle feed but i feel there is no greater gift i could give my 3 than starting them on breast milk! but i also acknowledge that all of us moms are doing our best in our own way! my oldest breast fed for 27 months, my middle 39 months and my youngest is almost 33 months and she still nursing. i have to say not 1 of mine as slept through the night so you are amazing! i also did not give them "real food" until 6 mos. i really wanted their bodies to develope slowly & so they were less likely to have food allergies as they grew.
my older 2 are in school & have had little colds off& on but my breast fed daughter has only had 1 short cold, shes a miracle! i know it is because she is still breast feed and im thankful i can give her that.
as for people that are unsupportive, they will always be there it is sad & frusterating and makes you have self-doubt but you know what is best for your child because it is your child! so, just be strong and dont let people's opinions overtake your own. lara

Ayanti - posted on 03/21/2011

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Ideally you can or even ought to breast feed till you have a good flow of milk. But preferrably stop by the time the child is reaching 1 year of age...start weaning from 8 months. Else it creates quite a bit of dependency and you do not want a kid hanging off you at all odd hours since it becomes a bit of an annoyance also.

Best of luck!

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The World Health Organisation recommend breastfeeding until two years of age and as long as both mother and child wish afterward. If you're feeling outside pressure to stop and don't want to, it's a good thing to know that's the recomendation. For what it's worth I believe that recent studies show that antibodies in the milk *increase* in the second year, so there's plenty of reason to continue.

Joanna - posted on 03/21/2011

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I breastfeed my children until they are 12 months old. It's a nice transition from breastmilk to cow's milk (or whatever milk you choose). You have done well nursing this long. I say, "Keep up the good work! :o) )

Marianela - posted on 03/21/2011

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I was told it is best to breast feed up to a year, and most doctors say AT LEAST the first 6 months.

Christine - posted on 03/20/2011

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I think pretty much every woman I talk to will say 12 months at least.. I've never heard anyone say it "should" be stopped earlier than 12 months. I think most woman will say between 1-2 years old, some will say older but not many if any will say younger. I think the "official" pediatric stance on it is that it's "ideal" for 2 years and at least one. If you think you are making people uncomfortable just go into a different room when they are around? It gets soooo much easier as they get older and you can feed them more baby food and finger foods! If you regret starting to wean you can nurse more and your body will start producing more again.. nursing is done on a supply and demand basis.. the less he sucks the less you produce, the more he sucks the more you will produce. Nursing also burns about 500 calories a day so that's pretty awesome too. Anyways personally I think you should aim for a year and then keep doing it until you or she decides it's time to stop. And you should feel comfortable with your decision and good about it, not pressured and doing it because you feel like you "should". Kids are designed to suck as old as 6 years old (not advocating that long just saying that they are designed to nurse as long as that). You could maybe nurse like once or twice a day after a year so you are still doing it but just not very frequently. As a side note to the poster who made a comment about bf your husband to bond, when you breastfeed you and your baby both release oxytocin which is a bonding hormone so hormonally it does bond you (as well as in other ways such as emotionally). Breastfeeding a baby = bonding, breastfeeding your husband = weird and since it's weird and not natural/biological it would not bond you! Just an ignorant comment to make. Anyways though, poster, don't feel pressure to stop. BF is sooooo natural and it should be more widely accepted.. all women will acknowledge that bf is better than bottle feeding (though bottle feeding isn't "bad" it's just not as good). You are doing a great thing by bf!

Nicole - posted on 03/20/2011

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My son will be 18 months in about 2 weeks and still breastfeeding. It's fine with me and fine with my child and that's all that matters to me. It's a bonus that my husband is fine with it, too. ;o) You should breastfeed as long as you are comfortable and that's between only you and your baby. Congrats on 7 months of successful breastfeeding!!! You should give yourself a pat on the back for doing so well! And continue to pat yourself on the back for everyday that you are happily breastfeeding. =D

Amy - posted on 03/20/2011

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I breast fed my daughter until she was over 2 yr. FYI--- she has only been on antibiotics once for one ear infection that is it hasn't been sick at all other than that!!!! I mean the healthiest kid in her day car thank you breast milk go as long as you can..... I only stopped because she asked for boobie milk in public so I knew it was time but keep going you are amazing!!!!

Kaz - posted on 03/20/2011

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There are many massive benefits to fullterm breastfeeding. If your child is still wanting to breastfeed I would let her keep going til she's ready to stop. The World Health Organisation suggests 2 years of breastfeeding as a *minimum*!

Amy - posted on 03/20/2011

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Everyone has thier own opnion. I say do what you are comfortable with. It is def ok to be breastfeeding at 7 mnths. With my first I did exactly what you are doing nursed morning and night with formula during the day ( I could pump enough to keep up) until she was 11mnths and she weaned herself at that point. My second is 3mnths and my plan is to nurse as much as I can for as long as I can until 12 mnths. Don't feel bad or guilty for whatever you choose. Do what right/best for you and your baby. That's what makes you a great mom not just if you BF for a long period of time.

Heather - posted on 03/20/2011

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Oh...I wanted to add. What you do with your child and your breasts in your business. Don't let "friends" make you feel uncomfortable. I hear a lot about breastfeeding my son at his age...I refuse to discuss anything with people like that. If he needs my milk...we just got to another room.

Heather - posted on 03/20/2011

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I am still breastfeeding my son at 19 months. I plan to do it until 2yrs, maybe longer. I want him to self wean, but at the rate he is going, he may never want to stop. 2 1/2-3 yrs is my limit.

Melissa - posted on 03/20/2011

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the best time to stop bf is when the child self weans. The world health organisation recommends breastfeeding until 2 years old now. Enjoy feeding your baby the time goes by so quickly!

Barb - posted on 03/20/2011

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hugs to a good mom who sacrifices for her baby by breastfeeding; you'll never be sorry your were generous!!!

Merry - posted on 03/20/2011

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Cherie, formula is also a common cause of constipation, upset stomachs, and gas, and reflux. Honestly the cows milk proteins in it can do alot of damage to the guts of humans, so while some might think formula helps them sleep, it's not proven, and it can cause the opposite effect if the baby has a belly ache!
And honestly, small meals keeps the stomach from stretching out, this helps prevent obesity. So while frequent breastfeeding might seem like a nuisance, it's helping your child keep a healthy stomach.

Barb - posted on 03/20/2011

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Congratulations, Samantha, that you are still breastfeeding your baby at 7 months! it is so healthy to breastfeed and also saves lots of money. Keep going! The World Health Organization says to breastfeed at least 2 years, because it is so good for your daughter and for you too, so you dont get breast cancer! Just enjoy this wonderful time when she is so small and dont push her to grow up too fast. i breastfed my kids and loved it! They nurse a lot less by the time they are one, but they are still such a baby, as you know from your older boy!

Cherie - posted on 03/20/2011

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Keep breastfeeding her until at least 12 months. My little boy is just turning 12 months now and i will keep feeding him until he weens himself and/or I ween him a little. They recommended feedin for at least 12 months at our local Child nad Youth Health Services. My little wakes up a lot at night wanting a feed, so I will start giving him forumula to see he sleeps through (as per someones comment below).

Loes - posted on 03/20/2011

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Hi Samantha
7 months is still very young
Babies are best of when they are allowed to self- wean
The American academy of pediatrics recommends at least 6 months breastfeeding without anything else like food or other liquids and to continue for at least a year and then as much longer as baby and mom desire.
You are giving your baby a wonderful gift that will last her a lifetime, better health, better immunity, better brain development (higher IQ).
Check out la leche league's site www.llli.org and www.drjacknewman.com for more information
Good luck! And enjoy ;)
Loes
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Mother of 3

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2011

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When she wants to stop :) The WHO recommend feeding til aged 2. If you stop BF before she's 1 then you'll have to give artificial milk (formula) because you can't give cow's milk til they're 1. We managed 14 months, wish I could have gone longer but my daughter wasn't interested any longer. You're doing a great job, keep it up! x

Jo - posted on 03/20/2011

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A baby needs milk for at least one year to survive and the WHO say that babies should be breast fed for a minimum of 2 years. I am still breast feeding my nearly 4 year old but only one at night when he goes to bed (I do child led weaning and go with what he wants).

Irene - posted on 03/20/2011

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Hi Samantha: I'm 39 and i have 3 kids i always breast feeding all my babies. Their ages rigth now are 13,6,4. For the oldest I stop when he has his !st year old. The 2cond oneat ege of 1 but then born the little one and she start breast feeding again . at this time was very dificulty but not impossible. And with the little one stop at age of 4. she almost 5. So I think that is something that you need to decide because you need to feel confortable with your self , your time and dispotition to give time at your little one. If you let the bayby decide for you , you need to know that she or he never want to stop. have a good day Irene

Vino - posted on 03/20/2011

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Hi, Breast feeding is really a blessing for the moms by God. It makes the bond thick between the mother and the child. Also it gives the high resistance power and strength for the babies. Atleast for 12 months the child can be breastfed.

Jenna - posted on 03/20/2011

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When either you or her want to stop... World wide the average age to stop breastfeeding is 4yrs old. The world health organization recommends breastfeeding to 2 yrs and beyond. My youngest just turned 2 a week ago and still nurses in the morning and sometimes at bedtime. If you still want to and she still wants to, keep going. Cow milk is made for baby cows, so keep her on human milk that's made just for her as long as you can ;)

Gwen - posted on 03/20/2011

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you can feed for as long as you are comfortable but as a rule you can feed up to 6, this may sound wrong but were technically animals and some animals feed their young until there adult teeth come through which is 6 for us, so when you want to stop then stop dont let anyone tell you wat to do except your baby because she will be the one who decides if you dont want to. its completely natural

Melanie - posted on 03/19/2011

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Everyone is different. I have four children & have feed them all until 2 years. Baby #3 I tandem feed with her newborn sister until she was 2.5 years. Do what feels right to you. It is always right for baby when it is right for you.

Jody - posted on 03/18/2011

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There is no given age. They recommend doing until they are 2 if you are comfortable but any amount of time spent breastfeeding is better than none and you have already gotten further than many women. YOU will have to decide based on what you are comfortable with.
That said if you stop before a year you will have to give her formula which cost money while your milk is free ( and better for her) at around a year switching is common since you can slowly switch from your milk to cows milk and be done but don't let other people (including me) tell you when is good for you. do a little research, places like babycentre, kellymom.com and la leche league international have lots of information about feeding.
good luck :)

Andrea - posted on 03/18/2011

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They say atleast a year! Then they can have whole milk. But do it as long as you would like. A lot of people do it longer than a year like just in the mornings and evenings!

Kelli - posted on 03/18/2011

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Aww and I just saw your posts about feeling bad that you've already started weaning and introducing formula :( Don't feel bad! Just do what you feel is right for your daughter! And wow about your iron problems! I'm so sorry, that is scary! Great work asking your doc about the situation, I am always so empty headed at appointments I usually forget to ask anything I had in mind :P You could try talking to a lactation consultant about the situation as well, some of them are really helpful! (Though I've also heard of ones who are just as judgmental as our friends and family who tell us to stop early - we're all human) Any chance you take to nurse is helpful to the baby! So do what you can when you feel able :)

Kelli - posted on 03/18/2011

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Hey Samantha, ^_^
I'll reinforce what others have said, it's recommended to nurse until at least 2 years of age, but I definitely understand the negative pressure from friends and family. (You're STILL nursing?? How old is he? Doesn't he have a job by now?) My family members all tried to tell me that there are no benefits to the baby for nursing past 9 months old and were VERY rude to me if I needed to feed my son when visiting their house. It was very uncomfortable but I'd already taken plenty of child development and parenting classes as a part of my college course work, so I knew they didn't actually know what they were talking about. While it hurt my feelings, I just did my best not to bring up the topic and find a private place to nurse. That being said, I have recently successfully weaned my son and he is 19 months old. I'm finding that the biggest factor for us when it comes to milestones, is to tune in to what he wants. For breastfeeding, I simply stopped offering so often. At first I cut back to offering when ever he woke up in the morning or naps and when putting him to bed, then just morning and night, and then I just stopped offering. However throughout this time I continued to nurse whenever he 'asked' (tugging my shirt, 'milk,' overly cranky and not able to fall asleep, any booboos lol) And after a while (a couple months) he just became more interested in his food and play and stopped asking. Once we had made it a few days without nursing, I considered him weaned and though he has asked for milk maybe 2 or 3 more times since, I just say 'nope, not milk' and gave him his sippy of milk and point to it and say 'milk.' It's been a couple weeks now and the process was excitingly smooth. We didn't have any fits about it unless he asked and I had to deny for some reason. Sometimes he'll point to his cup and say 'milk.' and I'll say 'yes milk' and he'll point to my chest and say 'milk.' and I'll say, 'nope, not milk, chest.' and he just goes back to drinking from his cup. It's adorable to see his little wheels turning about it. I do wish we could have nursed to the 2 year mark, but I figured following his cues would be better than continuing to offer even when he wasn't very interested and trying to wean once he was at a more possessive stage. So after all that blabber about MY experience, my advice is, just pay close attention to your lil one and give her what she needs ^_^ Oh! And, make sure she has some teeth starting up so that she'll be able to eat whatever you give her in place of your milk! If you'd be ending nursing only to replace it with formula, that would seem pointless (to me). My son had only his front 8 teeth when we started weaning, but as soon as we stopped he started getting some molars. I'm guessing that was just good timing, but I thought it was an interesting coincidence.
Anyway, good luck! And congratulations on giving your daughter this first 7 months of nutrition to start her out! :D

Melanie - posted on 03/17/2011

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@ Laura,
It is nice to have that time with baby before bed, but I also think there is something special about sharing the bedtime routine with the dad. It's important that they get to have these bonding moments too and they don't get as many opportunities. Now that I'm starting to wean, my husband puts our little one to bed half the time and it was the same with our first one. It is difficult to give it up in some ways but it's also nice to be able to share these precious moments with my husband!
On another note, I don't find it any harder to put my children first now that I'm not nursing, I find it comes still comes easily...
I would lastly say that it's healthy and helpful to have your child learn to get ready for sleep with someone other than yourself...it prepares them for when you need to leave them somewhere overnight...it makes it easier for them longterm :)

Michelle - posted on 03/17/2011

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It was recommended to me to try to bf until at least 12 months of age, otherwise you will need to introduce formula. Both of my boys nursed beyond 12 months and there were times I thought about stopping, but I knew it was the best thing for them so I didn't stop. Also, you are still giving her powerful antibodies that help her immune system... so I as say do it as long as she wants to!

Merry - posted on 03/17/2011

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Melanie I agree completely!

But I do say that choosing to breastfeed for a long time is usually a step towards a tight bond because it means you have to be with your child alot and be meeting their needs alot more then if they could be cared for by eve one else just as much.

Like I'm the only one who can put Eric to bed at night, because breastfeeding is our bedtime routine. It's not necessarily the breastfeeding that bonds us at nighttime, it's the fact that all his life it's been me putting him to bed.

So I totally think you can bond just as close bottle feeding or after weaning etc, but I think breastfeeding sort of helps ensure you give that time and energy to your child.



I hope that makes sense! I hate it when we make moms who pump and bottle feed, or bottle feed formula feel like they can't bond as tight as women who breastfeed. It's just not true. But I do think when you are using bottles or after weaning you have to put more thought and energy into bonding.breastfeeding is sort of a simple easy way to ensure bonding without having to really think about it! It's not easy to give your body over to your child for years and years so when a mom is willing to do that, it's sort of an indication she already has her child interests higher then her own. Sure breastfeeding is sometimes warm and fuzzy, but many times t's time consuming and a bit challenging for the mom.

After all, you cant just hand over your boobs to dad or grandma or a babysitter!

Melanie - posted on 03/17/2011

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I'm seeing a commong thread in a lot of the comments...I don't think it's fair to say that you can only have a strong bond with your child if you breastfeed for years!! It is a bonding experience, it is wonderful, I've enjoyed breastfeeding myself. Someone commented that they're older child is closer to their dad as a toddler...guess what? This is normal and has nothing to do with the fact that they weren't breastfed very long. My 2.5 yr old is very close to her dad and she was breastfed for a year. You can have a strong bond with your kids even if you don't breastfeed long term...do what works for you!! The bond comes from how you parent...

Candy - posted on 03/17/2011

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breastfeed as long as you and her want to because my daughter is 9mnths old and i am still breastfeeding her she loves the security it brings and i am enjoying the bonding so i hope this was very helpful good luck

Dannyelle - posted on 03/17/2011

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I breast fed my first daughter until she was 2.5... You should breastfeed until your daughter is at least 12 months that way she never has to drink formula, it is expensive and in no way compares to breast milk nutritionally. There is no set age at which to stop breastfeeding, it is up to you! To ease the transition to milk try adding yogurt to her diet which cuts down on constipation from introducing cows milk. Good luck!

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