Wedding and or Pregnant?

Jessica - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My best friend is getting married the first weekend in October. My Husband and I have been planning to get pregnant with baby #3 this summer long before she got engaged. Their are two maids of honor and I am her matron of honor. Is it wrong to go ahead with our plans ot get pregnant and just be a "plump" bridesmaid or is that going to be hurtful for my friend?? I dont know what to do...

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Jessica - posted on 05/08/2010

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Thanks Ladies!! The decision may already been made because I think I may be pregnant now.

Renae - posted on 05/06/2010

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I agree, dont hold back on your plans! We are in a similar situation, my very good friend is getting married with in the next year (date to be confirmed) and I am one of her bridesmaids and we are also trying for our second baby. I let her know that this was on the agenda and she was fine with it.... it would appear that her other two bridesmaids are in the same frame of mind as well so she has the potential of three pregnant bridesmaids.... she is thinking of it as a positive fertility symbol for their nuptials if that is what happens! No one can make the decision on 'when' for you and a good friend will support your choice no matter what the 'financial' situation. Good luck with getting pregnant!

Melissa - posted on 05/05/2010

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Definitely don't hold back with your plans. My husband and I faced a similar situation, and the result is one of the best things that's ever happened to us. :) Also, you won't be too far along by October so most people won't even know. ;)

Jeanne - posted on 05/04/2010

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If you were already planning on trying for baby #3 before she announced her wedding plans I don't see why you shouldn't go ahead with your plans. I know that David's Bridal has a selection of maternity bridesmaid's dresses as do most boutiques these days. And depending on how far along you are and what type of dress the bride chooses then there may not even be an issue to worry about. Anything with an empire waist is always flattering and can do wonders to camouflage a baby bump. And these days it is also common for bridesmaids to have different dresses that flatter their body types the most.....I say go ahead with your plans. Good luck and enjoy both the pregnancy and the wedding.

Morgan - posted on 04/30/2010

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Well I am lost for suggestions, in my opinion anyone who wants you to hold off on your family plans for theirs is not a true friend.
good luck with whatever you choose to do :)
and if shes worried about your belly for pictures or somthing request a nice bunch of flowers you can cover it in the pics with :)

Jessica - posted on 04/30/2010

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Shes a wonderful person but shes an only child and she has no children so sometimes she dosent seem to get why I am so into having babies and being a Mommy. She has been with her now fiance 8 years so this wedding has been in her mind a long time coming so shes acting a bit selfish which I can totally understand since it is her wedding. She knows we want another baby and has made comments about asking me to please wait til after her wedding. Ugh!

Morgan - posted on 04/30/2010

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yikes I am sorry to say this
but if this "friend" judges you on what you think is best for you and your family why are you friends?

Jessica - posted on 04/30/2010

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No I havent tried talking to her because Im worried shes going to judge me (My husband and I dont exactly have the best financial situation but its our choice to make and we know we can take care of another baby).

Morgan - posted on 04/30/2010

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Aww how could anyone be mad that your going to try for a baby :)
she will understand, I was 8 months pregnant for my best friends wedding too and the best part about being the maid of honor is if your dress is a little diffrent its not a big deal :)
have you tried talking to your friend maybe your worried about nothing!!!
good luck

Tiffany - posted on 04/29/2010

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Hi Jess,

With all the cute maternity dresses out there I am sure that your friend will be able to incorporate your dress into her color scheme...its not a new thing ive seen it plenty of times....if she is your friend she will understand the desires of you and your husband and you can still honor her as a bridal attendant. Babies and weddings are fun times!

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