Diamond And Rubies - posted on 05/10/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )
Wondering how others deal with blended families. ? Dealing with your own kids and step kid, partner's ex, the other parent, etc when things always aren't peachy keen.
Newly married with my kids and now a stepdaughter in elementary school. Her mom thinks I shouldn't be involved, and I'm just trying to be the kind of stepparent I want for my kids. I get along with my ex and the wife fine, so I find this hard to comprehend - not being kind to me,the stepmom etc. there's no reason she couldn't to a birthday cookout or communicate with me.
I understand her qualms,and I get no respect I feel. I take care of her and treat her how I want my kids to be treated by there stepmom.
Do I step back and not be involved like going to choir concerts,conferences,or taking her places? Than I feel that isn't fair to our relationship, my husband ,as his wife, or fair as a stepmom.
Or do I just say,Chet over it, I'm doing this too bad. I have the right.
I've been told she doesn't need to talk to me, I get that, I felt that way a little with my kids stepmom, but we actually talk and get along,ask questions, and are invited to our kids things.
If I'm the one caring because my husband is on business, why wouldn't I be phoned instead of him?