Being the birth mom does this mean I have to keep my mouth shut?

Niki - posted on 08/07/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Ok my ex and his wife and I do not get along. However if I say one thing that looks like I'm taking about them they take it out of context. I love my children and I tell everyone who knows me how they are and basiclly I brag about my children all of the time. Well now I find out that some rather rude name was given to me when they were posting something about our kids. I know I am my children's birth mother and all but should this mean that I should have to sit back and let my name get slandered just so that they can say their peace but I cant?

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Karri - posted on 08/13/2010

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If its not true why worry....If I'm called a thief and I'm not i don't give a darn...If someone calls me a liar and I don't....who cares if they do...names are names I don't really care what people that dislike me call me.......call me what you like....if I'm not what you call me ......I shrug it off....I know in my heart it's not true!

Krys - posted on 08/08/2010

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YOU being the birth mother YOU have EVERY GOD-GIVEN right....omw.......you can bet i wouldnt shut my mouth and i gave birth to my son and if any woman that was with his dad or his dad posting a name we would have words......although i do agree tht infront of the kids would be inappropiate....but, this is how i am if i have a problem with something i go to MY EX not some girl he has invovled in his life..but i am blessed we are still friends...but know being the birth parent gives you so much ....that is something no one can take or say you have to keep your mouth shut i wouldnt and do not:) Gl to ya:)

Ellen - posted on 08/08/2010

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You should certainly confront the ex and his wife about the name. You do not have to sit back and let them slander you. Just be careful what you say to your children and in front of them. Be the better person and say nothing derrogatory about their father or his wife. Go to court if necessary. Do not post anything in writing that they could use against you. Certainly print what they posted should you need it. And if there is anything you can do differently to get along with your ex and his wife, swallow your pride and do it for the sake of your children. I did it with my ex for my children and although I hate him and his girlfriend will not come within 100 feet of me, I do not regret it because my children are much better when we work together as parents as opposed to against each other.

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Suszanne - posted on 08/19/2010

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Unfortunately, you are in an undesirable position. I was also the brunt of verbal attacks by my ex to his girlfriend - in front of our children. The best thing to do is to talk with your ex about the issue. If it came from his wife, include her in the discussion. Tell them that talking bad about you only makes them seem petty and immature.

Document all instances of this occurring; it can help to determine there is a pattern of behaviors.

We cannot control the behaviors of others, but we can control our reactions to them. Be careful when you talk to your children about their dad and step-mom; if you slander them, the kids will suffer in the end.

Debbie - posted on 08/19/2010

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Absolutey no way, You say what you want, They are your children and when they are big enough to speak for them selfs and have a bit of life behind them then you wont have to speak for them, I am so tired of other women when they pick up with men who have children (myself included) not sticking together we are mothers and always will be , come on women lets stick together , my ex had two children when we meet, when he told her i was having baby she laughed i got very offended but 4 years later i get the joke , she knew befor i did what was coming , i would love to shake her hand because when my daughter was 8 months i had to run him out of my home, so no you keep talking girl , and be greatful he has an intrest in your children because my daughters dad is a no show a she thinks he is a god when he dose turn up but she will find out for herself when she is older

Marcella - posted on 08/19/2010

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Krys after reading your post no she dont have to keep her mouth shut for one and for two I am not just some girl involved in his life I am his legal wife three she stalks us to find information on us,four she has NO RIGHTS when it comes to MINE AND MY HUSBANDS life only IF it involves the children, yes maybe we should of not called her IT but does she have the right to call me a whore,b****,cougar and say I am the reason my husband left her when I did not even meet him till seven months after he left her.

Kristen - posted on 08/18/2010

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I am in a similar position. My ex is a truck driver and his now wife has my kids all of the time. She expects me to talk to her about things pertaining to the kids and not talk to their father about things. It really makes me so mad but what can i do

Marcella - posted on 08/17/2010

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not causing problems but in the past i have been called many names and never once have i ever asked if i have to keep my mouth shut, you said your peace to us and the name was not vulgar or anything to that sorts, to let everyone know the name was IT yes we should not have given a name like that, and we will change the posting since it has bothered her but this also means that she is again stalking us in the past i have been called a whore, b****, and a cougar by her all over the internet and also been said I am the reason my husband left her when in fact I met him 7 months after he left her.

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