Hope - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
I have a step daughter that has just completely over drawn her lines. She is three years old and has been with her father and i for over a year now. Her mother keeps telling her that she is going to come get her but never ends up showing up. The issues we are having started gradually, and now they are totally out of control. It started at first with her not talking and refusing to learn. Now she won't eat, she wont sleep, she is hitting people calling everyone names, refuses to dress herself, wash herself, she now refuses to use the potty and she was completely potty trained. She has told everyone including her father that she hates him and she keeps saying that she wants to go back to her mother. The reason why we haven't given her back to her mother is because her mother has major issues and can't take care of a child. We have a baby on the way and are really concerned that she might try something to hurt the baby, cause we believe all this is jealousy and she feels as though she needs all the attention and forget everyone else. I have been doing daycare out of my home and she has thrown things at infants and hit infants, so i have had to put her in a room by herself multiple times cause of it and the liability. I stopped the daycare for her cause we thought that it may have been overwhelming but nothing changed it only got worse. We have taken her to therapists and councelors, so please don't tell me that is what we have to do. When she is out around other people that don't live within our home, she acts like she is a complete angel. It's like night and day. Please can someone give us some kind of suggestions as to what to try to do, cause we are at a loss. We have tried what seems like everything except beating her within an inch of her life and that is not on the agenda. Please if you have any thoughts or ideas please respond.