Jodi - posted on 05/11/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I was very young, 14, when I got pregnant. It was my first time at intercourse, and wound up pregnant. Well, my sons father, I had written him, taken my son to see him a few times, his family would shut the door in my face, tell me they wanted a DNA, and tell me to never come back unless it's with the DNA results. I got tired of dealing with it, so I gave up as enough is enough. All his friends and people from around, which it was a small town, told me he didn't believe he was the father. For THREE years, I lived in the same house and not once did he ever come see his son. Now that he's older, been married and divorced, and had another kid, and now that my son is old enough to take care of himself, he's wanting ME to tell my Son that I didn't do enough to try to get him to see his dad, and that it's partly my fault for him not seeing his dad. I did everything I could think of, told him if he wasn't gonna be a part of his life, sign his rights over (which he didn't) empty threat as it could've never happened, thought maybe if I threatened it and he wanted his rights, he would come see his son; drove 1 1/2 hrs to hunt him down just to see him for less than 5 minutes and drive right back home, what more could I have done, besides go visit him in jail or write to him while he was in jail (which I don't feel is appropriate for a child to do when his father obviously didn't want anything to do with us)...I have told his dad, he doesn't want to see him, doesn't care for him, but he is adiment that he wants to talk to him. I gave my mom guardianship of my kids because I couldn't financially take care of them and it was to be temporary, but it's been longer than expected. How do I not let him put my son through this shit of he said she said and drive him insane like my husband's ex wife did to my stepsons? Why can't men and women just understand that when you leave a child for more than 6 months and no birthday or christmas cards, when the kids are older they have hate not love for them, and if they're gonna disappear for 6 months to 16 years, why not just stay out??? Or atleast grow some and admit responsibility for not being there? Why do they think they have to trash the parent that has been raising them for all those years by THEMSELF!!!!!! Child support, what's that???