Don't know how much more i can take

Laura - posted on 04/25/2009

I have been doing the courts they know he has a drug problem they know what he has done in front of the kids and that when he did have access he would leave them at home asleep and go out looking for me and my brother, it makes it harder as last year i was nursing my mum until she passed away in october he was very horrible and nasty to my mum and i so the kids have been through losing there grandma how they were very close to have there dad make a hard time even harder he even abused the day she died and at her funeral so as i said the courts know all of this he is not seeing them at the moment but i can't go anywere as he always knows were i am and turns up, i can't eat, sleep i am always on edge and i don't know how much longer i can take it as the courts said they are going to be giving him his access that he wants and when they do that my kids are not going to be happy and it feel like it will just go on for ever. Thank you for your kind letter and thoughts it means alot to me thankyou

Marinda - posted on 04/25/2009

Laura, use the system "courts" don't back down.. Domestic abuse is domestic abuse. You have to protect your kids.. Let the courts know what he is doing to the kids, and that it is unsafe for them to be around him. The court may take his rights away, or give supervised visits.. I am also a parent who left becasue of domestic abuse, and tried to use the system to protect me and my son. I fought and fought, and he ended up wining and my son has many many mental problems which causes him to take lots of medications. I feel your pain. IF you ever need to vent let me know.. May God Bless you.. I will keep you in my prayers.

Laura - posted on 04/25/2009

Thank you so very much for your kindness it's also very hard when i have lost my family and friends because of him to see the pain he puts his girls through everyday and not care is just breaking my heart i just hope i can keep going as i am finding it very hard so thankyou again for your advice it was great

Heather - posted on 04/25/2009

I understand what your going through. I left my ex after 9 years of marriage because of the same thing. I encourage you to to keep enforcing your order. Seek legal aid for guidance as he keeps breaking it and they may be able to give you other courses of action to take. I also had another friend who had to move out of state for several years to get away from her psycho ex. Do what you need to so you and your girls are safe and you can begin the road to healing! God's blessings, wisdom and protection for you and your girls. Hope this helps. :) Hang in there. Many of us have become victorious over this kind of thing and you can too!