Your Breastfeeding Pet Peeve?

Krystle - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 65 moms have responded )

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My Breastfeeding Pet Peeve: Mothers who choose not to breastfeed, without even trying it first!



I believe that all mothers should be forced to breastfeed! If they don't stick with it at home, fine. But I think breastfeeding is too important for a newborn to be denied it just because a mother doesn't want to. Baby's needs come before Mommy's wants. Plus, I think a lot of women would actually like it if they tried it. :)



(Not to be disrespectful) I call myself a "Nursing Nazi!" lol



Does anyone share my strong belief?



Any other breastfeeding pet peeves?

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Briana - posted on 06/18/2010

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No I do not share your beliefs. Because we are all different, and have different needs, different schedules, and lead different lives. I do not believe it is ok to judge another mother for her parenting decisions and choices. And because her child is not yours, it is none of your business.



I guess that right there would be my biggest breastfeeding pet peeves. The breastfeeding nazi's. They drive me insane, trying to rule how someone else feeds their child. It's none of your business how someone feeds their child, so keep your unwanted opinions and advice to yourself.



I also want to point out that it is the breastfeeding nazi's that actually turn many women off from breastfeeding. So you don't do anyone a "favor" by being that way.



I would also like to add that I breastfeed exclusively :)

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I'm going to lock this thread. I don't believe that it is beneficial to our community. There is a constant war of breast vs. bottle. Sitting here judging other moms for their decisions only adds fuel to the fire. We should be supportive of each other because being a mom is hard enough as it is. This community is here to encourage and help moms who choose to breastfeed, but we are not here to put those who choose not to down.

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Darcel - posted on 06/16/2010

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My pet peeve is breastfeeding advocates who do not encourage and support new moms to try breastfeeding but try to bully and guilt them into breastfeeding.

When I was a new mom I had flat inverted nipples with sore engorged breast and nothing for my baby to latch onto. After many failed attempts in the hospital my baby was starving and I was offered the option to supplement. Some of the nurses at the pro breastfeeding hospital treated me so badly for not being able to breastfed right away. Some outright accused me of being lazy and making excuses to quit, while others where condesening while trying to "help" me and offer the formula. This additude did not help a new mom already feeling like a failure (nothing came out of my breast not even colostrum) with a touch of PPD.

If it was not for my kind lactation consultant at the home visits, and the kind nurse who pumped my colostrum for me and helped me fingerfeed, I may have given up. I needed support and education during that fragile time not judgement, and ridicule. I am so thankful that a few took the time and helped me.

As a result, my biggest pet peeve is those who claim to support breastfeeding but don't support new struggling mothers.

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My pet peeve is the misinformation and lack of knowledge about breastfeeding. I think it's insulting to say that the mums who claim their milk dries up or similar comments, that many of us regard as "excuses."

The problem is that many mums are told this by their doctors, nurses, mothers etc. Allied to the strong (and often unethical) marketing tactics of formula companies, it's hardly surprising the confidence of many mums is so low.

The lack of knowledge by medical professionals is appalling in America. I know I sound like I'm bragging here, but I would say that the American medical profession's breastfeeding knowledge today is about on a par with Australia's medical profession's knowledge before the radical breastfeeders (such as myself) started teaching them!

Having said all that (just to get my bragging in!) I do feel that preparation for breastfeeding should beginning early in the pregnancy. Successful breastfeeding doesn't just happen. It used to, before our "civilisation", with it's need to measure, time and worry, has stuffed that up! Mums really need to find out as much as they can so they're fully equipped when the time comes!

Anyway, that's one of my peeves.

Aideen - posted on 06/18/2010

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I hate all the talking about it! I breastfed my daughter til she was 13mths and it rarely came up in conversation. It was such a natural choice for us and I minded my own business and I don't remember any comments about it at the time.
When my son was born nearly 6 years later I had a little more time on my hands and was again enjoying the breastfeeding experience but I joined La leche and went to a breastfeeding support group. All the talk about it drives me insane!
I have felt that most af these gathering are just opertunities to pat ourselves on the back! Ranting about people who's opinions don't matter just seems so pointless. Ranting about other peoples parenting choises...pointless. Ranting about misinformation...pointless. Why do we not put all this energy into something else or into improving these things. Pester politicians for longer maternity leave so BFing can be well established before those who need to return to work have to do so. Demand better education on BF in the hospitals. Lobby for formula adverisments to be banned along with other unhelathy foods aimed at children. Fund some media coverage/advertisments for BFing. And otherwise mind our own business and expect others to do the same.

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Briana - posted on 06/19/2010

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I have to argue with the fact that a child will be closer to mom if it's breastfed. My mother didn't breastfeed me, and I am closer to her than any of my 3 sisters. I have an extremely close bond with my mother, she's my best friend. And I was given a bottle and formula. If that's the case, than a father will never be close with his child since it's physically impossible for him to breastfeed.

Audrey - posted on 06/19/2010

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i breastfed my middle daughter til she was 1 and she is still very close to me.shes 3 1/2. what mother wouldnt want her child by her side!! i can understand why that would make you mad. it would make me mad too!! this is the only perfect time TO bond with ur child and teach them trust and security!

Mandy - posted on 06/19/2010

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Laura I wasn't be defensive, I'm just fed up of people saying that there is no way my son would self-wean at 16 months, well I beg to differ on that.
Lots of younger kids, mine included steal food from their parents plates, and fill themselves up like this. I know that my son always asks for more of his dinner and I'm not going to deny him food if he's hungry.

Tara - posted on 06/19/2010

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I breastfed Carter up until he was 14 months old. I had to learn a lot along the way, mainly via computer. Alot of new moms aren't educated enough about breastfeeding and they either get overwhelmed or influenced into formula by friends and family that also did formula. My friend started supplementing formula after 2 months of breastfeeding because she started drying up but fortunatley due to my own experience I was able to tell her she could be dehydrated and needs to really up her water and food intake. Turns out she just wasnt hydrated and wasn't eating enough, she was go go go between working full time, pumping, and being a new mom- no wonder. My point is I would love for every mom to have the information, schedule, and confidence to breastfeed but there are many different reasons it may not work out. I personally had to get up every night, pump every 4-6 hours after going back to work to keep my milk supply up. it took sacrifice but was completely worth it. I'm not going to judge anyone else or even think they are making excuses. My son would not latch on correctly-ever. We went to breast feeding consultants, we had nurses try to help us, i worked and worked with him. He got the milk but I was staying bruised so I finally just pumped. Things happen, some people arent up for the challenge for different reasons and it isn't up to anyone else as to whether it is justified or not. I commend anyone who stuck with it and have been able to make it but I won't be condoning anyone who didnt. god put us here as witnesses not as the judge or the jury :)

Cassie - posted on 06/19/2010

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Also, I breastfed through a stomach virus, which was terrible and two colds and a sinus infection. If I can do that, anyone can. Thats my pet peeve. People who down it without even trying...REALLY trying. Trying for several weeks...

Cassie - posted on 06/19/2010

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I too am a BF Nazi! Theres no reason you should choose formula unless you are very ill and cannot BF. It was hard for me at first. It was painful, I was in tears, he was in tears and my husband was telling me to keep doing it. And Im so glad I did. Plus, I dont like doing dishes so breastfeeding was so much easier! Nothing to wash! My son won't even take a pacifier and never has. We're totally exclusive! And it was a great discision. No bottle warming, sterlizing or losing pacifiers. I'm the mama and I'm always here for his food needs and pacifier needs. That's what being a truly good mom is about. Putting aside your own needs for your child and I've done it since day one. We've been exclusive for 8 months. He doesnt eat much food yet...just a little twice a day. Still nurses 6-8 times a day. I couldn't feel prouder of us!

Merry - posted on 06/19/2010

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Mandy i never said to force a baby/toddler to nurse. as you can see i was specifically speaking about my friends who i can see their feeding practices. as i said, if you feed alot of table food and get them accustomed to that instead of the breast then yes baby wont want to nurse. i OBVIOUSLY wasnt judging everyone else, i was speaking about my experience. if your son really self weaned then you really dont need to be so defensive about it.

Mandy - posted on 06/19/2010

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Jacqueline Mowers - some mums have big breasts (me) and have trouble latching their babies on. Why should they feel they have to cover up. What's that saying - "If breastfeeding offends, put a blanket over your head!"

Mandy - posted on 06/19/2010

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even my friends who are saying their 14month olds are weaning themselves i honestly can say that the babies arent self weaning its just that their moms push alot of table foods and are less willing to nurse. i see their babies eating big meals so of course it will not be much nursing after that!


I had to comment on this, my 17 month decided last month to end bfing. All by himself, pulling my top down and vehemently shaking head no whenever I offered him the breast. What was I meant to do? Force him to nurse? I think not. He made the choice and I'm fine with that, a little disappointed that he didn't want to continue.
Maybe you shouldn't judge everyone by what your child does - every child is different and at different stages.

Mandy - posted on 06/19/2010

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Breastfeeding "nazis" are one of biggest pet peeves. Mothers should be supported to bf not FORCED (I'm hoping that was a typo on your part not how you actually feel). I have a rebelious nature and if anybody tried to force me to do something then I automatically won't do it. Bf is a beautiful and rewarding thing but it isn't for everyone, and sometimes we have to accept that no matter what we say, these people won't chnage their minds. It's best to disagree and move onto someone else who may be more receptive - you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
My 2nd biggest peeve is ignorance, you see it all the time when you look at a bfing in public article, the peolpe that type "I don't want to see that" or my favourite "It's a private moment between mum and baby". THat particular comment always gets my goat, babies eat same as everyone else and last time I checked having a meal was a social event, so why should a nursing baby and the mum be excluded?
Bfing should be introduced in schools as part of their health education, catch them young and put it forward as the norm and I swear more future mums will bf by default because they won't see formula as an alternative.

Megan - posted on 06/19/2010

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I can't believe that some peoples belief is 'breastfeed or else'! What sort of world do we live in where people are felt guilty by not BF? When i bought my daughter home from hospital, she lost weight, and continued losing weight until she was well under birth weight. After my husband and i were saying how bad parents we were, we seeked medical help. Turned out, my body did NOT produce milk! I did go on medication to produce milk, but what i had to do, was pump every 3 hours (which took an hour), then feed for an hour. You can imagine doing this for 12 weeks, it was absolutely exhausting! Then when i stopped the medication that produced my milk, it dried up again within 48 hours. So you see, by my thinking 'Breast is Best', i was actually starving my daughter for 4 weeks, without even knowing. I still live with this, every single day. My daughter is now 19 months old, and i'm pregnant and due in 12 weeks for baby number 2. I will try breast feeding again, but i will not be made to feel guilty if i can not. Formula is better than starving a baby.

Oh, and my 19 month old is an extremely happy and healthy toddler, that doesn't get half as sick as some of the breast fed babies out there. I do agree that babies needs come before the mother, but tell me, where does it say that it's okay not to feed a baby at all???

Stephanie - posted on 06/19/2010

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This.. EXACTLY ----

I completely resent the fact that WIC (and other organizations like it) will give you free formula just "because'. They should be proactive in the breastfeeding education process.

Nichole - posted on 06/18/2010

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I nursed 3 children so kudos to me, but your belief that all should be forced is disgusting and you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Did you include for example a first time mother of twins by C section? Three cheers for those that have done it, including me but for crying out loud have some empathy for those who it's just too hard for and some respect for those who choose not to! How rude! I have plenty of pet peeves, but the only thing irritating me now is your beliefs and even using the term "nazi" ... I apologize on your behalf for anyone you might have offended. Oh and yes *I* have more experience, try having three kids and then breastfeeding through the after-pains which were CRIPPLING enough to almost put ME off breastfeeding!

Sasha - posted on 06/18/2010

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i mainly agree w/ u! I have friends who wouldn't even try it and others who did and just didn't stick w/ it. I'm sort of the same way w/ u and the "nursing nazi" I would rather breastfeed and formula any day!! I'm the type of mom that if my kids hungry in the middle of the store, we'll sit and she'll eat. I never have a cover on but am covered. I just get looks sometimes but I don't care boobs are there to feed my kids!

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When there is freely available, accurate information, and when there is freely available, accurate information about all formulas, (stripped of all the marketing rubbish) then all mums will be able to make an INFORMED choice.

Krystle - posted on 06/18/2010

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Thank you everyone for commenting! It's great reading everyone's thoughts!



I am a very passionate supporter of breastfeeding and I really wish we lived in a world where everyone woman, at least tried, to nurse.



I agree with what a lot of you have already posted: there needs to be more support! Imagine how many more women would try and then stick with bfing if their doctors and nurses strongly advocated for it and supported them! Ahhh, what a wonderful world that WILL be!! :D

Danielle - posted on 06/18/2010

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You sing it Krystle!! LOL! I love the "nursing nazi" label.. too funny! I agree though that everyone should at least give it a try. It's free, it's great for mom and baby and it's right there with you all of the time. Nothing makes me sadder than when I hold one of my friends babies and they root on me b/c they smell my milk. I know they are being fed formula and they STILL look for the mommy love!!

Francesca - posted on 06/18/2010

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FORCED??? I think that is a little harsh. To force a woman to do something with their body. I mean, thats like saying for the sake of procreation a woman can be forced to have sex with her husband. EEP. Talking about invading constitutional rights.



I agree, that breast is best. I am still nursing my almost 14 month old. And wouldn't have it any other way. But this holier than though nature most EBF have is almost cultlike. Breast is best, there is no disputing it. But as far as forcing someone, well, thats just unreasonable. I think that there should be better support systems like Allison already mentioned a few post previous to mine, and some social cultre changes so that more women will try, will be more successful.



In the same cult that wants to force BFing, I have noticed that there are EBFs posting that say its indecent not to cover up. Or to public BF. Wow? Isn't the stigma what we are trying to combat? I mean, if young woman are brought up to think of it as indecent, can we blame them for not trying it?



BF moms have an us or them approach. That is my biggest pet peeve. And that is not going to help change peoples minds about it. And if we want it to be more acceptable to the world, we have to be proactive, not reacitve.



Lets change peoples minds for the better, not the worse! Then maybe more mom's will give it a try :)

Angie - posted on 06/18/2010

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Aideen, if you attended a La Leche League Meeting of course that's all they talked about. That is what they are there for and why they meet. They are not a political group, they aren't there to discuss topics unrelated to breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is what they do. Leaders are trained (and rather well and highly) to help mothers who are in need of breastfeeding advice. They hold meetings so that mothers have a safe place to come and ask BREASTFEEDING questions and somewhere they can go and not feel judged for nursing in public, nursing a toddler or nursing in general. There is so much bad advice and misinformation out there about breastfeeding that it's a great resource for many women.

As far as bashing others decisions if you attended a meeting like that you attended a very unusual LLL meeting. Of course they do promote breastfeeding and they believe that breastfeeding is the very best way to feed your child. You probably won't find any LLL meeting anywhere that is going to have a belief that "Well breastfeeding is good but formula is ok too." That's just not what their stance or philosophy is.

Jen - posted on 06/18/2010

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my biggest breastfeeding pet peeve is......

no one has ever say anything about me breast feeding my daughter in public.... come to think about it no one has ever say anything bad about me breast feeding at all...

Jacqueline - posted on 06/18/2010

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My 2 big things are one; when a women is nursing with her ENTIRE breast hanging out. I understand your baby needs to eat but your ENTIRE breast doesnt need to be out there for everyone to see. I just stopped nursing my daugter at 20 months and was planning on stopping at 24 but Now that im pregnant i wanted her wein by the time the new baby is here, when she is 25 months. I didnt think she was going to wein so easily tho. BTW they do make nursing blankets! Nursing rooms for mom and a receiving balnket ALSO works just fine!!! Second is when a women can nurse but gives it up because she wants to drink/smoke. Way to put your child first. Then say they couldnt produce enough or it hurt or some other exuse. At first when I started nursing my nipple was rubbing so i looked a breast feeding counsiler in hospital and saw her twice a week for a month (thats how long it took) to make sure i get it right. And made a couple checks up to make sure everything was lookin just right. After I got it down the doc and my mom said i had enough milk to feed the free world lol.

Christina Marie - posted on 06/18/2010

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Strongly agree with you!
..and there are just too many to list lol. A topic I could go on and on about.

Miranda - posted on 06/18/2010

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I totally agree with you! I can't understand why some women won't even try. Breast milk is what is the very best for baby and this fact is widely known! So why don't more people do it?? I personally think that if you are going to bring a child into this world you should try to do the very best for him/her. That goes beyond breastfeeding, but I think it starts there :). Not being physically able to breastfeed is another thing altogether and I don't think anyone should feel guilty that they can't do it.

Andrea - posted on 06/18/2010

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I AGREE WITH MOST OF THIS i really dont think there is an excuse and maybe it has something to do w\ith being lazy. it may not be a something they do on purpose. and i do not mean any disrespect by that, if you try you try andthats good, i more or less mean that for the people who just dont care enough too. i have always been taught that there is no try, you either do or you dont.
i guess i just dont see why someone wouldnt want to atlest do it for a little wile. to me it just seems natural :) but then again my mommy is a hippy and is all into babys and birthing stuff, so she has influinced my mind in a positive way
but my pet peeve wile breast feeding is when my son gets distracted ( by the way it happens oftern) lol so we wants to eat, look around, eat for 10 seconds, then look around, and so on HAHA i can laugh about it so its not so bad :)

Darcel - posted on 06/18/2010

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I never heard the term "breastfeeding nazi" before this tread. That term is not exactly accurate of most. I would say Breastfeeding Zealot is more accurate, for I do not think many are being mean on purpose, just overzealous with how they promote their beliefs and untentionally hurt others.

And I agree, the Breastfeeding Zealot can be a big turnoff for new moms and is a pet peeve. I wasn't trying to make a political statement with breastfeeding. I just wanted to do it while I could.

Allison - posted on 06/18/2010

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PS Second pet peeve is also breastfeeding "nazis" - because while formula is significantly inferior to breastmilk, it is NOT poison. Lots of babies thrive on formula. So IF mom's have all the info AND support and still decide to do formula, that is their (fully informed) choice. That forceful, judgemental attitude about BFing is going to drive more moms to use formula, I believe.



Sure, formula-fed kids will not be getting 100% of the very best nutrition available, but that is still up to the parents to decide!!! They are FEEDING their kids, after all. I think a better expenditure of energy is to stop parents from feeding their kids junk food (including white flour and sugar syrup - aka soda) - which is WAY worse than formula in terms of sub-par nutrition. And I *think* that childhood and life-long eating habits will have more effect on the child's overall health than if they are formula fed. Just saying...



PPS I'm also an exclusive and extended (2.5 years) breastfeeder :) Made me really feel like a superhero to literally make my own babyfood. At the end, my son often asked me how I made milk :) Go boobies!

Allison - posted on 06/18/2010

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Same peeve as many of you - Misinformed/untrained medical professionals giving women breastfeding advice/anti-advice and ACTING like they KNOW. I got misadvice from about 4 doctors and 10 nurses (and other moms) before getting a lactation consulatnt who set it all straight.



Because of that, I don't blame the moms who don't try - I blame the medical community for misinforming them or not informing them at all. Especially since there is so much emphasis on pre-natal care - EVERY mom should have a lactation consultant or similar, just as EVERY mom should have a midwife or doctor to monitor them through pregnancy. I don't like the guilting attitude - or the blaming moms - because yeah, it just polarizes people and makes them less likely to ask questions and discuss the options seriously. Lets all try to be supportive no matter where we come from! Some moms just don't have ALL the information straight or adequate support. I think many more women WOULD continue to try if they got better support and REALLY grasped all the deficiencies of formula and how POSSIBLE it is for almost ALL moms to breastfeed. That's why I like this community, though, because I think we can share good info and show how lots of moms DO nurse until 2-3 years +, even through hardship, and to spread the word that *many* doctors and nurses truly do NOT know much about breastfeeding.

Marcy - posted on 06/18/2010

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My mother didn't nurse me for a minute. Of course, that was back when doctors told women that they couldn't nurse, gave them a shot and then sent them home with formula. That (obviously) was a choice made from a place of ignorance. I think that women should nurse. I don't know (like anything) if anyone should be forced to do something. If a mother is forced to do something that she doesn't want to, I have to think that can't be setting a good precedence for motherhood in general.

Ami - posted on 06/18/2010

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I am BF my four & a half month old & have found it extremely hard right from the start. She did not naturally take to it & then I had all sorts of problems even up until a few weeks ago. With the support of my family I have continued to BF, & without them I do believe I would of given up. So my peeve is that I think there should definitely be more readily available support & information out there for BF mother's. Especially from doctors. I love feeding my daughter & would choose to BF any other children I may have but I don't believe new mum's should be forced into it. It should be greatly encouraged by health professionals but at the end of the day its a woman's own personal decision.

Marianne - posted on 06/18/2010

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my pet peve is moms who give up too soon breast feeding without really giving it a chance i realize its not for everyone but nature made it so you can provide the best ;possible care for your baby and i feel the benifits of reduced chance of cancer in mom ,less of a chance of ostioperossis, less of a chance of allergies in the baby, and it helps in brain and bone development just to list a few out weigh and inconvinces it may cause the mom. you chose to have your baby it means setting some of your needs aside and look after theirs.

Merry - posted on 06/18/2010

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yeah rachel im sure that if it was easy you would have quit long ago! I always wondered how all the quit products worked? but i know that the adiction is easier to break then the habbit. one friend of mine switched to chewing on pencils! lol but she relapsed. so goodluck with it I know its an ongoing process!

Stina - posted on 06/18/2010

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I don't see the use in wasting my energy by getting bent out of shape about what other mothers do or do not do.

So. My biggest breastfeeding pet peeve has to do with me and my 14 mo dd:

I HATE when she pinches me with her tiny little fingers.

Yowza! I have teeny little bruises on my upper arms and she's actually gotten better about not doing it. (I handle it like biting and put her on the floor for a few seconds when she pinches me)

Rachel - posted on 06/18/2010

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my son does that too...and he bites on occasion too...always when i least expect it.

Rachel - posted on 06/18/2010

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its funny you say it like that lol! thats what I hear all the time from people.just quit. I m always like I wish it was that easy!! For some people it is...And I envy those people. I got into an ongoing debate with a friend of mine about it (formula feeder and ex-smoker)

Merry - posted on 06/18/2010

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thats awesom rachel, i know from watching others try to quit that it isnt "just do it" and im sure you are not going to stop trying to quit, but yes! be proud of the fact that even with your habit you still feed your baby better then millions of formula feeders! (no judgement to ffrs, just encouragement to rachel :)

Ashley - posted on 06/18/2010

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I agree with you. I was undecided about breastfeeding and even ask the nurses to change my decision on my charts once I found out I was having a C-Section. My nurse was very adamant in going with my previous choice to do it that she wouldn't let me quit. 11 weeks later I am still strictly breastfeeding my son, even with going back to work and everything =) If I wouldn't have given it a chance I never would've realized how important it was to me.

Rachel - posted on 06/18/2010

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Ive been battleing with my habit for so long. at least once a month I try to quit cold turkey. I almost switched to formula because of it but then discovered that it was still better to breastfeed....I have cut down signifacantly and I never smoke around my baby, ( i actually moved to a place that I have to walk 500 ft away from the building to smoke to make it even more inconveinent) but its scary to think that formula is lacking that much, that it still can't hold a torch to breastmilk that contains trace amts of nicotine. I still can't wrap my mind around people who dont want to at least try and breastfeed. all that milk wasted!!!!

Tara Lee - posted on 06/18/2010

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I have to say, I have a lot of "Peeves" ... the top 3 ...
1. uneducated medical professionals
2. "isn't it time to ween?" this at 6months! and still at 21months!
3. moms not at least trying

Rebecca - posted on 06/18/2010

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My Biggest peeve is BITING!!! My 11.5 month old daughter is a really bad biter! She bites at the start, during and after! grrrrr! It got so bad she broke the skin and my poor nipples bled! I had a tantrum and stop her night feeds! She now sleeps 13 hours a night...WIN WIN situation!

Kristy - posted on 06/18/2010

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All mothers should try it and i dont believe that a mother cant till she tries. i breast feed my son for one month but i had a poor supply and he had such great difficulty that feeding time wasn't enjoyable but two years later his lil sis was born and seven months later and still strong.
my hubby's ex didn't try and claimed it as a heridetary problem to which her family denies but...... i know a mum that tried and couldnt from the first feed. well u cant if ya nipples are bleeding :( she was so upset and disappointed.
i felt like a failure when i couldn't continue with my son and my daughter is such a greedy guts (in a good way) that i can feed her for an hour both sides, give her a 230ml water and 30ml milk bottle with three scoops of thick formula (she still has very bad reflux / regurgitation) then we will go for another hour both sides! yes she is a porker lol. i still try with i feel bad giving her a bottle but sometimes when i have a house with 9 ppl and only two are adults...... but my biggest pet peeve with feeding is when my daughter grinds her gums and latches on then whips her head around! yeouch! that i hate must. she may aswell rip it off!

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Ha ha, Christine that's exactly what my little one does!!! it can get so frustrating because he doesn't release as he turns so it can get quite painful.

As for my main peeves. It's medical professionals who give advice to breastfeeding mothers without really knowing what they are talking about. I mean the type who can't simply say "I'm not sure about that, I'll look it up for you."
I had a lactation consultant who was telling me I had a low supply and should use formula, when my bub gained 750grams in 9 days (WTF??). She told me to express as often and as much as I could, but I really had to accept that I probably wouldn't be able to continue breastfeeding. When I got home I cried & cried, till my hubby told me she was an idiot and to try someone else.
I tried another consultant who actually watched me breastfeed, and worked out that I actually had an oversupply and a fast let down.
If I had listened to the first "professional" I would have stopped in the first month. Luckily I found someone who could help me. We're still breastfeeding at 15 months.
Sorry for the long story, but I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't be too hard on women (especially first time mothers) who stop feeding early because they think they have a low supply. They've probably been given some dodgy advice from someone they trust to KNOW what they're talking about.

Oh, just quickly, peeve no.3: People who think breastfeeding is "disgusting", but drink bovine milk... Seriously???? C'mon.

P.S. I quite like cow's milk, I don't think either cow's milk or human milk are disgusting... ;-)

Jane - posted on 06/18/2010

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well my pet peeve, is bub latching on, nursing well with strong suction, then turning around to look at something with a lightening fast whip of the head, and almost ripping my boob off! LOL!

Kim - posted on 06/17/2010

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I can understand where you are coming from... but I find this very polarizing. I BF my daughter because of the benefits for her. However, I was not BF- not because my mother didn't want to- but for my safety. My mom had to take medication to control clotting- had she BF I would have had to get blood work done DAILY, and possibly risked bleeding out as an infant. Yes BF is best, however it is a 100% personal choice. YES are bodies are made to do this, yes it is (in my opinion) the best option.. however, if you look at the case of my Mom... theres often more behind the decision not to BF...

Christine - posted on 06/17/2010

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my biggest pet peeve is that when my son eats, he usually pulls off ALOT. he eats a little, looks around, eats a little, looks around, eats a little, talks and looks around, eats some more. etc. etc. etc.
it makes me really frustrated when im not at home. at home, who cares. but when i was at applebees its was ridiculously frustrating.
i feel really grateful though that i have a very supporting family. and i feel very knowlegdeable and confident about my decsion to breastfeed. i wish that more people felt this.
most for my friends dont even try! they just formula feed.. or say they tried when i know they didnt. but if they knew the facts i think they wouldve stuck it out.

Erica - posted on 06/17/2010

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My biggest pet peave my mother and others telling me that I need to ween my 4 MONTH old because he is too dependent on the "tittie". Said that if I don't ween him soon he will be a momma's boy and will be scared to leave my side. OMG, I nearly lost it last week when my mother said that to me.

Merry - posted on 06/17/2010

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yes its amazing that a smokers breastmilk is BETTER then formula!!!!!!! wowza i tell so many that fact!

Rachel - posted on 06/17/2010

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I do. completley. I have talked alot of friends into at least trying it. I think the reason more women don't, Is just ignorance. they simply just dont how horrible formula really is. you know how benifecial it really has to be if they are reccomending you still breastfeed if you smoke. I make it my personal duty to educate all of my pregnant friends on the benefits of bf-ing. I wasnt sure if id like it but i love it.

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