Stylist to stay at home mom, you think I made the right choice?

Amie - posted on 07/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I was a stylist, I worked very hard and was good at it. Then I got pregnant and decided it was more important to stay home and raise my son. Soon after the father left me and now im a single stay at home mom with no job or a real way to support my child financially. I did however work my whole pregnancy up til the very end. So I have some money left to hang on to until I work again. I feel some regret though If i had known the father was going to leave me or I had thought about it more I would of worked hard to keep my job and send a baby to daycare, but then again how much would daycare cost for a lil baby and I heard I can get free daycare when he's two.

i miss my career, but once in a while I am thankful to do a few friends and familys hair here and there. I love my son and hes growing up quick and I'm glad I havent missed a thing in his life.. You think I made the right choice in leaving my job for my son?

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Gina - posted on 07/19/2012

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I believe that being a SAHM is great if you get to spend that first year with your child, because you strengthen the bond and get to enjoy those wonderful milestones that come along with the everyday tasks. However when your child turns two it's a whole other story! you will find that your child is ready for some structure, socialization and certain types of play/activities you simply can't provide at home for him/her. By age 2 they understand the concept of object permanence and so, he/she will understand that Mommy leaves, but always comes back for pick up hour at daycare. What I'm trying to say is, don't second guess or have regrets for having spent the first year of life with your child, you are doing the right thing. And yes! once your child turns two he/she will do just fine at preschool (or daycare) and you shouldn't feel like a bad mom for this, to the contrary, by working you are ensuring yourself and your child a safe and comfortable lifestyle. Your child will gain a sense of self sufficiency and independence, as well as learn to obey and interact with other adult authority figures,.

Janet - posted on 07/14/2012

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I have an entirely biased opinion on this... I had to leave work for my children after trying to stay at work during their father leaving me and both of my children obtaining a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder. Eventually, I simply broke down and had to leave work and I am very happy to have made the decision to care for my family first. Now that my children are getting older, I hope to return to work, even if slowly - so that I can return to what I enjoyed doing before I had children. Now, if I hated my job or did not find any pleasure in doing those tasks, i would be more reluctant to return.

There is no reason why you still can't be a stylist - just the same as there is no reason why I still can't do what I did before leaving my career. We have the skills, and we can return to work when we, and our families, are ready for us to do so.

Good luck :)

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