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Having a terrible time..please help

Shanna - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

I am currently staying home with my children. Two are in school all day and I have a 5 month old. He cries and fusses all day and stops instantly when he is picked up or held all day. I can't keep doing this. My husband is on remote and so I am alone dealing with this. I have aloud him to have cry spells for about 15 min at a time. He really gets mad when I do this. Has anyone gone through the same thing ? Do you have any advice or suggestions to why he is like this? Will I spoil him holding him at this age all the time? I am so distrout about it, I hate listening to him cry/fuss all day. He started doing this in his 4 month.

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Lennea - posted on 03/05/2009

My daughter was the same way. Sadly, nothing really worked but holding her. The way I looked at it was this..she is my last baby and I;ll hold her as long as I can. Before you know it comes the day when they want NO part of you..lol.

Susie - posted on 03/04/2009

Get a sling they are the bomb. Worked great for me for the exact same problem!

Viki - posted on 03/04/2009

My first was great, my last was well..... my last. Try a bjorn or back pack. You can get them for less on line. The backpack types are great because they leave you free to do a lot of things with your hands, just make sure you get an infant one as they make them for bigger babies too and they do not have the same support. DO NOT get the cheapest ones. They have very little padding and are not nearly as comfortable.

Liana - posted on 03/04/2009

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I agree with those who say check with your dr to rule out any illness but to me it sounds like the baby is bored.

My youngest was like that and so I started talking to him about everything I was doing, if washing up I'd show him every plate and knife and anything else and tell him what it is. So long as he could see and hear me he was alright.

I also played music and had a play mat for him to lie on and play with the different things.

It's very boring being a baby you can't do much. You can't hold them all day but you can involve them in what you do. I used to lie next to him and read him storis as well.

Hope this helps :)

Leann - posted on 02/24/2009

Look into the concept of attachment parenting. It may help you with some ideas on how to help your little boy learn to soothe himself. I'm not necessarily advocating the concept of attachment parenting (it's not what I did with my twins) but there's a lot of good info on this site: http://www.attachmentparenting.org/princ...

Parents who follow the concept of attachment parenting would probably carry a 5 month old baby most of the day with use of a sling. (Again I know this might not be best for you, I just wanted to offer the suggestion.)

Jeanne - posted on 02/24/2009

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My heart goes out to you sorry to hear everything is on your sholder's, hopefully you could get some outside help to keep sane.

The very 1st thing I would first is to check in with you family doctor just to make sure everything is good with you son.

To stop the crying do you have a baby swing that could help or go for a walk in the stroller or even a car ride is possible!

The outside help maybe sister/mom/aunt or even friends I'm sure they help or give you a little break.

I hope this can help! Good Luck! If your interested we can even stay in touch!

Jeanne

Tracy - posted on 02/21/2009

Some babies just cry and fuss more then others. I would first rule out that there is no medical reason for him to be so fussy. my first thought was colic, but that usually starts earlier and ends by the 6th month. Some babies get real fussy before milestones..like sitting up, rolling over, walking. Of course there is always the teething issue. I had 2 that were ok teething and one that cried till his last tooth broke through. It really could be a number of things. I don't think you can spoil a baby that likes to be held. He just knows what he wants and is telling you the only way he knows how. when I was unable to hold mt kids, singing to them or just talking to them worked...They just wanted to hear my voice...Good luck and hang in there, I know it can be very frustrating, but I am sure he will grow out of it.

Piri - posted on 02/20/2009

Hi Shanna,

Maybe your son just needs your attention. Try to play with him without holding him, just be with him, ans he is still small, only 5 months old, he is still a litle baby who is totaly dependent on you. What I found when my kids were smart is that if you are stressful, they are crancky, kids just feel it. So try to dig into yourself just because you seem frustrated with this. Loving a child you will NEVER spoil. Give him your attention. Your oldest ones are not home so you can give him all your attention.