i am so scared of what happend to me i never wanna have any more children

Kristy - posted on 03/01/2009

Hey Denise. I know what you are felling. My 1st was an emergency c-sect  20 months ago after a 30 hour labour and that turned out fine. The scar healed great and had no problems. I had my 2nd emergency c-sect 12 wks ago after a 12 hour labour. It was so bad I never want anymore kids which is a shame as I have 2 wonderful boys but would have liked to try for a girl. The epidural didnt work properly and I could feel everything on the right side. I kept telling them but they didnt listen. When they pulled bub from me(he was stuck in my pelvis) they tore my cervix and I could feel it happen and started screaming. They knocked me out completely then. I woke up in agony and they told me it would past. I was dischrged from hospital 3 days later and the following day I was walking when all of a sudden there was blood and stuff dripping on the floor. I didnt know what it was so my husband looked and he said it looks bad. We went to the local GP and he informed there was still a hole in my tummy about 2 inchs deep and an inch wide. Everyday I had to go to the doc and get it cleaned packed and dressed. I was so depressed. It hurt so much and I cried all the time. For 10 wks I couldnt enjoy my son. I also got an infection and then was put on medicine which in turn I got a really bad rash from. I couldnt win. I still have a pulling, burning pain on my right side which my doc said will some day go away....As much as I want more children I just couldnt go through it again..

Denise - posted on 03/01/2009

i just wanna thank all you great ladies for sharing your stories and giving advice i appreciate it,

Jamie - posted on 02/28/2009

I'm so sorry for your scary experience. I've had 2 C-sections and luckily no infections or complications afterwards. If you've only had 1 C-section it is still possible for you to do a VBAC. I choose a C-section the 2nd time because the 1st one wasn't bad and I felt the risk of VBAC was not worth it. I must say the 2nd recovery did not go as quickly, which my Dr had warned me of. So this one probably won't be any better than the last. I guess it has a lot to do with age ~ the recovery time that is.

Rachael - posted on 02/26/2009

hi there i feel the same way i had a bad time too. i was in labour for 4 days before the hospital let me stay in as i was not far enough. Gone when the time came i was rushed for a c- section as my daughters heart kept stopping and they had to keep pumping my belly. Now it as scared me to have any more children incase the same happens again.

Erin - posted on 02/25/2009

Go Tammy!

Tammy - posted on 02/24/2009

I really feel that the word c-section needs to be done away with and it should be referred to what it is Major abdominal surgery most mom’s who undergo this operation do not have all the facts because they are not given them.



There is such thing as too much information thou, when I was told I would need to have my first son by cesarean section I went right to the library and did my research….to much research it scared the heck out of me and I went in totally thinking I wasn’t coming out and had everything arranged in case that happened! I too was infected and spent almost two weeks in the hospital, a week of which I have no memory.

I did go on to have two very big babies 9 & 10+ virginally after that with thankfully no complications:0)

Erin - posted on 02/23/2009

Boy these are some aweful exeriences. I also suffered with an infected wound though thankfully it never opened up or needed debridement and Ididn't need to be re-hospitalized. However I was painful and 'felt sick' for a longer period of time than is usual after a cesarean. That alone was hard.

Interesting information in light of the "elective cesarean" issue in debate these days.

I am ALL FOR patience freedom of choice at both ends of the spectrum - elective cesarean on one end, VBAC's and homebirth on the other - but along with choice comes INFORMED CONSENT. Not many women realize that when they say your risk for infection is greater with cesarean - THIS IS WHAT THEY MEAN! So I hope all of you are willing to talk with friend and family who are in the process of making choices about their maternity care and the kind of delivery they want to try and achieve. Tell your stories. Too many women think that surgery is no big deal and unfortunately some of them will have to learn the hard way.

Teri - posted on 02/22/2009

I have had 3 c-sections. The first was an emeregency and i have to admit that it was a very scary deal, but I realized that my lil man was better of due to that quick delivery. With my 2nd one I chose to have it. They gave me that decision since you can have a c-sec and then a vaginal delivery after that. I know many women who have done it this way. With my 3 c-sec I didn't have an option any longer, it was just safer to do it this way. I had a normal c-sec, there was some minor swelling but nothing major til I went in to have the staples removed. I had some busted blood vessels due to a horrible cough. I ended up having my incesion opened and packed with gauze everyday for like 4 weeks. I have to admit at first it hurt and freaked my out. They had to let my incesion heal from the inside out. I have a latge scar now due to this way of healing. I was really freaked out at first but now I know I would do it all over again if I was allowed to have anymore children...It doesn't bother you until you can't have anymore. Good Luck with your decision....BUT you will never know if you don't try

Heather - posted on 02/21/2009

Wow, now I feel like a complete wus for not wanting to have another c-section and the only bad part of it was having to be awake for the second one (the first was an emergency and they knocked me out.) I seriously hated having to feel them cut me open and push stuff around. It didn't hurt but I was scared and grossed out.

I would be even more reluctant to have another kid if I had been through the experience you had.

Marina - posted on 02/21/2009

Hi, I am so sorry you had such a tough time. I had a very similar experience. I was in labour for 3 days then had an emergency c-section. The hospital was useless. 2 days later I knew something was wrong as I had a pain on my right side, the doctors kept telling me that it was normal, 2 days after that the fever came and the infection rampaged. They cut the infection out causing me to bleed heavily, and refused to close the wound. It was cleaned with giant cotton buds and saline; also I had to shower with it. It was open for 3 months, I had to stay in the hospital for a month. I never gave up the care of my baby though it was very hard, looking back it was awful but I am so pleased that I survived and my baby is safe. I have already decided to have another baby, if I have another C-section then so be it. I hope one day you can find peace with what happened to you, I can totally understand your fear.

Pam - posted on 02/13/2009

I am so sorry that you had such a bad experience. I've had two c sections, but both turned out okay. You can deliver naturally if you have only had one C-section. I would call your doctor and talk to him/her about what happened exactly. I'm sure he/she could tell you what happened and how you can avoid anything happening like that again (besides not getting pregnant again). I cant even imagine what it would have been like for you. I hope that you are able to talk this out. If you still dont want to have any more there are always children that are up for adoption looking  that for a permanent home. Good Luck!!