Shalon - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
So, I am not trying to start an argumentative post but really. What do you guys think...child support or none?
I have a court order for child support, when I moved closer to my ex, he had for the first time in our daughters 9 years of life a home HE provided!!! Wow! is all I have to say, so he paid a mortgage, electric, water, etc. for the first time in her life, so I verbally agreed to no CS. I only asked him to cover her medical stuff.
She didn't get insurance until 6 months after this verbal agreement, then a year later I found out she didn't have dental, she needed her teeth cleaned and I asked Dad, after a rediculous arguement, adn me offering to add to my dental insurance because he had none with his job, he told me he got her a policy, lied, paid out of pocket instead, whatever, it was his choice.
So, today I ask for $20 to pay a bill from the family therapist we'd all been seeing, we were to split 50/50. There was a $40 balance left. His wife says earler in the week sure I'll bring it over and today I called to see when she was coming and he goes off and throws in my face all he has paid for. WTH! I told him I wouldn't argue and I'd take care of it and got off the phone.
I am soooo ticked off! This guy took 9 years to provide our child with a home! While I footed the bill for the first 18 months with none of his help before I finally went to court for CS a few months after that he said since I have her almost half the time, meaning every weekend at his MOTHERS house if he could stop paying, I said whatever, I wasn't going to argue. Finally, I reinstated the CS after I moved which he allowed! Then he goes off to prison, and after that I tell the guy get on your feet, don't worry about CS you can just pay for the travel, which was far less than CS, then a year later he's complaining about travel expenses, so I said fine, I'll pay for half, you pay CS. Deal. Now, we move back here I forfeit CS again cause I was ellaited he had home and now I am having to argue and point out dental, and a verbal agreement to pay for this therapy stuff.
I still have a court order for CS would you reinstate? We are about to go back to court and I am thinking I should just have the courts amend the CS according to their standards, I am done with this BS....I mean really, I haven't thrown in his face the field trips, school supplies, clothes, and all the crap I've done over the years without his help, he has some nerve! and over $20! grrrrr..
Thanks for the vent!