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ex and the new guy in your life... getting along ..

Rochelle - posted on 04/25/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have been seprated from my husband for going on 3 years now. We havent gotten a divorce because of several reasons ( money being the main one). I have been dating a guy ....for about a year and a half. Hes great with my kids and loves them like his own. My ex has been in jail for the past 6 months for drug related charged ( hes a real winner ) The thing is theres alot of resentment on both my ex and my current guy Part. We dont really trust my ex to just take the girls with out us supervizing him but he wants to see his kids. any suggestions on how to break the ice and try to lighen up the whole situation ? I just dont want my Kids to be in the middle of a HUGE fight or anything happen.

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Stephanie - posted on 04/26/2010

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You could try explaining to your ex that because the kids haven't really seen him in a while why don't you all get together at a park or something some other public place...that way your ex could have time with the kids but you could be there to kinda keep an eye on things... Just try to give your ex a little space, try not to make it feel like you and your new guy are watching his every move (even though you are).

I know how you feel.. my ex and my fiancee loath each other and have since High school (which i didn't know till after we started dating). And they can't be in the same room for very long without them almost coming to blows (i'm not choosing sides but my ex usually starts it by making some rude obnoxious comment) so try not to let that happen. My fiancee tries really hard not to say anything bad about my ex in front of my daughter.. I wish i could say the same for my ex. but anyways...I feel for you.. your in a tough spot and no one can guarantee that everything is gonna go smooth. just hope for the best but prepare for the worst and keep your fingers crossed....I really hope everything works out for you.. it's hard when the kids get caught in the middle of this kinda thing.

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