Can a non custodial parent keep a 15 year old from their school sports activities?
Bekah - posted on 08/21/2012
The NCP doesn't HAVE to take the child to anything during the ordered visitation time unless it is expressly written in a court order. If you want your child in activities it is best to communicate with the NCP in advance and then use Friend of Court or some form of mediation to hash out an agreement that you can both sign and then have it so ordered.
At 15 a child is not old enough to say they aren't going. Yes a parent should listen but they don't get to say no they aren't going if it is a court ordered visitation. Legally, they do not have that right until they are 18 unless the courts and/or the parents say otherwise.
Good luck, I deal with this with my son who will be 16 tomorrow. When bio dad doesn't want to take him we usually will agree on switching dates and changing visitation so that I take my son where he needs to go and then dad gets him on a different date. I have to be flexible too though. Sometimes dad will want him on a weekend that isn't his and because there will be times that I will want my son during his dads scheduled weekends, I know that I have to be flexible enough to allow my son to go with his dad when he wants him as long as it doesn't interfere with a prescheduled activity. Sometimes there will be a conflict in our schedules and there will be two events the same weekend and I usually (depending on the activities of course and their importance) ask my son which he would prefer to do and I make sure he KNOWS it is OKAY to choose his dad over me!!!
It has taken me 12 years to get to where we are today but remember "The divorce rules" and being flexible and remembering that it is my son that is important and nothing else has been a huge help in overcoming stuff that has come up.
Vicki - posted on 08/21/2012
I was told that the courts will see the visitation with the NCP to TOP any other activity and unless the NCP agrees to take them they don't have to. It really really sucks bc I hadn't been able to put my kids into activities bc of this.. BUT they say that the relationship with the NCP is MORE to the child and so the activities, no matter how important, are second.. Sorry.. Unless they agree OR its written in your custody agreement they can keep them from their sports... :( You can fight it if its part of their grade but I don't know what the judge would say.
Michelle - posted on 08/03/2012
I mine need more info to answer this question. Is the sport held after school hours? If not the child should be in school not at home. If it's held after school hours is there a reason like both the non custodial parent working when the event is on, could you offer to take the kid so they don't miss out. Good luck.
Michelle - posted on 07/29/2012
unless it is specifically written in your custody agreement that they have to take them to those activities then yes they can however at 15 your child is old enough to tell the other parent that they are not coming because they have an activity to go to.
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