Need help about my ex giving up his rights

Jessica - posted on 03/07/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Me and my ex broke up when i was 8 months pregnant and we lived in Alberta at the time. I moved back to Ontario and he stayed in Alberta. When the day came around that i ws going to have the baby he never came down to be there. When our son was about a month old i took him to alberta to meet his dad. We stayed there for about a month and my ex didnt show me that he was ready to be a dad so me and our son came back to Ontario. My son is now 9 months old and hasnt seen his dad since he never once came down here to see his son. We recently just got down with court for child support and since my son has been month my ex has only paid a month of support. We started talking and he agreed that if i were to get papers saying i had full custody of our son and a paper saying that he was giving up all his rights as a dad that he would sign them and stay out of our lives. How do i get these papers together?...and if i were to make a contract between me and my ex saying he was giving up his rights as a dad and we both signed them..would that work?

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Linda1 - posted on 12/03/2012

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Hi i wanna just email you and update you! Angel got back with me and i thought it was a joke when she called me. She told me she filed a divorce from her husband and wanted me badly to come back. That was the chock of my life!!! Thx again beliversloveworldsolutionspell@gmail.com and Alysia!



Best regards Juan Gonzales, San Diego, USA

Linda1 - posted on 12/03/2012

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Hi i wanna just email you and update you! Angel got back with me and i thought it was a joke when she called me. She told me she filed a divorce from her husband and wanted me badly to come back. That was the chock of my life!!! Thx again beliversloveworldsolutionspell@gmail.com and Alysia!



Best regards Juan Gonzales, San Diego, USA

Erica - posted on 09/10/2010

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not usually u wud hve 2 go to the court and get the papers unless yu get that note signed by a judge im goin thru the same crap..deadbeat father my heart goes out to yu it isnt easy!!

Justine - posted on 04/30/2010

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he wil still have to pay you child support he just wont be able to come get your son or make any decisions about him and i think if he hasnt wanted to see him now the chances of him wanting later are very slim but good luck having a baby with a guy like that sucks i know what your going through

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My roommate who is my boyfriends friend just signed papers giving up his rights because she did not want him in their lives. He didn't want to battle her so he did. I believe that the papers were made from a lawyer or court. As soon as he signs there is no turning back for either of you. But if he doesn't care now he never will or if he does it will be years down the road and that is up to your child having a relationship with him when he is older. As long as your sure and don't need the child support go for it. Don't do a contract, however, because they aren't anything like the actual papers that you can get that makes this 100% permanent. Good luck!

Alice - posted on 03/24/2010

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i hope that this helps you out but he will still have to pay support to u till u marry or till the baby is 18

Alice - posted on 03/24/2010

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Contact Family Support Services in your area and they can advise you as to what your options are.However, be forewarned! If you know the child is his.He may sign away his rights but as far as the law is concerned, it does not get him off the hook to pay child support. You can still get him for support and the law will back you up.he has a child, and he want to give the child up because harassment? My OPINION is maybe they harass you because you want nothing to do with it!. Im really guessing there doing that for a reason, and the reason seems a little obvious to me. I dont mean to be rude, but if your ex-man enough to lay down with a woman, then be man enough to take care of what comes out.

Alice - posted on 03/24/2010

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Contact Family Support Services in your area and they can advise you as to what your options are.However, be forewarned! If you know the child is his.He may sign away his rights but as far as the law is concerned, it does not get him off the hook to pay child support. You can still get him for support and the law will back you up.he has a child, and he want to give the child up because harassment? My OPINION is maybe they harass you because you want nothing to do with it!. Im really guessing there doing that for a reason, and the reason seems a little obvious to me. I dont mean to be rude, but if your ex-man enough to lay down with a woman, then be man enough to take care of what comes out.

Maria - posted on 03/19/2010

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Sorry Jessica, I didn't mean that all you should care about was the financial side of things; you didn't say in your post that he was abusive or into drugs but now you've made that clear I think that you are right in not wanting this man around your child, his behaviour sounds awful and you are totally right to protect your son from that. Good luck x

Niccole - posted on 03/10/2010

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If you do make a contract, make sure it gets notarized. I don't know how the laws work in Canada, but in Florida, without a notary, the contract is invalid. However, you could do it with a family lawyer, too, but they are pricey sometimes.

Brandy - posted on 03/09/2010

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If you want to get the papers I believe you just go to a courthouse and get them there. If it happens that he changes his mind, you can get his rights waived. I'm not sure on the time period but after a certain amount of time has gone by without him having any contact with the child it is considered abandonment. Good luck I hope it turns out for you.

Richelle - posted on 03/09/2010

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Jessica, It seems like you ARE doing the right thing for both you and your child! I was in a similar situation when my daughter was born (almost 10 years ago). I was stupid enough to keep coming back to him until she was about 2 1/2 When I ended it for good. I did not end his rights which, looking back was what I SHOULD have done! He ended up kidnapping my daughter for 3 months & went on welfare to support his drug habbit. I knew which city he was in but no idea where because he kept shuffling around. Finally him & his girlfriend got in a fight & child welfare became involved. Because I had been on the phone with the RCMP from the beginning, they knew how to get a hold of me and I got my daughter back.

To this day my daughter won`t have anything to do with him. She has even cut all his pictures up. We are both blessed because we made it through this horrific time and are thriving in our new life with my wonderful husband (the man she now calls daddy). Unfortunately, getting the ex to give up his rights (even though he has NEVER paid child support) is hard for me because he seems to think he has the right to be her father after all these years. I will wait until my daughter is 12 (I believe thats how old you have to be here in Canada to speak in family court) so she can tell the judge how much she doesn`t want him in her life.

For you, Jessica, I would go down to your local court house & ask them for the papers to waive parental rights. Don`t worry about the measly child support cheque he`s giving. In the end, it`s NOT worth it! Your son is still young, just be the best mother to your child that you can be & things will work out. God has a plan for you! I hope this helps :0)

Jessica - posted on 03/08/2010

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It has nothing to do with the child support i have already taken him to court for that and the judge made so he had to start paying the 12th of Febuary. The thing is he hasnt been in his life at all and he is into drugs and abusive and we talked and he said he would give up his rights to my son and leave us alone. the man has put me threw hell and back and i dont want him doing the same thing to my son. heres an example ...I had my son in my arms and he was about 1 month old and i was walking down the hallway trying to get my things and my ex started wipping vases at me while i had my son in my arms. so yes i know i will have to explain to him one day that his father didnt want him but it will be worth it. my son will be so much better off if he doesnt know him. so thats why im trying to find out how to do this....

Maria - posted on 03/08/2010

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Does he want to do this to avoid paying child support? I would think very carefully before allowing this man to walk out of his child's life forever - you will be the one who ends up having to explain to your son that his father didn't want to know him, let alone support him. I would seek advice from a legal professional; there are ways that a person can be made to pay child support which is the very least this man can do, whether he wants to be an involved father or not. Don't let him get away with walking away from his responsibility; your child deserves to be looked after properly and that includes financially. Good luck x

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