Toni - posted on 07/21/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
I'm the girlfriend that has a teenager of my own with a boyfriend who has two kids ages 5 & 2. The biological mother lives 1 hour away in another state. The 5 year old begins Kindergarten this year. The biological mother agreed to let the 5 year old live with here with her Dad and go to school here because that's what the 5 year old wants. What is the best decision for the 2 year old. Should the 2 year old stay with the mom every other week and attend day care during her week for the majority of the day for her to spend time with him in the evening and see both kids every other weekend? Or should he stay where the older child is going to school (with me, at home) to establish more of a "normal" family type of environment, while having both kids see the Mom every other weekend or every weekend? The situation can be reversed to where the kids both stay with the mom and attend school there/day care there and see the dad every weekend or every other weekend. I understand that either way it is a loss of time with both kids, but should one kid be away from the other every other week because he's not old enough to attend school? One of the negative factors for the mom is that I am the girlfriend. Not many mothers out there would want the "girlfriend" to raise their son. Please let me clarify that I "the girlfriend" came into the dad's life way after they split up! I have had nothing negative happen with the Mom other than I'm the girlfriend to her ex. The kids adore me and my daughter, our home and home life. Please help make a healthy decision for the kids sake!