The MUST Have items that aren't so much a must.

Brenda - posted on 01/03/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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So what do you think the baby insdustry tries to convince moms they MUST have? Big stuff and little.

Since we're all here, the number one not necessary item is a crib. But that at least can have some uses, but if you have restricted space like me, it really loses even those uses over the ease of bedsharing.

Changing tables. Along with cribs, how much money every day is spent on the "nursery furniture" that everyone has to have. These sets can cost more than a full king sized bedroom set with all the dressers and everything. You can spend oodles of bucks on fancy changing tables, hutches, etc, and some are dressers as well, so they offer storage space, but in general, I found them difficult and used them from storage from the start.

Wipe warmers. They're made cheap to start with, and you can rub a wipe between your hands to warm it if need be, but my two kids really didn't care.

Special Diaper pails (Diaper Genie, etc) with all their special refills. Ok, I know some swear by it. And yeah, if there are lots of poopy diapers, mine (a regular trashcan) may smell a little, but that's solved by taking out the trash. Why spend big bucks on a glorified trashcan, even if it does lock in odors?

Travel system: So I did it. I bought one again. But I ended up using the big old clunky stroller! I used it to bring groceries in from the car... :) And I used it a couple times when Nick fell asleep in the car and I didn't want to wake him by picking him up, and didn't feel like breaking my arm with the bucket seat.

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Jacqueline - posted on 06/15/2010

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i didn't use a stroller with my daughter but three times once when she was one at a week long camping event any only once then it got stuck in the mud and once at an air show when she was two so she could have a place to sit and once to go fishing to carry the fishing poles in not the baby when she was really little she was worn i have a few long pieces of cloth i have made into baby wearers no changing table i am too short for them to work for me but could see the appeal to an average mommy i am about 5 foot maybe 5'1 on a good day no crib this time i co slept from the beginning no diaper pail trash can works just fine baby wipe warmers seems like a fire hazard to me no dummies no bottles no sippy cups wow the baby industry lost a lot of money on me

Katherine - posted on 04/16/2010

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Constantly putting something in baby's hand....ugh I see it all the time, "Oh try this", "No?", "Try this", "No?", "This?", "Oh honey what can I do.....???????"


Leave me A L O N E !!!!!!!!

It's kills me, man. Just kills me.

Allison - posted on 03/17/2010

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I think it's sort of funny but also sad how people think they need SO much stuff - I think you barely NEED anything, right? Especially don't need a crib, but also a stroller or any type of "baby care" products, electronic gadgets or toys. There are a few "extras" we got as gifts that we found useful (stroller, baby monitor, Boppy pillow), but I think it's hard to tell ahead of time what will be useful and what you or baby will find totally useless!

On my list of necessities, a couple swaddling blankies, hand-me-down clothes, diapers, and a safe carseat - we definitely drive a lot. One last thing I love, my carriers! I use the Moby wrap when he was smallest, then an Ergo carrier til he was over 2 years old, and that was so great. But our nanny just used a shawl, towel or blanket to make a sling, which works, too :)

We also did EC part time, and used cloth diapers - so I think only a few diapers are needed if on a tight budget - that being said, I tried different kinds and bought WAY too many over the years - still less $$ than disposables, though! We used washcloths sometimes, but I also think disposable wipes are really convenient and softer - not just for babies but also for a sticky toddler :)

Brenda - posted on 02/18/2010

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I spent 100 bucks on Craigslist, sight unseen, for clothes sixe 3-6-24 months. A TON of clothes. And then bought a few onsies here and there. But these people that spend thirty to forty bucks on two piece sets for no reason... I mean I get buying them for pictures, that's a special occasion, but seriously. All that wasted money. If you're going to throw it away, donate to united way or something...

Ally - posted on 02/14/2010

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And the funny thing is, everyone LOVES to buy the cutesie baby clothes!!! I don't get it. In regards to the overpriced bag, I could see putting that money away for, oh, I don't know... COLLEGE? Or some other helpful thing like that???

Katherine - posted on 02/14/2010

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That is disgusting!!! $800??? I like nice things, I like 'good' products, but that is an exorbitant amount. I can think of many other things to spend that money on.

Ally - posted on 02/11/2010

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I know someone whose hubby "gifted" her with the $800 she had her eye on for months. Choke! Diaper bag, that is. Yeah, I was given a few. I have to say, I ended up using the freebie messenger style backpack they gave me in the hospital from one of the formula companies! It was black, no logos or frills, and it stayed in back of me when I needed to be holding her in the front, not juggling a stupid over the arm strap that wouldn't stay up!

I did love the Bumbo + playtray, though. My girlie liked being right up at eye level with me when I was eating. She'd rifle through the toy box next to her, show me, bonk me in the head a few times, and watch me eat. Toss the toy overboard and grab another. In 15 minutes, she could go through 20 toys in the tote bin. But in that 15 minutes? I could scarf down something to eat. Boy, we did a lot of that in the early days! Now she just climbs up on my lap during the meal!

I loved my Beco baby carrier. It has real backpack straps and a waist belt to hold your baby in a pack against you, front or back carry, snug up against you. My girlie spent a lot of time snuggled up against my breasts inside that pack when she was tiny. We did tons of walking with it, calmed her like nothing else, and I got outside for some fresh air with her! She was never a stroller baby, so that carrier was my sanity for a LOT of months! It was more secure for us than a sling, and the backpack straps provided the right kind of support so that it did not strain my back, unlike the Bjorn. I LOVED that BECO!!!

As far as useless? The crib. We never got more than 10 minutes of sleep in it. It moved to the attic without ever seeing a night's use after a very short time. I was so grateful it was 2nd hand from my sis!!! We are cosleepers, swear by it. Such special time every night! (Favorite cosleeping fact? People who cosleep discover that dates can happen in any room of the house, not just the bedroom!)

For us right now -- important item are the bedrails on the queen bed. Girlie goes from one end of the bed to the other before we're in there with her! Love them.

Hated the diaper pail. Stunk, didn't work right, PU. Put a tiny garbage can in the room with a lid and emptied it whenever there was poo. Much better solution!

Baby items are like wedding items. You get convinced by marketing and Babies R Us that you MUST HAVE all of this extraneous gear. As a new parent, you have no idea what you need and you're so sleep deprived, you can't even sort through all the gifts and the writing of the thank you cards! Sheesh. Marketing taking advantage of a vulnerable, nervous audience...

Oh, and why does EVERYONE love to give dressy expensive outfits to new babies that they will NEVER wear without spitting or pooping on in 5 minutes???

Ådd expensive baby clothes to my list of don't needs. I really appreciated the people who gave me clothes a few sizes larger for later on. I thought they were crazy at the time, but it came in handy when we outgrew the tons of tiny gifts and needed the next size clothes!

Geralyn - posted on 02/10/2010

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A $200 diaper bag? I remember reading back in '08 that most diaper bags have lead in them, and the pull out things (god, I have word recall issues...) that you lay the baby on.... I bet even the expensive ones contain lead and other toxins.... Hmmmm... I had won a diaper bag in a drawing, and it was very simple, and it has met all my needs.... I almost choked when I saw the prices of diaper bags when I was looking before my son was born. Do people really need a designer diaper bag?

Katherine - posted on 02/09/2010

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My SIL got a $200 Vera Bradley diaper bag at her shower. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boppy pillow-I sat on it after I had both of my girls, GREAT cushion!!

Mom Hook -hook stuff onto the stroller(purse ect..) Have one, use it

Belly band---it works!! Helped my back

HATE HATE diaper pails

breast pump----I had a hard time with latching for a few WEEKS(but damn it I kept trying and it paid off) At least I knew she was getting my milk and not that nasty formula.

Monitors--mine weren't worth a damn, I still got up and I wouldn't recommend them

Those toys that hook onto the car seat, I cannot stand those!!! Then those same people wonder why their kid is crying.....OVER STIMULATION!!!! Not a big fan of toys that do that.


I am done =)

Minnie - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Geralyn:

Oooh, I loved the bumbo seat. When my guy was little, too little to sit on my lap, we used the bumbo seat at restaurants. I would put the bumbo in the middle of the table and put my son in it. He would look like the cutest certerpiece for the table. He was close to us, at eye level, and could interact with us, and I much preferred it to any restaurant high chair. That would be the only time we used the bumbo, but boy did that come in handy! We did not use the bumbo in our home or anywhere else....



How cute, Geralyn! I bet you had more than one waiter and waitress who nearly dropped their plates doing a head turn at your little one's cuteness!

Geralyn - posted on 01/04/2010

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Oooh, I loved the bumbo seat. When my guy was little, too little to sit on my lap, we used the bumbo seat at restaurants. I would put the bumbo in the middle of the table and put my son in it. He would look like the cutest certerpiece for the table. He was close to us, at eye level, and could interact with us, and I much preferred it to any restaurant high chair. That would be the only time we used the bumbo, but boy did that come in handy! We did not use the bumbo in our home or anywhere else....

Theresa - posted on 01/04/2010

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I agree - Washcloths are so much better than baby wipes - less money, less waste, less diaper rash. We've also been trying elimination communcation. Em isn't diaper free but she does go in the potty 2-3 times a day which at least cuts down on wet diapers.

Minnie - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Brenda:



Quoting Lisa:

Swings, bouncy chairs, baby baths, exersaucers, gigantic designer diaper bags, nursery furniture, strollers, infant bucket car seats, matching outfit sets, baby shoes [gag]

And the 'don't yell at me!" items: baby wipes, baby monitors, structured baby carriers (infantino, bjorn, snugli), and yes, in some cases, even diapers.






What do you use instead of babywipes?  I didn't know there was an alternative..do you have something reuseable you use?






And I'll agree on the rest for certain.  Even if I get up when Nick goes to sleep or for a nap, I have never had a problem hearing him.  But then I am in the next room...  :)





Washcloths!

Brenda - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Lisa:

Swings, bouncy chairs, baby baths, exersaucers, gigantic designer diaper bags, nursery furniture, strollers, infant bucket car seats, matching outfit sets, baby shoes [gag]

And the 'don't yell at me!" items: baby wipes, baby monitors, structured baby carriers (infantino, bjorn, snugli), and yes, in some cases, even diapers.



What do you use instead of babywipes?  I didn't know there was an alternative..do you have something reuseable you use?



And I'll agree on the rest for certain.  Even if I get up when Nick goes to sleep or for a nap, I have never had a problem hearing him.  But then I am in the next room...  :)

Minnie - posted on 01/04/2010

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Swings, bouncy chairs, baby baths, exersaucers, gigantic designer diaper bags, nursery furniture, strollers, infant bucket car seats, matching outfit sets, baby shoes [gag]



And the 'don't yell at me!" items: baby wipes, baby monitors, structured baby carriers (infantino, bjorn, snugli), and yes, in some cases, even diapers.

Kylie - posted on 01/04/2010

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baby bath..just used the sink and the big bath
baby Bjorn... most uncomfortable carrier! used it once sold it on ebay
sleeping bags..bought a few never used them..my babies were warm enough next to me
i found my change table on the roadside..its excellent because it has lots of storage and lots of room for all the nappy stuff.. someone was throwing out a perfectly good white melamine change cupboard that would have cost 200 bucks..score!!

Sammy - posted on 01/04/2010

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For me personally:



A swing

A bumbo seat

A moses basket



I have the latter but it was barely used. I don't see the point in a bumbo seat and even if i'd wanted a swing, I couldn't afford one.

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