Abigail - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )
I have been married for over 8 years and left my husband because he was verbally abusive and became involved with a mutual friend. I am now going through a divorce and am getting ready to go to court for temporary custody. I have not been a perfect mom, but I think that I have been a good mom and the kids have been around the guy that I'm with before I left my husband but haven't seen him since and don't know that I'm with him. My lawyer said that in some cases the judge looks down on women who have a boyfriend even though they are no longer with the husband. So I am wondering does it really make me unfit to raise my kids because I have a boyfriend while going through a divorce even though my kids haven't been around him since and I have been a good mom in every other way? And does that give my ex the right to take my kids?