My abusive Ex is falsely claiming Parental Alienation!

Jeannie - posted on 07/17/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a mom of 4! 2 biological children and 2 step children. My house is chaotic, crazy, wild, loud, messy and tons of fun. I wouldn't have it any other way!!
However I have been in court battle after court battle with my ex-husband. He has unlimited funds and enjoys taking me to court even though he doesn't win.
For 3 years I have tried to work with him on his issues and tried to preserve his relationship with our children. Last summer the kids started talking about physical mistreatment from him. We got a Guardian Ad Litem involved and got the kids in counseling. The mistreatment has turned abusive. The counselor and the Guardian Ad Litem have both recommended supervised visitation He has visitation all summer and one weekend a month per our divorce decree. After finally getting a hearing date the judge continued our case due to the letter from the therapist not being notarized and ordered the kids to go on the summer visitation per the decree. I have received several phone calls from my 8 year old daughter during this summer. She has been crying and accusing him of screaming in her face, hitting her and grabbing her hard. He has been restrained from physical punishment bu the court order. I called the police twice and they recommended that I call DSS. I called DSS and they opened a case. The police did not find any marks on the children nor did DSS. We have a new court date of August 25th. He is asking for custody in response to my request for supervised visitation. He is citing the call to DSS as proof of me trying to alienate him from the kids. The judge that continued our case is very pro Father's rights and usual sides with them. He has requested our case be heard before him again :0

I am beside myself. I do not know how to help my children. I have a therapist and a Guardian Ad litem recommending supervised visitation and this judge still doesn't think it's warranted. The ex has started the kids in counselling of his choosing but I'm afraid he will brain wash the new counselor as he is very charming.

Does anyone have any ideas how I can protect my kids and get through to this judge?? Right now he is not even allowing me to speak with my children while he has them this summer.

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Melissa - posted on 12/04/2013

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I just wanted to say I can really relate to this story. Except, as far as I know, my ex has not been physically abusive to my kids . I also am a mother to four, and have an ex with unlimited funds. I am also being accused falsely of parental alienation.
In your case, I would get my oldest their own lawyer. Coming straight from her, the judge may be more inclined to listen. I'm in Canada...laws may be different where you are.
It's really scary. It's horrible how they can continue their abuse through the children, and the court system. I wish you the best of luck.

Jeannie - posted on 07/18/2011

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Also wanted to add that i do have pictures of when he grabbed my daughter around the neck and squeezed. It was after a week at his house so the marks were not prominent by the time she came home but I did get a good picture of one of them.
I feel like the system is failing my children while protecting his rights.

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