Kelly - posted on 08/12/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )
My ex met a woman about a year ago and moved in with her after 3 weeks of dating. She has a 7 and 5 year old. He and I have a daughter who is 3 who he has visitiation with every other wknd. Last October, he and his gfriend were arrested for severely bruising her son. One held the 7yr old down while the other used a wooden spoon and spanked him 14 times. (2x the child's age is the magic formula she uses). The boy said that my ex did the spanking, my ex and his gfriend say that she did the spanking. Regardless, they were both charged with child abuse. Since then, my ex's bond only allows him supervised visitation with our daughter.
Skip ahead to now...they are about to go to a jury trial regarding this. I have not allowed my ex's girlfriend to be with my daughter when my ex has visitation every other wknd at his grandma's house. He resents me for this and expects that once the trial is over, everything will go back to the way it used to be, where he and his gfriend have our daughter every other wknd. I think they are about to accept a plea deal to a lesser charge. My fear is that once they accept the deal, he and his gfriend will be allowed to take our daughter without supervision for his wknds. His family and my family think that I should do something to keep that from happening, but I don't know what. They think the gfriend is the problem and that he will do whatever she tells him to do. Can I get a no contact order against his gfriend with regards to my daughter? Can I ask the court for supervised visits to continue? Will a judge even grant me these things when there is only this one charge against the two of them? I don't know what to do and I'm scared. Plain and simple.