Melissa - posted on 08/06/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
So my husband and I have been together for 8 almost 9 years. I have my two older children from previous relationships. When my husband and I first moved in together with my children, his mom was awesome. She took them everywhere and did so many fun things with them. She really didn't like me, but she was so good to my kids. We got married, and had our first child, and things were still tense between her and I but we had a working relationship and she was still good to my kids. Lately, she has distanced herself from my older kids and only really is involved with Noah our son together. So there has been drama over me telling her if she can't do for all don't do for any and many disagreements over the past 2 years or so. She has told my husbands sister and brother that my two older children have said nasty things to her like "you're not our real grandma" or that she feels like Noah is the only one who loves her. She also gave them the perception she was sending money and paying our bills and doing things like that which is completely UNTRUE! So I posted to her it was very unfair of her to do all these things for Noah and not the others, and it started a firestorm. All of the anger and resentment and reasons they don't like me has come to the surface and really I will never win thier friendship or liking ever. My poor husband is stuck in the middle I know, but I didn't think it was fair to make him choose, but that's what they did. What do I do? I'm really not a bad person, but his mom isn't going to admit she lied either. Is there any way to draw something postive from this or is it a lot cause?