court ordered?

Chrissy - posted on 08/30/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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If something is court ordered, should you follow the court order even if you don't want to? For instance, if it is court ordered that you provide medical or financial things to the other parent, even if they just have visitations, should you do it or take the risk of being held in contempt?

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Chrissy - posted on 09/14/2010

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But the thing is, and again, I will tell you...this was NOT about you, so you have no reason to defend what this post is about......plain and simple. Now, please stop commenting on this post UNLESS you have something to add to this. You stated your comment, please move on.

Michelle - posted on 09/14/2010

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Yes you did and I said if it wasn't about me then I answered the question.. Deidre I dont like starting an arguement but Im not gonna let someone talk about me.. I know it was about me cause the day she posted it was the day after I asked my sons father to help with the denist.. means I couldn't find anywhere that was taking the medical card.. so Im gonna defend myself..

Chrissy - posted on 09/14/2010

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Deidre, I didn't start this post to cause an argument, I started this post as a question to see what other mothers/parents would do in a situation where you were being told to do provide information through the courts, even if you didn't want to. This was not intended for the other mother to take offense to it, and I explained it to her, a few times, that this was not about her.

Deidre - posted on 09/13/2010

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WOW!!!!! did not expect to see two moms having an arguement of something so personal on a public site...thought this site was meant for encouragement....feel sorry for the kids envolved

Deidre - posted on 09/13/2010

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why would you ever want to make it hard on the other parent? where does that get anyone?

Deidre - posted on 09/13/2010

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can you be more specific of what you mean by "providing medical or financial things to the other parent"? court orders are meant to be followed but i'm not sure why you would be the one providing if you have primary custody and he has visitation.....normally it is the other way around. so more details are needed to be able to give an educated piece of advice.

Pat - posted on 09/11/2010

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hi chrissy ya you should follow court order,even if you dont like it,speak to ur lawyer bout it,I wouldnt like to be held in contempt good luck pat xx

Michelle - posted on 09/09/2010

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well if isn't about me then i can help...
i would find out why this person is asking for help.. if this person has medical card.. i know here in IL its hard to find a place that will take it bc of the state not paying their bills.. but if its court ordered that the other party has to pay half then he has to pay half..

Arica - posted on 09/09/2010

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My children's father and I are not together. We were never married, but share joint legal custody of our 2 daughters, which means we have a custody court order to follow. This court order requires my children's father, whom my children live with primarily, to inform me of all medical, financial, and educational issues regarding my daughters. Even though I may only have visitations with my children, I am still given the right, through the court and court order, to know everything about my daughters because of the fact we share joint custody. True, he does not always tell me and I have had to take it to court countless times, but if it is in the court order, yes it needs to be followed or you will be found in contempt.

Marcella - posted on 09/07/2010

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Wow well I think follow things to a T no matter what the other parent does like you told me two wrongs dont make a right, Joel has to pay child support and she doesnt have to work so needless to say we support her still which is crap but I wouldn't chance being held in contempt hun gl

Chrissy - posted on 08/31/2010

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First off michelle I was NOT talking about you, you know its NOT always about you! And I don't run from the TRUTH, I don't spread lies about you, I do hear EVERY voicemail, see every text, hear every convo that goes on, so YES I do know what is going on. YOU need to stop plastering lies about me....

Michelle - posted on 08/31/2010

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Well for all you that are helping ms chrissy cooper i guess once again i will defend myself.. i do what the courts tell me to do unlike mr phillips.. and why don't you butt your noise out of my business.. what happens with me and keith has nothing to do with you.. and for your info i am waiting on the papers for keith.. they don't come over night.. and as far a medical stuff.. that isn't any of your business.. i do call keith and tell him and he tells me to fucking deal with it.. your not always there when we have confos.. so for all of you that have helped chrissy.. i do follow by court order.. mr phillips is the one that doesn't..

Rachelle - posted on 08/31/2010

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always follow what your papers say BUT in the case of our family it says my children are supposed to be at their dads everyother weekend and on wensdays. He lives in texas so this is not possible so we do what works for us. They go for one week every other month and he gets them the day of most holidays and i get them the day before/after. As far as financial stuff he finally understands that it takes more than child support to raise them so if i have any money issues he helps.

Chrissy - posted on 08/31/2010

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Ok, but what if you had medical thru the state? You wouldn't need to cover medical bills or ask for half. If court order states that one parent should tell the other what is going on with schooling and medical and just daily life of the child, should you follow what it says or make it hard on the other parent to find out what is going on? (No this is not for me, just wondering LOL)

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I follow everything in mine and my ex-husbands divorce papers when it comes to our daughter...HE on the other hand does not...it says that we both have to pay for half her prescriptions and hospital bills just in case she has a surgery or something...and he also has to pay for her schooling...he thinks the 315 a mnth she gets for child support should pay for everything he wouldn't even buy her a pair of shoes for school...thanks god my boyfriend loves my little girl as one of his own...and he has no kids...he gets her everything she needs...I never say anything to my ex because well he's in the army and he only sees her once a year anyway she's with me 24-7 and i'm so happy about that...thank the lord for that = ) But anywho if your baby's daddy is not doing what the court order says then talk to your lawyer or the person who handled it make him be held accountable for his actions...

Tamara - posted on 08/30/2010

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you need tp speak to a lawyer i take it your from america? only guessing. but yes definately speak to a lawyer about it they should be able to help work out what to do. to me it sounds like the other parent is trying to be controlling if that was my ex i wouldn't ge giving him a thing but then being held in contempt is never a good thing when it comes to custody of children.......good luck

Natasha - posted on 08/30/2010

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You should do it; it's not worth being held in contempt of court. Usually they will arrest you and it's usually a six month sentence if you are found guilty in contempt of court. My husband was locked up with a 6 month sentence when his ex wife had Domestics come after him.

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