Julie - posted on 07/14/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
my parents split when i was 8 months, my brothers 2 and 3 years. my dad left for another woman. obviously i dont remember the beggining fights but i do know what it has been like since my memory decided to work over time at keeping the bad memories alive. when i was 5 i remmebr we were all lined up in front of what i now know toi be the family services deciding where we would live. they asked john who said he wanted to live with my dad, james wanted to live with john and i was so scared and didnt know what was going on that i just cried, peed and said i want my mum and wanted to go home. all my life my mum has slagged my dad off and bad mouthed him every oportunity she gets even now i am 45 i think mother it was 44 years ago get over it you've moved on and remarried and had another son since. but she still hangs on to the bitterness and it has plagued her all her life. and i have no real relationship with my father because of all this. i have 2 children of my own and they have missed out on a grandfather because of the way it all ended. i see my dad and so do my kids but its not the same loving relationship it should be because of how they all behaved. please dont do that to yourself your kids and your grandkids. play nice and be amicable where the kids are concerned and please dont fight and bitch infront of them. your life will be easier and happier if you all stay not friends but as near as damn it for your kids sake. it has repercussio0ns down the generations till the day you die so think hard before you say or do anything.