Ashley - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
I know this isn't really a Catholic question, but I needed some good advice from my sisters in faith! I have an extremely controlling father-in-law. He was really bad when my husband and I were getting married (to the point where he was planning my wedding without consulting my husband or myself) but we talked to him and just informed him that we were adults and we were perfectly capable of making decisions for ourselves.
And things got better....for a while
Now that we have our first son, the ugly monster is rearing his head again. It's so frustrating. He doesn't respect my husband and I as parents at all. He doesn't listen to me at all when I give him instructions while he's babysitting MY son. For example...he was babysitting one night for us and I had a bottle ready and I had back-up breastmilk just in case. He poured out the bottle that I had packed because he said it didn't look good and it was too old. (Ahh for those fo you that have pumped breastmilk you know it doesn't come easily) I've also caught him trying to feed him mashed up table food (vegetable soup). My son is 5 months old and has only had cereal. When my son was baptized, we had a little party after and we had a cake. My father in law bugged me all day about giving my 4 month old son some of the cake frosting, until i finally snapped at him and told him no because I was the mother and I didn't think it was good for him.
Ahhh....I could go on for hours, but I really just want advice. My husband agrees with me about his dad, but we are both so non-confrontational. How can we talk to my father-in-law in a loving way, but still get our point across? It's gotten to the point where I'm a little afraid to let him watch our son. Help!