Birthday parties?!

Jennifer - posted on 01/17/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My EX (we are not divorced just separated) wants to come to our son's birthday. I am conflicted about it. I know Dylan would want him to come. I don't want to fight. So if anyone could give me their opinion to help me. Thanks


Kendra - posted on 01/17/2010




My Ex and I get along great now. I have not had him come to a party at my house but he has been invited to and has come to parties in public. I do not think anything is wrong with it. If you are afraid the two of you as adults can't handle it and cause stress to Dylan then I think you have to be honest with yourself about it. But if you two can make things work for special occasions it is the best thing for the children!! I can watch my kids play sports, or a play, or whatever, and my ex can sit on one side of me and my husband on the other and the kids know we are all there to support or have a great time with them!! Good luck and tell Dylan Happy Birthday!! :o)

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Lillian - posted on 01/18/2010




It will be difficult at first, I'm sure. I have 3exs to deal with on the bday party issue. I have one that we get along great with and it's no problem, cause we are all friends. I have my husbands ex who I just bite my tongue and do what I gotta do for that day. And then there's my 1st ex, and we made an agreement that he could come however, the first inappropriate act and he would be asked to leave. It is after all UR CHILD'S DAY, not your day, not your ex's day. This day should be about your child. Try it out, just explain that it's a trial run and provided things go well, the next year maybe you can plan it together? Whatever you decide good luck.

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I'm sure it would be really difficult Jennifer but unless you think there would be a scene, I would let him come, just for yr boy's sake.

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