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Why do moms take advice so hard?

Jennifer - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Just a reminder that when you come across an opinion or method that differs from yours, take it easy. If it worked for your kid, great, if it's not something you're comfortable with, explain what worked for you instead. You don't have to go on a tirade about how shitty you think other moms are. If you come across some ignorant p.o.s. just leave a friendly message that offers someone out there who doesn't know any better some sanity. And usually, the more ignorant the post, the more likely it is they are just looking for the argument. Move on.

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Teresa - posted on 12/27/2009

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Quoting casey:

haha i told you i didnt call you an un caring abusive parent. this post convo is great but theres another side to the moms on here. the moms that take everything to heart an think other people are only talking directly to that one mom. i was saying in general geeze. how old are we here!



'ha ha'???  Um... ok?



 



I'm 33, so what?  I do take everything to heart.  You are right about that.  I'm an EXTREMELY sensitive person and my children are my world.  So, you called a 'general you' uncaring and abusive and shouldn't have children which by reading your words included anyone who has ever used CIO.  Sorry, CIO isn't abuse.



 



Abuse is using abortion as a form of birth control.  Abuse is drinking, smoking, or doing drugs while pregnant.  Abuse is leaving an infant/toddler in his crib all day w/ a curdled bottle of milk, so you can sleep.  Abuse is whipping a 3 year old w/ a fishing rod for pooping in his pants.  And SO many other examples I could list from people I actually know IRL..  Again, you may disagree w/ CIO (the funny thing is that in general, I do too), but it is NOT abuse.

Casey - posted on 12/27/2009

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haha i told you i didnt call you an un caring abusive parent. this post convo is great but theres another side to the moms on here. the moms that take everything to heart an think other people are only talking directly to that one mom. i was saying in general geeze. how old are we here!

Nicole - posted on 12/27/2009

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I think being a mother is such a personal experience and everyone does things in a unique way. Only mothers really know their own babies so they understand why they have made the choices they have with them. When someone tells a mother to not do something she has thought over and works for her baby, offense can be taken.

What I don't understand is those posters on here who make personal choices for their families and take offense when others don't do as they do. Why would anyone on here think they have the right to impose her beliefs on another mother and hold her to another her own personal opinion of what is right? This is the major problem I have with forums like this. It seems impossible to find a place where real advice is given. We all need advice and support sometimes... I don't think we ever want or need to be told that our best efforts are just plain wrong.

So sad. We should all be more supportive of each other.

Teresa - posted on 12/26/2009

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I agree and would never attack another person's parenting based on a difference of opinions. I did go on a bit of a 'tirade' today (deleted) and I do apologize for it, but I take offense when I am basically called an uncaring, abusive parent. Perfect? FAR from it, but I love my kids and they are my entire life. :)

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