staying grounded

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any one want to share your favorite way to relax and keep yourself in the moment? what's the most effective way for you to stay grounded and keep all your stresses and anxieties in check?

i've been having a hard time calming enough for meditation (mostly because the kids and animals in the house seem to seek me out and want to turn me into a jungle gym right at that moment!), but yoga, tea, hiking with my dogs, drawing (my stream-of-consciousness artsy fartsy form of meditation!) :), playing guitar and just playing with my kiddos (and pretending chores don't exsist) are my ultimate stress relievers. how about you?

look forward to meeting like minded mamas



Caroline - posted on 06/18/2010




My practice involves chanting as opposed to meditating. Having 4 kids and the youngest seriously ill it would be impossible to do any other form. The outcome is the same as meditating. The chant allows you to centre and draw on your inner strength and enlightenment. ?Ive chanted while the kids were running wild, washing dishes in the bath .... through difficult times and properly infront of my Butsudan. The difference in me doing that and not doing it is profound.
Its just another way of following the Buddhist practice and philosophy and worth a try if actually finding physical and mental space isnt happening. You can do it anytime any where and I (and all who chant this way) get immediate calming and de stress. You certainly dont notice the chores and its amazing how much is actually reveiled in this medative state.

Worth a try eh?


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Tan - posted on 12/03/2010




The only way I was and am able to practice effectively and helps me stay focused during all things and not just sitting, is the Alexander Technique. It is so incredible and so simple.

Rachel - posted on 03/23/2010




Nothing brings me back to the moment like my kids smiles or laughs :-) Music time is always fun if they both get into it, as well as outdoor fun, excercise time (both my kids learned downward dog, it's so cute!), and of course art time. Those are the best times for me... it's so great to find things that you and your kids can enjoy together :-) Readin is always good too! There are some awesome books out there.... I think my favorite right now is The Three Questions :-) It's so awesome when kids books have such great messages.

Nicole - posted on 11/29/2009




Now really.... The best way for me to meditate is to make time for it in the mornings before my children wake up. I am also able to engage in present time awareness during my chores... my favorite being dish-washing meditation. All I think about is the dishes. the cool thing about meditation is that you can use anything as your focal point... even a dirty dish. I do engage in mommy meditation quite a bit though, how else will my children learn how i practice spirituality? they have to see it so they can emulate you. they play meditate all the time and my oldest (9) is asking to sit with me now. Sweeeeet!

Nicole - posted on 11/29/2009




I will not always be the mother of small children. I will not always be the mother of small children. I will not always be the mother of small children...

Oh, sorry, I didn't realize anyone was here.

You caught me repeating my new mantra during my mommy meditations. What's a mommy meditation you ask. It's a meditation that requires visual cues given by the mommy in meditation to the monsters that need to pee, tattle, cry or eat. Yes your allowed to move, but only when absolutely necessary, like when one of the buggars decide you are a live punching bag.

I have gone through the whole schpeel about allowing mommy some quite time, there response was..."you don't gotta talk, just nod your head."

I didn't know it was so simple.

Kathy - posted on 10/22/2009




My children are older (9, 12 & 20) so meditating is a bit easier for me. I use headphones and meditate each morning before getting ready for work. It helps to get me ready for the day. On my commute in to work, I put in a CD of upbeat music that lifts my soul and try to focus on the positive aspects of the day ahead.

Lyndal - posted on 09/27/2009




I need to start that! :)
I have no mental space for meditation. I just try to live by the dharma and the lessons I know but living in a different and very non-Buddhist culture I think if someone was to look at my life, how I think and what I say they'd be surprised to find out I did follow Buddhism. I find it hard to blend Buddhism and Ghanaian culture together but I am trying very hard.
I should take a few minutes each day but always forget.
Although I do agree that being with my daughter and being present with her is my ultimate relaxer and joy. I am back at work now too and so find that that time has lessened so I am making much more of a conscious effort to breath her in. She's amazing! :)

Samantha - posted on 09/13/2009




Quoting Juli:

 playing guitar and just playing with my kiddos (and pretending chores don't exsist) are my ultimate stress relievers. how about you?


Hi Juli, I like to do the same.  Music is great therapy! 

I have been trying to get less caught up in the housework lately. I can sometimes get carried away with organisation and having things 'just so'.  I explained to my father when he was visiting the other day that I was focusing more on the moment instead of the housework, so the house was actually in chaos, not because I was slacking off, but due to my spiritual journey :)  

I am finding now that the kids are a little older, I get more moments in the day where I can close my eyes and focus on my breathing.  Mindfulness of breath meditation, even for a minute or two helps me to clear the fog and to see the moment more clearly. 


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eww. I have a hard time with that too. I would love to hear others thoughts!

With three kids, three dogs and 3 cats, I have a hard time finding any time to have a moment to meditate. I am trying so hard to be more mindful, but I am not always very successful!

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009




Hmmmm, I'd say that between work and kids and the general workload of the house, my best stress-reliever is to retreat to the shower.  LOL

I do find that if I can discipline myself to go to bed at a reasonable hour, and then get up early enough, I can do some sitting meditation where I can refocus the mind again through vipassana.  I have to admit, though, that I've never found myself to be enthusiastic enough NOR disciplined enough to meditate for an hour.  I find if I keep my practice shortened enough in the mornings, then it's much easier for me to maintain that schedule where over time I can see the results.

Contemplation on impermanence and no-self helps me to see past the delusions, too, if I'm mired in the moment of chaos and emotions of hormonal teens and grumbling husbands.  ;-D

Great discussion idea!  Many blessings to all of you!!


Candi - posted on 02/10/2009




I've been struggling with having a 2 month old around.  The only thing I've been able to do is to just live in the moment with him - feel his warmth, watch the funny faces he makes when he's sleeping and just try to figure him out.  Actually, right now, this is a wonderful way to be present considering I have to go back to work in 2 weeks.  

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