Catreal - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 365 moms have responded )
I have read many blogs on here from mothers who are worried about the stepmom getting in the way. Well I am a stepmom and have been one for 6 years now,and let me tell ya the job sucks. You don't know where your place is with the stepkids.Mine live with me half of there life,so when they are here I am just suppose to step back and do nothing according to some moms here! I can't do nothing for one I really love them as my own,and 2nd I do have my own children to and I don't want them to see the other two getting away with everything. I am not an evil stepmom.What I do for my kids I do for my stepkids also. I am sorry real moms but I think I should have a say in rasing my stepkids I pay for things they do,I buy their colthes,I get there hair cut.I take them to the doctor,I help them with there homework,I cook for them I wash their colthes.When their sick I take care of them. Isn't that all things a mom dose? I wish real moms could see how hard some of us stepmoms work at rasing your kids!! At the end of the day now matter how hard I work at rasing my step sons they will always love their mom more!! As that is the way it should be,but I just want alittle space in their heart,and I do not feel like my step kids love me at all. There real mom hates me,and won't even talk to me! I am sorry real moms but if I am helping rasing your kids I think you should talk to me,why not you know your ex-husband is not doing all the work with the kids so why not try and get along with the new wife. I wish real moms could just step back and look at the step mom as a helper.The kids know who their parents are,and they have enough love for many people in their life. I am just saying if you have a good woman who is trying to help you with your kids why do you have to hate her,because you think she took your place. I have an ex to and I work very hard to get along with him. Anyways real moms can you just give us step moms a break. Not all of us are bad!! And my step kids do not call me mom either...